Divorce
How To
Considering Divorce? 7 Steps to Save a Sinking Marriage

by Susan Heitler for YourTango If you think your marriage is unsalvageable, think again. I’m a specialist in marriage rescue and I’m here to help you save your marriage. You can tell that your marriage probably needs rescuing if you’ve been feeling angry about what’s been happening and/or hopeless about changing the situation for the better. The good news […]

How To
“Unbundling” — A Great Example of How to Divorce Amicably

A friend of ours on Facebook, whom we’ll call E, recently announced in a status update that he and his wife are divorcing. We were so impressed with the tone and spirit of the message and the approach to uncoupling they seem to be taking, we asked if we could reprint his posts here. They graciously agreed. […]

How To
How to Combat the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse… in Bed

You’ve probably heard of “The Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse” — these are the four types of behavior that, when they occur on a regular basis in a relationship, are a good predictor of divorce, according to psychology professor and bestselling author John Gottman, Ph.D. According to the Gottman Relationship Blog, “The Four Horsemen typically […]

Pop Culture
The 5 Stages of Grieving Over a Celebrity Divorce

We know that we shouldn’t continue to be surprised by celebrity divorces, and most of the time, we’re not. Take Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner, for example — much as we (okay, Em: she’s the Us Weekly reader of the two of us) enjoyed the sweet photos of their “date afternoons” drinking smoothies together or […]

How To
The 5 Bad Words You Can’t Say in a Relationship

by Julie Orlav for YourTango Words are POWERFUL. Words can cut you, heal you and even inspire you. Learning the language of relationships and marriage takes time and diligence, but saying some words regularly may cause irreparable damage. Here are five words that are destined to damage your relationship: 1. “Never” Never implies a sense of hopelessness and […]

Your Call
I Married a Slob and She Won’t Do Anything Around the House

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, When my wife and […]

Your Call
Your Call: When Should You Go to Couples Therapy?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I love my boyfriend: […]

Confessions
Extra-Marital Sex: Ask for Permission, Not Forgiveness

Reader Vixen told the following cautionary tale in response to our post, “Your Call – He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?” Remember, dear readers: Most people find it easier to get over infidelity than dishonesty in their spouse. The sooner you say something — preferably before you actually cheat — the better. My […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: I Finally Escaped a 13-Year Toxic Marriage. Now What?

We get a lot of questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to respond to a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your thoughts in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I am 30 years […]

Dream Interpretation
Did the Ghost of My Dead Husband Visit Me in My Dreams?

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about love or sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty and/or romantic dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: I dreamed that my first husband, […]