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A Berlin Brothel Encourages Johns to Go Green

photo by Tony the Misfit Urban Outfitters aren’t the only ones trying to make bicycles sexier. A brothel in Berlin, Germany, where prostitution is legal, is now offering discounts to customers who arrive by bike or a verifiable form of public transportation: 5 euros off a 70-euro 45-minute sesh. Since “leisure” spending is one of […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Is No Oral a Relationship Dealbreaker?

Vintage illustration via Foxtongue Dear Em & Lo, My new boyfriend doesn’t like either giving or receiving head. I really enjoy giving head and so it’s a disappointment to me that he doesn’t like it, though not the end of the world. What might be the end of the world is that he doesn’t want […]

Pop Culture
Film: What It Felt Like the Very First Time

Eve Waltermaurer, producer and director of First Eve Waltermaurer, a professor of sociology at SUNY New Paltz, is producer and director of FIRST, a documentary about women’s sexual first times. The film features ten women, ages 16 to 89, spilling the beans in their own bedrooms (complete with teddy bear and framed prom photo, in […]

Websites
Blog Snog (07-17-09)

part of a vintage ad via TresSugar A weekly roundup of some of our favorite sex- and love-related posts from various blogs and websites: Last week it was creepy vintage ads. This week TresSugar digs ups a hilarious “massager” ad (click to read the whole ad). GoodVibes’s John Thursday takes a nostalgic look at childhood […]

News
We’re Back!

We were having a few technical difficulties yesterday, but it looks like we’re back on track. Apologies for any interruption in your daily dose of sex, love and other fun stuff. And if you’re new to the site, we hope you’ll take off your coat and stay a while. Enjoy!

Research
If Sex Studies Sound Too Good to Be True, They Probably Are

photo by I_See_AEE We have a love-hate relationship with sex studies. On the one hand, they’re the bread and butter of this blog (to wit: Study shows even cheaters’ guilt is selfish; Study shows the car doesn’t maketh the man; Study shows father knows best; Study shows some playas are just spreading the love; et […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Kate: Sex Hurts at First

photo by doug88888 Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions here once a week. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year now and we tried having sex. For […]

Pop Culture
Mike Birbiglia’s “Porno for Parents”

We mentioned comedian Mike Birbiglia in passing the other day, but failed to convey just how awesome he is. Someone who can appeal to both the audiences of Comedy Central and This American Life possesses a rare gift. He  covers crass topics without ever crossing the line. He’s the boyfriend you love so much, but […]

Polls
Poll: What Do You Call a Female Cuckold?

photo by ian_ransley An article in last weekend’s NY Times Magazine about “cuckold wives” in politics notes, “I can find nothing in the dictionary that applies to sexually betrayed women, though you would think Webster would have added one by now.” Actually, according to Wikipedia, the female equivalent cuckquean first appeared in English literature in […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I Caught My BF with a Blonde

photo by zorilla Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means (after the jump). This week, a reader asks Lauri: Hi, I have been having this recurring dream about my boyfriend of seven years. The first one […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I Thought “Christian Sex Columnist” Was an Oxymoron

photo by kevindooley Our contributor Kristine deGuzman, a junior at UC Berkeley, has a confession to make: When I was a sophomore in college, I drooled over the idea of writing the “Sex On Tuesdays” column in the The Daily Cal, UC Berkeley’s main newspaper. I applied for the job at the end of my […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Really Love Bitches?

photo by Publicly_Scalped Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Do men really love bitches? Straight Single Guy (Colin): Guys love a challenge. That’s why we’re always trying to fix cars, throw the perfect spiral, or look cool with really awful facial hair. If we’re ever with a bitch, […]

News
Naked News (07-14-09)

photo by aforero The recession (and, perhaps, that Sasha Grey movie The Girlfriend Experience) is pushing more and more women into sex work. In more cheery financial news, apparently being told “I love you” is worth more than $200,000. Too bad your credit card company won’t accept that sort of currency. If your new partner […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Can You Ask Your Exes for Charitable Contributions?

photo by Daquella Manera Dear Em & Lo, In September I will participate in a charity event that depends on donations from people I know to raise money. In order to make my fundraising goal, I’m going to email everyone I know. Is it tasteless to include exes who may not really like me anymore […]

Dear Em & Lo
Strap-on Sex Won’t Turn You Gay (If You Aren’t Already)

We usually don’t dignify the crazies with a response, but we just can’t let this one go: A string of reader responses got us so infuriated that we decided to dedicate an entire column to setting him straight (no pun intended). We’ve edited his comments for space and readability while maintaining their warped content and […]

Pop Culture
Transgender Kids Say the Smartest Things

Thanks to a tip from Goodvibes, we just watched this short and sweet clip from Jasmine, a 7-year-old transgender* kid who’s wise beyond her years. It reminded us of an excellent This American Life episode from earlier this year which features a touching story of two 8-year-olds who meet up when their families attend a […]