Dating
How To
10 Tips for Finding Love on the 4th of July

Like New Year’s, the Fourth is one of those holidays where the hype always exceeds the reality. But that doesn’t mean you single folk should take it off this year, sit home and binge Killing Eve in your underwear. Independence is overrated! No, you’ve got to put on a happy face,  suck it up and work the […]

Personal Essays
You Don’t Have to Have a Dick to Date Rape Someone, You Just Need to Be One

The following is the story of a 30-something contributor who wishes to remain anonymous. I drove home from a recent Bumble date, crying the entire way. I had bruises on my neck, arms and chest from being choked and bitten. I bled for almost a full 24 hours after. It hurt to sit for days […]

Dream Interpretation
I Keep Dreaming About an Ex Who Wouldn’t Commit

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex & relationships. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri about dreaming of an ex who wouldn’t commit. I keep having dreams of […]

News
How to Write a Breakup Letter…According to Donald Trump

President Donald Trump just broke up with North Korea’s Kim Jong Un. After some smack talk from both sides, Trump canceled their much ballyhooed nuclear arms summit scheduled for June 12th, 2018 in a letter made public by the White House. The breakup letter is a master class in passive aggressive bitterness that could only […]

Dear Em & Lo
My New Boyfriend Has a Small Penis…At Least, It’s Small to Me

Dear Em & Lo, About six months ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 18 months and have recently met someone new. The other day the new boy and I were engaging in some hands-on action which led me to discover that he nowhere near measured up to my ex. The new boy was […]

Confessions
5 Reasons Why 20-Something Women Should Be (and Stay) Single

Edie Freedman is a student at New York University studying social and cultural analysis, politics and psychology. There she is a writer and editor for The Tab NYU. As a 21-year-old, soon-to-be college graduate, there are a couple standard questions I invariably get from extended family members: How did your mid-terms/finals go? What are your plans after […]

Confessions
6 Reasons Why Bumble Is So Much Better Than Tinder

Edie Freedman is a student at New York University studying social and cultural analysis, politics and psychology. There she is a writer and editor for The Tab NYU. In the last few years, a new dating dilemma has emerged: do I use Bumble or Tinder? While Tinder is the older, more widely known and commonly used dating […]

How To
5 Ways to Get “Hygge” or “Koselig” with a Loved One in Winter

If you haven’t been hibernating for the past few years, then you’ve probably heard of hygge, the Danish notion of coziness which has now become a lifestyle, with books, stores, and brands. (Etymologically, it’s related to the Dutch word heugen, which means to remember.) According to Meik Wiking in The Little Book of Hygge, it’s has […]

Personal Essays
4 Dating Myths We’re STILL Stuck With

Edie Freedman is a student at New York University studying social and cultural analysis, politics and psychology. There she is a writer and editor for The Tab NYU. There is no question that the dating game for young people has changed dramatically in the last decade or so, thanks to social media and quick, instant-decision […]

How To
How to Navigate the Crappy Holidays When You’re Single (Video)

Feeling down in the dumps because you’re going to be single for Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s? You’re not alone. Well, sure, you’re alone in the sense that you don’t have a cutie to go ice-skating with while clad in matching striped scarves from the Gap. But you’re not alone alone. Despite the onslaught of […]

How To
7 Tips for Determining Who Pays on a Date

Do people even go on dates anymore? It may be a dying tradition, but they still happen. And while they may be cheap, they ain’t never free. So who pays on a date? This is the 21st century: the old assumption that the man always coughs up doesn’t fly anymore. There might not even be […]

News
Why (and with Whom) Married People Cheat

Micki Spollen & YourTango discover why — and with whom — married people cheat.  We assume she’s younger, prettier and has a better body than us. We imagine she’s easy going, laughs adoringly at all his jokes and only sees his good side. While people who cheat have different reasons for their infidelity, one of the most […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Why Do Men Get in Touch with Past Flames?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Why do guys get back in touch with old flames? Booty call? Rekindle the romance? To prove they’re over the woman? Just to say hi? Just got dumped and need an ego boost?” Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): At the risk of […]

How To
5 Ways to Find a Relationship Right for YOU

James Michael Sama is an award winning Boston based blogger on the topics of dating and relationships, having amassed over 30 million readers in just a year and a half. Here he writes about how to make sure you get a relationship right for you.   Relationships are perhaps our most valuable asset in life, besides time. And […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Attractive Women ARE Hard to Get

Johnny had some pick-up-artistry knowledge to drop on the recent article “Do Men Play Hard to Get?” in which the author argued that the popular girls in high school play that particular game, well, hard: I don’t think those popular girls were “playing.” Up there at the top of the pile, they ARE hard to […]

Personal Essays
Do Men Play Hard to Get?

Rebecca Jane Stokes asked a bunch of guys, “Do men play hard to get?” Some of their answers will surprise you. When I first started dating I ached to be one of those girls who could play hard to get.  I couldn’t believe how cool and collected and seemingly not-interested the popular girls were in the […]