Dream Interpretation: I Married a Stranger

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I had a dream that I was marrying a complete stranger. In my dream I was preparing to walk down the aisle but I forgot my shoes. As I was putting on my shoes I looked up to see the groom and realized I didn’t know who he was. As I walked to him I noticed my legs getting weak, I had to get help from one of my aunts to walk down the aisle. When I got closer to the groom my father, who has been dead for 7yrs, was there to give me away. There wasn’t a ceremony, my mom just had us sign some paperwork and then we were married. I felt nothing for this man. We didn’t even kiss. The whole time all I could think about was one of my close guys friends and wishing he was here. I’ll admit I’ve always loved him but we were only friends. After the reception I keep wondering if my friend was mad at me for getting married. So I decided on my wedding day I didn’t want to be married to my husband anymore.

Lauri: You have had the classic “mystery groom” dream that so many women before you have had and so many women after you will have. It is such a common dream because we, of the fairer sex, often struggle with utilizing our balls, to put it lightly. That’s what the unknown groom is in your dream… your metaphoric ballsy self. He is unfamiliar to you because you may not feel comfortable utilizing this side of yourself or you may not even recognize this part of you. But in the dream you are about to be united with it in marital bliss! What this means is that, at the time of this dream, you were considering making a commitment to this side of yourself.

You have a couple other symbols in here that point to a need to be more assertive.
Your lack of shoes = not feeling sure footed or not feeling comfortable “putting your foot down” and your weak legs = not feeling strong enough to stand up for yourself or not feeling strong enough to move forward with a decision.

I can’t help but have this sinking suspicion that your struggle to man up is connected to your feelings for your friend. Have you been thinking about telling him your true feelings? That would certainly take some balls. I understand your hesitation. At the end of your dream you made a decision that you did not want to be married anymore, which likely means in real life you decided not to pursue a romantic relationship with your friend. You may have chosen the best course of action. I can’t say for sure though. Maybe people can give you their thoughts in the comments. But just remember, if you have decided not to pursue a relationship with this friend, don’t allow your feelings for him to crowd out any other romantic possibilities for you.


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  1. I’ve had a dream of a stranger calling off a wedding. It was at a dinner restaurant and the wedding planner was looking for the groom and parents if the wedding is on. But they cancelled. The caterer of the wedding was looking for them as well. So the wedding was called off.

    My mum knew the groom’s mum. They decided to match made me and the groom. Whom I don’t even know who was the groom or his mum. I can see the groom’s mum clearly but not the groom. But I can see him smile from the side. Both our mums approved us to be together. But it’s weird that the groom just called off a wedding and accepted me. The groom agrees to get to know me more. And it felt like it’s fate?
    What could this dream mean?

  2. I had a dream similar but the story was mixed up. In the dream, I wasn’t in a relationship but wanted to get married, so my family set up an arranged marriage with a stranger around my age. Before the wedding though, I was driving around with a few friends in a convertible and they kept asking me if I was “wet”. I didn’t answer and drove by my old highschool. Then I was in the wedding, to look down the isle to find my arranged husband. After the vows. We didn’t even kiss we were just married. Then at the after party( which was at the beach at night)I was wrapping my arms around him, acting all happy. Such a confusing dream but that’s dreams for ya XD

  3. The first time I dreamt that I was supposed to get married to a friend who never showed up for the wedding. The second time I had such a dream I was forced to marry a stranger but I refused at the last minute but still the ceremony went on without me so someone advised me to sabotage the wedding where I failed terribly

  4. Oh. My. God. I had a similar dream.

    I was to wed some man I’d only seen pictures of. My friends and family arranged it.
    When I got to the alter he wasn’t there and I also was barefoot. Before I’d walked down the aisle I struggled to put shoes so I said forget it and went bare. Once at the front the preacher was barefoot too.
    Anyways my soonbto be husband wasn’t there. He was being held captive by about 3/4 men.

    I forgot what happened but he broke feee and we wed. Then I began dreaming of our future. It was actually great. He seemed to love me and he was such a sweetheart. Then we had a baby boy. He was so cute! I thoroughly enjoyed the dream.

    I am certainly not ballsy. I’m a people pleaser and 10 out of 10 times I take the short end of the stick.

  5. I had a dream where I was going to marry someone. Someone I’ve never seen in my life. They were going to play a video of us I suppose like a side show and I could hear myself thinking to myself that I was unsure. Then I told whomever to cut it and I went for it. Grabbed the tape and went over the my future husband I suppose and said I was sorry. That he’s a great guy and all the things you say to someone you’re leaving. I could feel that he wasn’t who I loved. I could tell he knew the second I walked over to him that he knew what I was going to say. After that I made my rounds to his family apologizing for everything. In the dream I was more broken up about not seeing his dog again than him.

  6. I dreamed I married one of my friends best friend. I had only seen her a few times,(mutual friend) but had never spoken to her. Just this weekend did I actually get into small talk with her. All I can I remember from the dream was that we were both at the alter smiling at each other ready to say “I do”. What does all that mean.

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