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Polls
Poll: What’s Your Favorite Fantasy?

There are popular themes that come up again and again in people’s fantasies. We’re curious if they figure in your dirty thoughts. We created two polls, one for ladies and, below that, one for men. If your favorite fantasy isn’t listed here, let us know what it is in the comments below! Check back later […]

Movies
Top 10 Reasons Why “Secretary” Is Better Than “Fifty Shades”

Okay, so yes, the Fifty Shades movie was better than the Fifty Shades book. But, like we said, the bar wasn’t exactly set high for that. And yes, the movie may help to make BDSM even more mainstream, just as the book did. (Now everyone and their grandmother knows what a safe word is!) It […]

Toys
Fifty Shades of Luxury: How to Shop for Toys Like Christian Grey

LELO’s 20-karat gold Luna Beads Luxe | Sponsored Post One of our theories about why the Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy sold so well (despite terrible writing and a thin, derivative plot) is that it’s dripping with wealth. The private jets and the fancy gifts and the luxurious home are like a spoonful of sugar that help […]

Pop Culture
Fifty Shades Parody Tells of Dungeons… and Dragons

Fifty Shames of Earl Grey is on sale at Amazon If you’re planning on seeing the Fifty Shades movie only so you can get your snark on, then we have a reading assignment for you. Of course, the web is littered with Fifty Shades of Grey parodies, but “Fanny Merkin” (a.k.a. Andrew Shaffer, author of […]

Pop Culture
The Original “Fifty Shades of Grey”

Earlier covers of The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty trilogy In my senior year of high school, I (Lo) read The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty, the first in a three-book series by vampire-genre goddess Anne Rice (who was a fave of mine at the time) writing under the pen name “A. N. Roquelaure.” Except instead of vampires, […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Love Can’t Conquer Kinky Differences

Reader Xena said the following in response to our post “He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla — Is the Relationship Doomed?” The LESS likely scenario is that the vanilla partner will have bsdm needs awoken in them with time. But I would not bet on that scenario. The other very important thing to note is that even […]

Toys
50 Shades of Play: A Guide to the Toys in “Fifty Shades of Grey”

Say what you will about the literary merit of E.L. James’s Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy, but you can’t deny the sexual curiosity they’ve ignited, the sexual knowledge they’ve imparted and the sexual delight they’ve given, where most readers are concerned. The result has been a boon for the sex toy industry, thanks to all […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I’m a BDSM Beginner

Lelo’s “Etherea” Silk Cuffs A female friend of ours, a recent college grad who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: I think I might be kinky. I know, I know: These days, who isn’t? With Fifty Shades of Grey refusing to budge from the bestseller list and Rihanna singing about how chains […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Should He Use Halloween to Introduce Her to His Kinky Side

photo via DailyBillboard We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below. I’ve recently started seeing a woman I […]

Dear Em & Lo
5 Quick and Easy Ways to Embrace Your Inner Dominatrix

Lelo cuffs from Eden Fantasys Dear Em & Lo, My boyfriend and I have great sexual chemistry and things have been going really well both inside and outside of the bedroom, but there’s one small issue: we’re both on the sexually submissive side. Though it is not usually an issue, it is clear that we’d […]

Personal Essays
I Attended My Very First Orgy

Our contributor Alice Hua, a freshman at the University of Pennsylvania, has a confession to make: I spontaneously took a bus from Philadelphia to NYC one Friday for a single reason: My friend Lexi was attending an orgy and I wanted to check it out. It was just a college themed party, so at first […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I Am Badass in the Bedroom

photo by Jason Clapp Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: “Abby, you never seem to get angry,” my coworker said to me the other day. I hate that scumbag, but all I knew how to do was smile. If I was in a […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: Do My Kinky Fantasies Need Therapy?

photo by Dale Gillard Dear Em & Lo, I have this really awesome, sensitive, caring, sweet, good-in-bed, blah blah blah boyfriend — I wouldn’t leave him for the world. I also have wild fantasies about being tied up, demeaned, beaten . . . you get the idea. Is this a problem? Maybe fantasies are not […]