Dirty Talk
Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Why Does My BF Ask About My Exes During Sex?

photo via flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. And frankly, this one is a doozie. Make your call by leaving your response in the comments section below. Dear […]

Your Call
Your Call: How Can I Talk Dirty?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I have a younger […]

How To
How to Talk Dirty Without Being Dirty

photo via Flickr A lot of people refuse to talk dirty because they are afraid of sounding stupid (see this week’s Wise Guys about what NOT to say in bed). But you don’t have to say things out of character, throw around more four-letter words than Gordon Ramsay, or speak in pornographic detail in order […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: What’s Bad Dirty Talk?

photo by Tim Morgan Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,”Is the word “penis” a buzz-killer during dirty talk? What other words/phrases should be avoided?” Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): Penis penis penis penis penis! It’s just such a funny word, isn’t it? Penis! And laughter is not exactly […]

How To
How to Have Phone Sex in 10 Easy Steps

You’re away on business, you don’t know a soul in this town, you’re holed up in your hotel room, alone and lonely (read: horny) and because you are a not a cheating scumbag and this isn’t Up in the Air, you pick up the phone to call your honey at home in the hopes of a little cellular nookie. […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I’m an Expert Sexter

photo by CoreForce Our contributor is a junior in college. And that’s all she’s willing to say. Except this… Sexting, for the uninitiated, involves sending texts that are sexual in nature. These can range from straightforward (e.g. “I want to fuck you right now”) to graphically descriptive (use your imagination). And, if you’re brave — or, […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Why Do Men Cat-Call?

photo by bobster855 Advice from three of our guy friends. This week, they answer the following: Why do men cat-call? Straight Married Guy (Figleaf): Oh boy, where did I just see a link to a TV clip of a woman walking up to men who cat-called her and asked them why?  (You can answer in […]

How To
How to Write a Love Letter, by Georgia O’Keeffe

Blue Flower, 1918 We’re not surprised in the slightest to discover that Georgia a-flower-is-never-just-a-flower O’Keeffe was quite the steamy letter writer. Her love letters to the (ahem, married at the time) photographer and modern art promoter Alfred Stieglitz have just been published as part of a new exhibit at the Whitney Museum of American Art. The two married eventually, […]

Do It Tonight
Do It Tonight! Make Your One-Night Stand a Little Naughtier

photo by Aoife city womanchile Next time you take a beautiful stranger back to your place for a one-night stand, use the opportunity to experiment with acts that you consider out of character. (And no, we don’t mean letting them tie you up — remember, kids: don’t stare at the sun, don’t run with scissors, […]