A Guide to the Toys in “Fifty Shades of Grey”

Say what you will about the literary merit of E.L. James’s Fifty Shades of Grey trilogy, but you can’t deny the sexual curiosity they’ve ignited, the sexual knowledge they’ve imparted and the sexual delight they’ve given, where most readers are concerned. The result has been a boon for the sex toy industry, thanks to all the props […]

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What to Do When You Have Zero Sex Drive

photo via flickr Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 23-year old woman in a relationship with a wonderful guy — we’re celebrating two years together this month. We’re pretty serious about each other, but we have a serious hangup:  I have very little sex drive.  I’m not sure if he’s got an average drive or […]

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Dick of the Week: William Giraldi

photo via flickr William Giraldi wrote a personal essay for The Baffler called “This Brat’s for You.” Have you encountered this polished turd being bandied about the internet yet? In the piece, Giraldi bemoans the fact that he got paternity leave from his employer for the birth of his first child, became so utterly bored by […]

Top 10 Things We Hope the “Fifty Shades” Movie Does Better Than the Book

photo via the movie website The film adaptation of Fifty Shades of Grey, the first book in the mega-selling erotic trilogy by E.L. James, is almost here! It arrives in theaters Valentine’s Day weekend (ladies, get your limos ready!). With the casting of Jamie Dornan (The Fall) as Christian Grey and Dakota Johnson (The Social Network) […]

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How to Organize Your Ex Out of Your Life

The two of us basically share a brain when it comes to this blog, and we are one hundred percent united on all the important issues in life, love, and dating: safe sex, orgasms for everyone, the superiority of flat-front pants, etc. But every now and then we have to resort to the first-person singular […]

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What Romance Novels Taught Me About Love (and Lust)

by Aly Walanksy for YourTango | photo via WeHeartIt Some people criticize the romance drama, but there are things you can learn from it. Boys get their first taste of sexy times through Internet porn and nudie magazines—but ladies, we have erotica. Or, as the publishers like to call them, romance novels. Now, I’m not knocking romance […]

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“150 Shades of Play” Is Now Available on Kindle!

Our latest book, now available in a discreet Kindle edition We get it: 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink is not necessarily the book you want to be caught reading on the bus, or during your lunch break, and it’s definitely not the book you want sitting on your nightstand when your […]

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This Week in Great Subliminal Phalluses from History

We just finished Sam Harris’s Waking Up: A Guide to Spirituality Without Religion for our book club last night. It was a spirited debate, which went a little something like this: – Harris is self-centered, arrogant and off-putting. – But you just don’t know him like we do. – He condones drug use. – And that’s […]

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10 Quick Lessons from “Parenting Beyond Pink and Blue”

I consider myself a hardcore feminist (I’ve even got the T-shirt), one who’s attuned to all the gender stereotypes bombarding us daily. I work hard to combat them whenever and wherever I can. But I don’t live in a vacuum, and I’ve found myself falling into traps I thought I could avoid: like talking tougher […]

How “Fifty Shades” Has Changed Sex Over the Past 3 Years

sponsored post As if the whole Internet going gaga over the first trailer for the movie adaptation of E.L. James’ erotic novel “Fifty Shades of Grey” wasn’t evidence enough, our friends over at LELO have actually quantified just how influential the story of Ana, Christian and his woven tie have been on the world’s sexual habits. […]

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New Virgin Mary-Inspired Poetry: The Madonna Comix

Our friend Celia Bland, who works at The Bard Institute for Writing and Thinking, just down the road from us, recently published a book of poetry called Madonna Comix. It’s a large-format, fine art book that was a cross-country collaboration with the artist Dianne Kornberg; the poems feature the Virgin Mary in various modern-day incarnations: […]

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New Beach Read: Social Death (With Naughty Bits!)

When we asked our friend Tatiana Boncompagni whether her new novel, Social Death, had any “dirty-ish parts” to it (hey, two sex writers have to ask), she responded that there’s no “ish” about it. The novel is a mystery about the murder of a Manhattan socialite who dies with a scandalous secret — in other […]

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New Erotica Book: Kresley Cole’s “The Professional”

sponsored post From #1 New York Times bestselling author Kresley Cole comes The Professional, the first installment in her “Game Maker” series, an erotica collection that features the intense love stories, the family dynamics, the alpha heroes and adventurous women that Cole is known for, except apparently with even more naughtiness! Below is an excerpt from The Professional; here’s the set […]

Last Chance to Get a Great $10 “Gag” Gift for Mom!

Lelo’s Etherea Silk Cuffs Mother’s Day is THIS Sunday, so you only have a couple days left to get Mom the gift that’ll tide her over until the Fifty Shades movie comes out next year: our book, 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink! Hear us out: Moms loved the Twilight series, but secretly […]

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Losing It: True Tales of Lost Virginity

In Kate Monro’s new book, “Losing It: How We Popped Our Cherry Over the Past 80 Years,” she picks up where Nancy Friday left off, letting a wide range of people tell their stories of how they lost their virginity, smartly bookending each with historical and cultural context. It’s a fascinating book that shows, to […]

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Moms Are Kinky People Too!

Lelo’s Etherea Silk Cuffs Mother’s Day is just around the corner! Sure, you could get her some nice flowers…again. Or you could get her something she’ll really enjoy: our new book, 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink! Hear us out: Moms loved the Twilight series, but secretly wished there was more sex […]