How To
7 Must-Have Handbag Items for Spontaneous Casual Sex

Straight ladies, if there’s any chance your evening will end up in a sleepover, transform your purse into a make-shift washbag. Even if there isn’t a snowball’s chance in hell you’ll be getting nooky tonight, carry these items with you anyway — because the best hook-ups happen when you least expect them. Compact ballet flats. […]

Wise Guys
What Guys Really Think About Short Hair

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Short hair vs. long hair? We’ve heard porno stars give advice to women like, “Never cut your hair short,” but then, they’re porn stars. What’s the real deal? Straight Single Guy (Mark Luczak): I truly run the gamut on this one. I […]

Sex Poetry
Sex Poetry: Chaucer’s Most Romantic Lines in “The Canterbury Tales”

It’s the bawdiness of some of Chaucer’s Canterbury Tales that stays with you from high school lit class (literal ass-kissing? come on!). But it’s the first tale in this collection of stories told by pilgrims lodging at an inn — The Knight’s Tale – that’s quite the opposite of bawdy: a traditional romance of courtly love […]

Wise Guys
Is There Such a Thing as Ugly Breasts?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Is there such a thing as ugly breasts, how do you describe them, and are they a dealbreaker for a guy?“ Ask the guys your own question here. Straight Married Guy (Ben): I’m beginning to think that breasts are to women as dick […]

The Myths of “Neat” Labia & Big Boobs in Porn

Emma P, the founder of and (both of which aim to show that body parts aren’t “better” or “worse,” just “different), took issue with a few of our points in the recent post, “10 Myths About Labia Debunked“: I do have a big problem with what you’ve written in myth #8 about porn performers: MYTH #8: […]

Why You Shouldn’t Depend on First Impressions to Find Love

By Julie Ferman for Why “slow love” is so much sexier than “swiping right.” Have you ever wondered if you’ve possibly missed opportunities to date someone REALLY great simply because they didn’t dramatically strike your fancy at first glance? I’m here to tell you … you’ve probably missed out on some wonderful potential partners. And likely, plenty of great […]

Wise Guys
What’s the Forecast for Manscaping?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What’s the deal with manscaping? We’re talking both genitals and chests.” Straight Single Guy (L.A. Chris): I think it’s great that men have taken an interest in personal grooming. Where’s the downside of shearing a chest rug or bisecting a unibrow? And […]

Wise Guys
Do Men Even Notice What Women Wear?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do guys care about what a woman wears, or is she basically just dressing to impress herself and her fellow females (and perhaps her gay friends)?“ Straight Single Guy (Chris DiClerico): Yes we do. We don’t necessarily care about brand names, the […]

Comment of the Week: 4 Ways Men Can Seem Taller

In response to a question from a reader this week about a study saying women are only attracted to men 6 feet tall and up, Johnny — one of our MVP commenters — propped him up pretty perfectly: HA! Bullshit. Short guy here, reporting that I’ve always done just fine. If you’ve got a thing for […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Much of a Factor Is Height in Male Attractiveness?

photo by Ranjit Laxman Photography We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own […]