How To
8 Ways to Tell If You’re in a Healthy Place on the Jealousy Spectrum

Jealousy is rarely a black and white issue, and it is rarely objective, either. What counts as jealous behavior to one person might be viewed as sweetly protective by another. And what counts as a pleasing lack of jealousy to one person might be viewed as indifference by another. Similarly, what might be viewed as an […]

Wise Guys
My Boyfriend Ogles Other Women But Is Jealous When I Look at Men

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “My boyfriend claims it means nothing when he looks at other women, and yet he gets jealous when I look at other men. Why is that?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of […]

How To
How to Conquer Your Jealousy for Good

by Moushumi Ghose for YourTango Don’t sweat it. Does your boyfriend or girlfriend still have a relationship of a platonic nature with his or her ex? Does this relationship with the ex keep popping up in your relationship to the point where you feel threatened by the relationship? Do you worry about their past, and their history together? Do […]

How To
5 Signs Your Jealousy Is Out of Control

Kim Olver for Your Tango | Photo via Flickr Extreme jealousy is one of the most destructive things in a relationship. Engaging in jealous behaviors and suspicions is not cute. It does not let your significant other know you really care. And it definitely will not strengthen your relationship. An occasional, mildly jealous episode might actually heighten the […]

Comment of the Week: Missing My Wife Is Not “Immature”

photo via flickr Reader Stephen wrote the following in response to our post, “Your Call – Why Is My Husband Jealous of My Female Friendships?” I struggle with this as well. I too am over the age of 50, and don’t consider it “acting like a 3 year old”. After 20 years of marriage and […]

How Open Relationships Cure Jealousy

Reader Kristinopolis (who has written in other posts on our site about her experience with open relationships) said the following in response to our post, “Can Open Relationships Cure Jealousy?” I know why it works. When you are committed to one person, everyone else becomes ‘unattainable’ or maybe ‘unloveable’ in a way. Then there’s the typical wanting […]

Personal Essays
Comment of the Week: I’m Jealous of My Wife’s Friends

Reader Jeff posted the following in response to our post, “Your Call: Why Is My Husband Jealous of My Female Friendships?” We thought it would be a great jumping off point for a debate about how to compromise in a relationship when one person wants a lot more solo time with their friends than another. How […]

Your Call
Your Call: My Boyfriend’s Boss Sexually Harasses Him But He Doesn’t Care

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section. The letter is long this week, but it’s […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: My Boyfriend Can’t Handle My Sexual Past

photo via flickr Dear Em & Lo, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost a year now. We have known one another three total years. In the beginning of our friendship, I treated him like a best friend, and told him quite a bit about my sexual past with ex-boyfriends. It […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Vanessa, My Boyfriend Cries “Cheater!” on the Days I Feel “Looser”

photo via Flickr Every few weeks, Dr. Vanessa Cullins, a board-certified obstetrician/gynecologist and vice president for medical affairs at Planned Parenthood® Federation of America, will be answering your questions on To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Vanessa, My boyfriend gets upset that sometimes my vagina is looser than other times. […]