Research
How to Study Sex Without Being a Sucker

image by Caveman_92223 As regular readers of this blog will know, one of our pet peeves is when scientific research about sex and love gets twisted and “re-interpreted” and boiled down and sexed up to make a juicy magazine or newspaper headline. (And yes, we have definitely been guilty of this tendency ourselves, at times. […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I'm a Female Ejaculator

photo of Old Faithful by Chuck Martin A college-student contributor friend of ours, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: I was sixteen when I first started masturbating. I may have been something of a latecomer to the game, but what I lacked in experience I soon made up in frequent practice. […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Kate, Any Treatments for Rough Sex Syndrome?

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston and she answers your medical questions here once a week. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, I’m a girl who likes it rough. Not a little bum-smack here, a little hair-pull there, but slap-me-across-the-face, black-bruises-for-two-weeks rough. The […]

Comment of the Week
Comment of the Week – Lips Don't Have a Monopoly on Kisses

photo by Ezyan Y. In response to Your Call: How Can They Maintain Intimacy If They Can’t Kiss, rhapsodyblue graciously proves that if you throw your problems into the community swap pile, you’ll most likely gladly take yours back. And the fact that rhapsodyblue gives such good, positive, supportive advice so gently, without telling the […]

Pop Culture
Books: Our Bodies, Our Junk

You wait your whole life for a book making fun of hippie seventies sex manuals and then, boom, two come along in a month — what are the odds? But only one of them includes the top five pastry-related euphemisms for female genitalia, and only one of them includes a suggested list of effective safe […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Why Do Men Deny Masturbating?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why do some men — single, married, in relationships, straight, gay, bisexual, etc. — deny masturbating?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of Swish): Are you serious? I’ve never met a man who […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation – College Shower Sex After Growing a Penis

photo by stevendepolo Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I recently dreamed that I went back to college as I am now — a twenty-six year old. I ended […]

Pop Culture
Was Facebook Created Just to Help a Geek Get a Girl?

According to the movie THE SOCIAL NETWORK (in theaters October 1st; we got a sneak preview last week), Facebook founder Mark Zuckerberg –portrayed brilliantly by Jesse Eisenberg — was just trying to prove himself cool when he created the site while he was still a student at Harvard. He was a geek who couldn’t get […]

Websites
Blog Snog – How to Turn a Walk of Shame into a Stride of Pride

photo by denis.todorut CollegeCandy: How to turn a walk of shame into a stride of pride. YourTango: 7 ways to stay positive about dating. EdenFantasys’ Sexis: According to advertisers, women don’t have — let alone enjoy — sex. TheFrisky: Instituting the 5-minute-rule. TresSugar: 5 first date nightmares. TomFoolery: The new in-thing — plastic surgery for […]

Pop Culture
Katy Perry’s Cleavage Knows How to Get to Sesame Street

Or rather, how to get kicked off Sesame Street. Perry shot a music video with Elmo for the pre-schoolers’ show featuring a version of her “Hot n’ Cold” hit, this one about playing dress up (natch). Sesame Street does this all the time — kidifying a pop tune with the actual artist; check out Feist’s […]

Your Call
Your Call: How Can They Maintain Intimacy If They Can’t Kiss?

photo by Ezyan Y. We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em […]

News
Al Franken Chokes Up Over Don't Ask Don't Tell

We should all be choking up, now that Congress has blocked the defense authorization bill (the bill that funds the miliatry) for the first time in decades simply because conservative members (and two Democratic senators!) don’t want to support gay rights, either because they think homosexuality is wrong or, more likely, they’re afraid of pissing […]

How To
Don't Be a Beauty Fascist When It Comes to Dating

Let’s imagine that you’re in a relationship with someone you really dig: they’re witty, wise beyond their years, and well versed in the ways of amore. Plus, their table manners are impeccable. And yet, you find yourself in the midst of what might be termed a moral conundrum. Your dilemma? This special someone is severely […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Joe, Is It Safe to Take Viagra Just for Fun?

Once a month, Dr. Joe DeOrio, a urologist in Chicago, answers your questions on male sexual health. To ask him your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Joe, Is there any harm in taking Viagra recreationally? — Asking for “a friend” Dear AFAF, So you wanna be a stud? Read this section before the erection… […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week – Only Petty People Overlook Inner Beauty

photo by sergeant killjoy Beauty is most definitely in the eye of the beholder! I had a birth accident that left me with a partially paralyzed face, but was raised by parents who treated me like anybody else with the potential for social success. Result? Exuberant, unselfconscious, happy me got real friends and boyfriends; the […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, Should I End This Relationship?

photo by indy_slug Dear Em and Lo, I have been dating this guy for about 3 years now. All was great, with the occasional mishaps for a while. We were more compatible than I ever thought possible. Unfortunately within the past 9-12 months things have not quite been right. Little things about him bother me […]