I’m Straight, But in My Dreams, I’m a Sexually Frustrated Lesbian

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri:

Hello, I have had a wave of dreams that I do not understand at all. In my dream I am a masculine lesbian and regardless of what faceless woman I’m trying to sleep with I always fail. Sometimes we have just got married and keep getting interrupted on our honeymoon. Most recently I dreamt that I was all over this woman and as soon as I think I’m getting somewhere my husband comes in the room and steals her away. I never get to achieve orgasam or even get wet. Why all the sexually frustrating lesbian dreams?

LauriThe dissatisfaction and inability to complete orgasm in these dreams is connected to something in your real life that brings about the same feelings of dissatisfaction and incompletion. Let’s start with the obvious… everything okay in the bedroom? If not, then your dreams are an extension of this and may suggest you wish your husband understood what the female body wants and needs during sex… hence the lesbian action in your dream.

However, if everything is A-okay in the bedroom then these dreams are connected to some other area of your life that is causing you to feel frustrated lately. You have a couple clues in these dreams that will help us narrow it down. In some of the dreams you have just gotten married. That tells us that these dreams are connected to some sort of commitment you have made in real life. Again, it could be your real life marriage, but I want you to look at other commitments such as a diet or exercise regimen, a project or something at works, etc. Does something keep interrupting a waking life commitment just as your honeymoon keeps getting interrupted in the dream?

Also, your husband keeps stealing your wife away. This may mean that your husband is somehow taking away your ability to commit to this project or diet or whatever it is… or at least you feel he is to blame. Does he keep bringing home chips and cookies? Or does he complain about the time you’re spending on some project? Anything like that?

Bottom line is, once you are able to pinpoint this waking life issue that you can’t seem to stick to or complete, you need to find a way to COMMIT to correcting it. These dreams will continue to nag you to death until you do. I really hope I was able to help you figure it out.

Response from Dreamer: Lauri, thank you so much for getting back to me.  I am shocked at how spot on you are about a few certain things. Between bedroom issues and duty and work issues you are exactly right.  Thank you again.  Very kind of you to do this.


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