Dream Interpretation: I Have Sex with a Woman I’m Mad At

Strength and Patience by Hendrick Goltzius (1500s)

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I feel I need to set up this dream. I’m a photographer and I made a trade with a lady once: I did her pictures and she dyed my hair. Now she is impossible to get a hold of. I have her pictures but she won’t respond to me on where to send her pictures. She even gave me a wrong address. She was also supposed to do my hair again but has flaked on that too, so I’m actually upset with her. Then last night (I started my period the night before, if that has anything to do with it), I had a dream we were at the wedding of a mutual friend and we decided to have sex. I know this doesn’t make me bi, but what I don’t understand is I’m mad at her, I don’t feel close to her and we haven’t come together. I’ve had plenty of sex dreams, also sex dreams were I am the man, but this is the first bi-sexual dream. What do you think it could mean?

Lauri: I believe the setting of this dream is a wedding because it is connected to the “commitment” you and this lady made to each other. I believe this is a friend’s wedding rather than it being your wedding or her wedding because you are feeling a bit removed from this commitment now that she has seemingly not lived up to her end. In real life you did “come together” in agreement on your barter and you wish to “come together” again with her to “finish” the agreement. Sex dreams don’t always mean that you DID come together on some level but can also mean you need to or want to “come together.” So, I think your dream wants you to keep trying. I’d be curious to know if you had an orgasm in the dream. Typically – not always – but typically that can indicate satisfaction over something in real life. If you didn’t orgasm then it would certainly make sense that you are still unsatisfied with this unfinished business.

Dreamer’s Response:  Thank you for helping me understand it. That does make more sense, I don’t know if I orgasimed or not, I just remember it felt good.

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