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Confessions
Comment of the Week: Naming the Female Equivalent of Blue Balls

We’ve had some pretty creative additions to our poll calling for a name for the female equivalent of blue balls. Here are a few recent contenders… Purple Pussy Syndrome, or PPS for short — Christine Bummed beaver, not enough dam wood! — Jeri Wasted Wetness — Coral Cox Blue Cooch — Ricco Blue Box — […]

TV
The Best of #DescribeYourSexLifeInATvShow

We love it when Twitter puts its collective hive mind in the gutter: Today’s top trending hashtag is #DescribeYourSexLifeInATvShow. Here are some of the best: Faking It #DescribeYourSexLifeInATvShow — (@destoomuch) April 21, 2015 Leave it to Beaver #DescribeYourSexLifeInATvShow — Stacey Gaskin (@Stacey_Gaskin) April 21, 2015 #describeyoursexlifeinatvshow naked and afraid — Johnny Hammersticks (@DanielsonKelley) June 19, […]

Wise Guys
A Male Perspective on Circumcision

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: What do you think about circumcision? Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of Swish): I know one person who was circumcised as an adult, so he’s the only guy I can think of who knows what it’s like both ways — sort […]

Pop Culture
Sexing Up National Poetry Month

April is National Poetry Month, which means that children across the nation will be forced to pen odes to the color grey, or to their pet, or to some other assuredly G-rated subject. Here at EMandLO.com, we prefer to steam up the windows a bit during National Poetry Month. Sure, poetry can rhyme, it can […]

Dear Em & Lo
Knowing When to Talk to Your Partner… Or Your Therapist

The following letter from a reader is really long. Like, really long. (And this is the abridged version!) But we’re publishing it here because we think it raises a really interesting, important question about relationships: How can you tell when you’re talking too much? And how can you tell when you need a therapist as […]

Horoscopes
Your Weekly Horoscopes: April 20th, 2015

Each week, we at EMandLO.com predict the course of your love life for the week with our own version of irreverent horoscopes — ignore our advice at your own peril. (Hyperbole intended for dramatic effect.) aries (Mar. 21st-Apr. 20th) You’re living Les Liaisons Dangereuse this week. You are Madame de Tourvel (or Michelle Pfeiffer, for those of who prefer […]

Toys
Turn Your Headphones Into a Sex Toy

You know the basic idea of sensory deprivation, right? You limit one or more senses, and the others get stronger. Limit everything but touch, and your orgasm will feel like the center of the universe. You may have done this without even knowing you were practicing sensory deprivation — with a blindfold, for example. But […]

Websites
Blog Snog: Why the Myth of Lesbian Bed Death Persists

photo via Flickr YourTango: 10 brutally honest reasons why women keep dating a-holes. The Frisky: Why the myth of lesbian bed death persists. Pop Sugar: 6 true tales of love on the Titanic. Nerve: Bad sex advice: How to yell at your penis when you can’t get it up. 150 Shades of Play: Got spring fever? Embrace your inner […]

Research
8 Reasons Science Gives For Sleeping Nude

by Aly Walansky for YourTango So lose the PJs and put on your birthday suit! Had a hot date and fell asleep naked? Dragged yourself out of the shower and don’t have the energy to put pajamas on? It’s happened to all of us – and turns out it’s fine. Whatever your reason, there’s a […]

Research
Take This 10-Minute Penis Survey, Get a Free E-Book!

Our friend and colleague, Ian Kerner, the most famous man in sex therapy, founded Good In Bed to help people get better in bed. The site is currently sponsoring a survey (which has been designed by and given IRB approval through the University of Kentucky — i.e. it’s legit) focusing on penis perceptions. So if […]

Comment of the Week
Comment of the Week: Who Causes Wet Dreams? Could It Be….Satan?!

In response to a letter from a woman who orgasms in her sleep, we got a very interesting and creative analysis of what is actually going on from Amandah. It’s not sexual tension or the subconscious playing around with one of our strongest primal urges. Nope! Amandah schools us in the facts. (Ed. note: grammatical […]

How To
Why Marriage Vows Should Include Sex

photo via flickr Traditional marriage vows cover better… and worse; sickness… and health; riches…. and poverty; forsaking all others… but not its opposite. What is the opposite of forsaking all others, anyway? Well, if forsaking all others is about the absence of sex (with other people), then its opposite, in our opinion, is the presence […]

Pop Culture
R.I.P. Günter Grass: A (Sexy) Excerpt from “The Tin Drum”

photo via Wikimedia Commons The German novelist and Nobel Prize winner Günter Grass died yesterday at the age of 87. According to the New York Times, “He was a pre-eminent public intellectual who had pushed Germans to confront the ugly aspects of their history. … Many called [him] his country’s moral conscience but [he] stunned Europe when he revealed […]

Wise Guys
How to Go Down on a Man, According to Men

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What’s the difference between an average blowjob and an excellent blowjob?” Straight Single Guy (Chris): I have had a handful of extraordinary blowjobs in my lifetime. Generally I say something to any talented giver, pointing out how noteworthy her skills are. One […]

News
Some Early Sexist Tweets About Hillary Clinton’s Campaign

Yep, we totally live in a post-feminist world, where gender doesn’t matter, everyone’s on an equal playing field, and sexism has been stamped out. And can we get a pony, while we’re at it? Maybe a unicorn? Because that’s just not the reality we live in. Below are just a handful of the charming tweets […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Should I Have a Fling with My Long-Distance Boss?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New […]