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1. I have never cheated but have been cheated on recently. I visited unannounced. What a jackarse!! He never admitted he was wrong and blamed me for finding out. JERK! Any legbreakers out there…..?? lol. I still would never cheat.

2. I cheated all the time with each and every guy I have been with. Why be faithful to a guy when he’s out with his friends. As long as he doesn’t know and I don’t know I don’t care.

3. do legal brothel’s in europe count as cheating on a wife, haha.

4. i cheat quit often im stuck in a relationship with binding circumstances i love the attention i get from others i cant help myself….some advice live before love!!!!!

5. I cheated a few times. 5 times to be exact. 4 times on one of ex bfs who died last year, because he was cheating on me. and was never home when i tried to break it off with him. so with 4 different guys i use to talk to, i cheated on him with. had sex once and just made out the other times. i dnt regret doing it. and i cheated last year on current ex boyfriend on the man i’m with now. he was a punk and couldn’t hold his own. i mean i heard of a mama’s boy, but this was a daddy’s boy. i couldn’t handle it. and i have been with my current boyfriend for a little over a year and not once has cheating crossed my mind. i found the right one.

6. I’ve only cheated once. I was a freshman in college and my boyfriend, who was about 16 hours away from me, kept accusing me of cheating. No matter what I said, he wouldn’t believe me, so I decided if I was going to be punished I might as well have the fun of doing the crime. That was the only time though. In the rest of my relationships, if I wasn’t feeling it, Id just dump them and move on.

7. ^^ That’s just sad, my man. No, you are not a cheater. You are a cuckold. And you don’t even see it. You’re sitting there wondering if you’re somehow guilty of wrongdoing, when your wife has had THREE AFFAIRS AT LEAST.

   You will not “reconcile” anything, least of all through communication. Communication will only further highlight your spinelessness.

   Your wife LIKES cheating. These are your options:

   1. Divorce her, cause she’ll never, ever respect you. And why would she? You sound like a doormat.

   2. Open the relationship. Make good on some of your sissy “emotional affairs” and get yours, just like she’s getting hers.

   3. Get in touch with your inner cuckold fetishist and actually get off on the thought of her with other men.

   You can’t possibly fix a marriage when you yourself are in such a pitiful state. Your testicles need to descend before you even consider being with a woman like that. That’s something you may need to work out on your own, sans cheating wife.

   Sorry for the tough love dude, but I really winced reading that.

8. I have never cheated on my husband, nor he on me. We had an Open Relationship for about 5 or 6 years when we were younger, and I think we got it out of our systems. We have been monogamous since our commitment at the end of the Open Relationship over 20 years ago.

   Temptation is always there, but the Love and commitment we have for each other is more important than a few hours of play that could destroy a good thing. Plus, if a couple has sex often and has GOOD sex, and keeps the lines of communication open there is rarely a reason to cheat, IMO. (And yes, that means TALKING about SEX. No relationship survives healthily if this isn’t discussed frequently.) I keep My Man too damn fatigued from our being together frequently for him to even think about it. LOL! (And, I guess he does the same for me.)

   I have a problem understanding people who stop having sex a year or less into a marriage, did you NOT know the person had a much lower sex drive than you did? Did you assume it would simply “change?” (things don’t) Did you not bother to find OUT? Did your partner actually “change?” (A rapid change in sex drive can be a serious physical or psychological issue that should not be put aside.)

   As I have said before, you wouldn’t buy a car without a test drive or a house without a walk through and and inspection WHY would someone get into something as serious as marriage without knowing their partner’s sexual feelings, actions, how high they put sex on the “Importance” scale in their life and their and your desire for frequency, and whether the two of you are sexually compatible? If you weren’t sexually compatible for at least 2 years before the white dress and the church, things aren’t going to change after the wedding.

   Also, I see a HUGE difference between the “boyfriend of a month” and a marriage. You don’t know someone after only a month, I don’t understand how anyone would decide to be exclusive after such a short period of time. Did you and this man TALK about being exclusive? After only (or less) a MONTH of dating? Sorry, I can’t wrap my head around some things. If you haven’t discussed it, and don’t know each other well, you cannot assume it is an exclusive relationship! And in most cases a month is MUCH too short to know someone well enough to be exclusive.

   I don’t consider this “cheating” because I doubt there was any discussion of exclusivity and without that discussion and agreement, there is NO exclusivity. Just someone calling someone “my boyfriend” does not mean it is a monogamous relationship.

   There is a lot more to a long term relationship than words. Both people have to agree that this is “it” for both of you. ONE person cannot decide and expect that the other person is simply “thinking” what you are. Monogamy is serious. It takes maturity, commitment, experience and dedication. It also takes discussion and an AGREEMENT. I know I wouldn’t agree to monogamy with someone after only a month of dating, there are too many variables in the beginning of a relationship, and it takes longer than a month to KNOW that person in a serious romantic sense (even if you have known each other before hand) to leap into something that isn’t ripe enough to make important decisions, like monogamy, about.

   JMO.

9. There is no option in this poll for emotional affairs, which I have had many, but no physical affairs. My wife of 15 yrs has admitted to 3 physical affairs, but I think that the number is higher, plus numerous emotional affairs as well. We are reconciling and communication is definitely the key to EVERYTHING!!! but, am I a never or considered a cheater??? hmmm…

10. Slartibartfast, you sound attractive to me. If I were in a relationship, I might consider cheating with you. I’m being completely serious. When I was married I cheated and I hated myself for it. My husband was in a deep depression for our entire marriage and I was so painfully lonely because he didn’t want anything to do with me emotionally or physically. So I succumbed. I have learned a lot since then and with the complete understanding as to what was going on, I can say most assuridly I will never be in a relationship that would drive me to it again.

11. well truthfully i haven’t cheated on any of my previous relationships they mostly did it themselves at times i wasn’t even aware of it even happening under the radar … but they later learned that karma is the biggest bitch ever that came sooner or later to bite them back in the asses in the end lol now look whos laughing now …. but even though i had my faults i am just trying to see if there is actually a guy out there for me that has his head on his shoulders and knows what he wants in life instead of lame excuses and brain farts …

12. i have twice now, thefirst time my boyfriend of 2 years lost the warmth he had in the proir years and i found myself hooked to a guy who only lasted 3 months. after reconciling with my very first boyfriend again, i meet another guy who i dont want to lose

13. have never cheated but have been cheated on twice. is a painfully,hurtful time. and as usual was with a good friend

14. Hey Slartibartfast, sorry GF1 didn’t work out, sounds like it was really special. Good luck, especially with the fjords…

15. Looks like you guys cheat when there is no communication within the relationship. I bet you think you are the only one who is cheating on your Sig.Other, but maybe they are cheating on you too. Just talk, see what’s up, see if the relationship can change. If not, break up. Better than bringing home an STD and give it to your partner. Nobody likes a cheater, and nobody likes to be cheated on. If you find yourself hard to be monogamous, be poly amorous.

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