Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri:
I have had a crush on a co-worker for months, but I’ve been in a monogamous relationship this whole time. As far as I know he’s single, but he’s higher up than I am. We’re on good terms, but have never done anything alone together, just been at company parties together and talked a bit. I’ve had several dreams about him. The first involved him inviting me to his new apartment which was spacious and sunny; we went out on the balcony and saw people showering in the yard, then went inside and made out. The most recent dream, right after having pretty passionate sex with my real partner, entailed him inviting me over to “cook multiple eggs”; at one point he juggled the eggs and after that we had sex. It also seems my partner existed in the realm of the first dream and I felt guilty for cheating, but my partner didn’t exist in the second dream at all. The weekend of the second dream we had a condom issue and I had to get Plan B, so I was worried about eggs in a vague way and also ate duck eggs for the first time. I was angry at my partner, too, because he thought I was getting too upset about needing to get Plan B for the second time in a few years.
Lauri: “We always long for the forbidden things, and desire what is denied us.” So sayeth French writer Francois Rabelais. When we cannot get what we want in waking life, the dreaming mind will kindly compensate, and your dreams are fine examples of that. In your first dream you are invited to your crush’s new apartment because in waking life you desire to be invited into his life. His apartment is spacious and sunny because you may very well have hidden hope that he has space for you in his heart and hope for a bright future with him.
The showering people are interesting! They are showering out in the open which is very symbolic of “coming clean” and getting your feelings “out in the open.” That is why the next thing you do is make out. Kissing in a dream can always be connected to conversation in waking life, conversation that recently happened or conversation that needs to happen.
In the second dream, the “multiple” eggs have multiple relevance. Of course, they are connected to your fear that one of your own eggs may be in danger of fertilization. Then there is the connection of trying duck eggs for the first time, and then the third connection is to the old saying “Don’t put all your eggs in one basket.” You have a crush on another guy and were mad at your guy at the time of this dream. It’s only natural to – at least subconsciously – wonder what another’s basket may be like. And your crush juggles the eggs because… well, when one takes action on their forbidden desires for another, some careful juggling must be done. Just ask Tiger!
But rather than attempting to do a dangerous juggle, you may want to do some introspection first and ask yourself which desire is stronger, the desire for someone else or the desire to continue your current relationship. Just remember, it’s called a crush for a reason… sometimes it’s not reciprocated.
Response from dreamer: Thank you! Sometimes things are obvious once someone else tells us them.