Dream Interpretation: My BF Dreamed We Had a Threeway

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri:

Technically, this isn’t my dream, it’s the dream of a guy I’ve recently started to become intimate with. We were introduced by one of his close mutual friends (who is also a close friend of mine) at a college social function and went from there. Recently, he told me of a very bizarre dream that unsettled him. In this dream he, I, and the mutual friend were at the beach. Some way or another, the three of us ended up having a threesome on the beach. My guy friend woke up and was angry at our mutual friend. What does the dream mean?

Lauri Typically, the emotion we wake up with can be connected to that same emotion we are having over something in our waking life, so you’ll have to ask your boyfriend what, at the time of this dream, was angering him in real life.

The threesome could mean he feels your mutual friend is getting in the middle of your and his business in some way. Is your mutual friend being a little too nosy or taking too much credit for the relationship? Or perhaps your mutual friend represents friendship in general, in which case the threesome suggests your boyfriend feels that there is friendship and intimacy within your relationship.

Remember, sexual activity in a dream is more about incorporating that which you need into your life or into your self rather than it being about physical desire… which leads me to believe that the anger aspect of the dream could also mean that your boyfriend is struggling with the idea of friendship vs. intimacy with you. Perhaps he’s worried if things don’t workout that the friendship between the two of you will be lost.

Hopefully this has given you some good talking points to go over with your boyfriend and the two of you can figure it out together. Discussing your dreams with each other is a great way to stay plugged in!

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