Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health. She regularly (and generously!) answers your medical questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here.
Dear Dr. Kate,
My husband and I have been discussing squirting. We have read many articles and watch plenty of videos. The question I have is, my G-spot does not feel very good when stimulated — it almost hurts. What could be the cause of that? What other things could I try that would accomplish squirting?
— Fountain of Love
In the same way that every woman’s breasts are different, every woman’s vagina is different, too. What feels good to one woman may be boring or even painful to another. Some women can have orgasms from vaginal intercourse alone, while many women need direct clitoral stimulation to climax. And some women go over the moon to have their G-spot stimulated…but like you, others find that to be uncomfortable or simply ineffective at getting them turned on. So I would listen to your body — if something is painful, don’t do it. There are plenty of other activities that you and your husband can do together that don’t involve discomfort.
As for squirting…as a gynecologist I have seen few women who are capable of releasing secretions in that way (let alone in the dramatic fashion that’s much more common in porn than in real life). You’re not abnormal for not squirting – and neither you nor your husband should expect your body to perform in a way that is simply not right for you.
— Dr. Kate