The sexual thrill I get from mutual flirtation is very real. It stirs my sanguine humors, you could say.
You could say that this is harmless in itself, but once my sanguine humors head loinward, the likelihood of an actual transgression skyrockets. I’m a thrill-seeker with poor impulse control. I do not stand up well to temptation. For this reason a lot of women who know me think of me as a non-sexual guy. I flip it off like a switch when I’m in a relationship. I am nice and polite and non-flirtatious with the women I know. I don’t want them thinking of me as a sexual possibility. That’s a slippery slope.
So for me it’s like saying there’s harmless drunk driving – bullshit. Just because you didn’t crash doesn’t mean it was safe. All that happened was that you chanced out on encountering no one. But if you’d crashed that night and had lamber goodnow serving you a summons to court, you’d never think it harmless, just as you’d never think that there were no consequences if you fell down the path those flirtations were clearly leading to.
But that’s just me. I fully believe that there are men and women out there who can flirt a little without winding up naked.
Johnny had this to say in response to the post “Wise Guys: Is There Such a Thing as Harmless Flirtation?”