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1. Well, when I got married in November, and had sex a few time then, and no more from mid-December to March, well yeah. I did find someone else. He said it was just differing sex drives. After a few years, i just had to find out if I was still physically attractive to a man. Yes, it was an act f poor character. No, it did not happen in a vacuum. He was only interested in sex once every 3-4 months, sometimes less. I’m a three or four times a week girl. Still, I stayed with him because I married him. Stupid me, Took 16 years to divorce him.

2. Cheaters, have no respect for anyone, including themselves. They are infact AB– USERS….

   I worked hard at having a good marriage, at the end of 20 years. I learned, he had cheated on my numerous times over the 20 years. I was a trusting person, not anymore. I have worked very hard, and have been told I am very attractive. But all of that did not matter, he was mean and became meaner with each affair. I struggled trying to figure out what was wrong. He was wrong. It had nothing to do with me.

   What does have to do with me, is we have a 6 year old daughter who is heart broken because of what he did. I have had my heart shattered and crushed. I did everything to be a good and loving wife, he did everything to make me feel bad about myself, because of his behavior. It is a sickness and I believe all cheater have mental problems.

   What is left is the spouse who has been cheated on trying to sort out the feelings and work threw them in a positive manner. Try to help your children deal with the issue in a positive manner so they don’t grow up and do the same kind of poor behavior of abuse to their spouse.

   But in the end, now he is wanting to come back and I will not have him back. He is not worth the heart break and pain he has caused. Trying to put my life back together and give my daughter the security that he stole from her when he cheated on me.

   Cheaters never win, nor do their families. All that happens is a lot of pain, that is the truth about cheaters.

3. cheaters SUCK!!!!! get a set of balls what goes around comes arounds in a ten fold!!!!
   may you find the love of your life the one that makes your world spinn, may that person cheat on you!!! and if your a cheater and have kids may thay marrie some one like you!!!! then maybe you will see and feel the hurt that you caused some one eles in your child’s eye when they come crying to you. any S.T.D.?

4. Cheating on your significant other because they cheated on you first is not justification. That’s rationalization in order to make what you did feel/seem less wrong. Wrong is wrong, and two wrongs don’t make a right. I thought we all learned this is kindergarten, but I guess the lesson failed to stick for some people.

5. I kind of agree with Karen. At the end of the day as long as the other person is none the wiser, I don’t think there is any harm–although now I generally try to be up front with girlfriends that I am seeing other people. I’ve pretty much cheated on every girlfriend I have ever had though. At first I thought I had real issues and and a sex addiction, but then I realized I;m just a guy who really likes to have sex and sad as it is to say, it gets boring with one person. On the flip side, I wouldn’t be too fussed if I found out a gf had cheated on me. I’m sure lots of people will disagree with this and say nasty things, but what I am saying is about as honest as it gets. As for all the comments saying that a good sex life means you won’t stray, that’s rubbish. Having sex with multiple people is not just great fun but it meets certain needs. I love Japanese food. In fact, I love Japanese food more than every other food in the world. Does that mean I want to eat Japanese food every day? Hell no! I do enjoy a nice bit of Italian or Chinese once in a while–and even on the rare occasion a hamburger at MacDonalds is nice!

6. I’m going through the same situation as Anna. I don’t think it’s cheating, because you’re taking a break from the relationship, which means you’re single for a while but one day you’ll have to talk about getting back together or breaking up for real.
   The only problem is when you fall in love with the 2nd guy. Then things can get really complicated… I really love my “boyfriend” but I also feel something for the other guy and now I’m really confused.

7. I have once on my current bf when we were going through a rough patch. It was bad but at the same time it was a good thing because it really made me realize that the grass isn’t greener on the other side and that deep down my bf is the one that I love and care for deeply. I regret it, but at the same time I wonder what would have happened if it didn’t happen. P.S. He never found out.

8. Well me and my boyfriend took a break because it seemed to me as if he was wayy to busy to be involved in me, the way i needed him to be. In the midst of all this another guy came into my life and filled all the voids that my boyfriend left in my life. He made me feel special, beautiful, and important to him. We ended up hooking up during me and my boyfriends break. My boyfriend found out about it and spazzed, im still denying it til this day. But if i hooked up with someone while me and him were on a BREAK; is it still concidered cheating???

9. I cheated once, and never again. In my case (I know it doesn’t sound real, but what can I do…) I was on vacation with this guy in the wilderness (I kid you not) without cell reception or access to any sort of communication and on a whim I agreed to be his girlfriend. Bad decision all around, and I knew it nearly immediately. He left and an old guy friend of mine came, and I ended up cheating on my new boyfriend with him. I broke up with my boyfriend the minute I got cell reception.

10. I HAD 3 SERIOUS RELATIONSHIPS AND I CHEATED ON ALL OF THEM, MY FIRST BOYFRIEND WAS A FLIRT AND ON AN ARGUMENT HE DECIDED TO MAKE OUT WITH ANOTHER GIRL, WHEN HE CONFESED I LOST ALL MY RESPECT, THEN HE DIDNT WANT TO BREAK UP, BUT IT WAS TO LATE, I CHEATED WITH FOUR DIFFERENT GUYS AND TOLD HIM, MY 2ND RELATIONSHIP DID THE SAME, CHEATED ON ME SO WHEN WERE ABOUT TO BREAK IT I FELT IN LOVE WITH MY THIRD RELATIONSHIP, WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 3 YEARS, BUT ON OUR FIRST YEAR I NOTICED THAT HE WAS COMPLETELY IGNORING ME AND ALWAYS IN A BAD MOOD, I THEN FOUND OUT THAT HE WAS A DRUG — USER AND HAD A RELAPSE, FEELING LONELY AND BETRAYED I GOT INVOLVE IN AN EMOTIONAL AFFAIR WITH ONE OF MY CLOSE FRIENDS, BUT WHEN MY BOYFRIEND FINALLY GOT BETTER AND WENT CLEAN THAT WE GOT BETTER AND EVER SINCE THEN IT HAS BEEN A GOOD RELATIONSHIP. I GUESS I DATED THE WRONG GUYS AND ALWAYS THOUGHT THAT PAY BACK WAS WORTH IT, EVEN THOUGH I CHEATED BECA– USE OF THEIR MISTAKE I REALIZED IS NOT WORTH IT.

11. I cheated on my fiancee before we got serious again. I was sleeping with my ex husband. I feel guilty because we were together but we weren’t living in the same house and I knew for a fact that he was sleeping with his ex as well.. My ex husband was staying with me for a little bit because we have a child together and he needed a place to stay. I feel guilty and wish I had never done that because than me and my ex husband wouldnt feel like enemies right now..

12. Karen@Cali. So… just wondering… how many times have you had to take antibiotics for when it… burns when you pee?
    Seriously. Cheating on people for the sake of just getting some is pretty sad.

13. well… with my current bf.. i caught him cheating while i was browsing his phone… after months of observing him… i’ve read many messages of a girl even calling him “honey” “sweetheart” “can i come over” “open the gate, i know she’s not in”, i don’t know why other guys just can’t admit that they’re wrong, that what they’re doing is wrong though the proof is presented right under their nose… anyway… i gave him another chance… but if i caught him again… it would be the end of our relationship… i just couldn’t stay when i know i’m not needed and loved anymore!

14. hmmm… i did it before, just once… when my ex was miles away from me… he’s working somewhere in Dubai… everytime he calls… he says somethin’ bout me cheatin’ on him… everytime he calls, he repeats sayin’ that over and over for a month until i gave in to my friend… duh! i really don’t like him telling me things i’m not doing or else i’m really gonna do it for real…

15. i don’t cheat now and never will but i have been cheated on and its a pretty lame thing to do to another person, it breaks ones trust in the opposite sex. to this day i enter relationships with this thought in the back of my mind “when’s she gonna get a better offer and not bother to notify me”. grow a backbone cheaters!!! break it off and stop USING and DECIEVING whoever your cheating on.

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