Don’t think of it as bribery… think of it as a thank you gift for sharing. We’re working on an article for a mainstream (very respectable!) magazine about couples’ sex lives, and we want to talk to you. The idea of the piece is, most of us have no idea what goes on behind closed doors. We want to bust the myth that there is such a thing as an “average” or “normal” sex life — or an “average” or “normal” couple, for that matter. For example, do you look like a soccer mom but like to vacation at nudist resorts? Are you an upstanding member of your community who just happens to practice Tantric sex? Are you a buttoned-up office worker who likes to dress up for sex? Are you a mom (or dad) of three who still likes to make sex tapes?
This isn’t an article about sexual extremists — and we have no intention of painting you that way — but rather a way to celebrate couples who have avoided that dreaded sexual rut. Your stories will inspire all the couples out there who have succumbed to the rut.
We’re looking to interview couples from all over the country. And just by writing to introduce yourself to us, you’ll be entered into a contest to win one of 10 Kissas — a vibrating glass toy that’s non-porous, phthalate-free and hypoallergenic — from EdenFantasys.com! Send us an email at emlo A T emandlo D O T com or contact us using this form. We promise we will NOT release any of your information to anyone without discussing the piece with you further and getting your subsequent approval. Looking forward to hearing from you! And please, spread the word.
Married with 4 Children and 1 Grandchild. I am 49 Years old. Sex with my lover of 4 years has been the best ever. We Explore, we share, watch porn together, we pleasure each other!! The sky is the limit. Who says sex is for the young ones. We have had sex 5-7 times in one day. Every week. And never a dull moment. WOW, WOW WOW Don’t be afraid to explore. Ask and you will be surprised what answer you will get! HOT WOW
Hello, I am a 31 year mom of 3 in which my youngest will be one this August. As far a a sex life, I have a get it when you can because my husband and I have been through so much because our 11 month old had opeb heart surgery at three weeks old and after that its been just a quickie here and there because we are always on the go with our son who is 8 and our daughter who is 4, we are to tired to have pillow talk, foreplay, etc… We used to take long showers together and go right into our moment, but now its you go first and then I will take my shower next and off to bed we go. I really do not know what having an orgasm is like anymore from foreplay or just having to say we made love and enjoyed every minute of it. We are in so need of some tlc and sex, I am stressed I do not even feel sexy enough to want to have sex… Help
I am a 30 yr.female with a 8 month old baby and the babys farther left me soon after the baby was born so i need a sex life.
WOW where to begin.. im a 37 year old divorcee rebounding from drama with my ex. during our relationship, he unfortunately engaged in violating every level of trust in our relationship and was so masterfully manipulative that he made me question my own sexuality and womanhood; prior to him i had a healthy view of myself and sexuality but I allowed him to destroy that to the point that i regretfully was not being fulfilled and never thought that sex would be exciting again. Since our divorce i have started seeing another man, and WOW what a different outlook on life! By far he has allowed me to regain my confidence and assertiveness sexually in that he has taught me how to get what i want sexually as well as satisfying his needs. Our connection is unlike anything else that I have ever expericed and have been taken to no levels of sexual gratification. we both get excited in talking about experiencing our fantasies and making each other satisfied. He is vested in fulfilling my needs in every way and loves to remind me that what we share is because of a connection on another level. My attitude and demeanor are different not just from being happy but the confidence and satisfaction that i now have opened up to me like this. I find myself open to so many things that i would have never thought of before..massage, music, incense, clothing, positions, toys… if I like it and Im curious.. I wanna try it!
My husband and I have just celebrated our 10 year anniversary.He is 36 and I am 43. We had fallen in to a pretty dull, sexless routine. After many heated discussions and talks of divorce we decided to make some changes and they have worked wonders! We are now the happiest we have ever been. We no longer argue and we have the best sex of our lives!
Basically, when we are together, if one of us thinks about sex in any way, we have to have sex, no matter where we are. If we are at a restaurant having dinner and need to have a quickie in the restroom, then we do it. If we are at home having guests over and we need to discreetly go upstairs for a few minutes, we do it. You never know when you will be sent to “the penalty box” as my husband calls it. It is so exciting wondering when or where it’s going to happen next! It keeps us in an almost constant state of arousal, and it keeps us too busy, and too happy to argue. We have had numerous people comment that we act like totally different people now!
Well, I am a mother of 3 small girls and I stay at home with them while my hubby works so that tells you how exhausted we both are at night. When we get the kids in bed that tiredness goes out the window, I buy lingerie from Fredericks and he never knows what to expect when he steps out of the shower. I like to spice things up and buy different massage oils and personal lubricants and he buys the toys. I am a very conservative, worry about what people think type of person and people always told me that once you got married that regular sex stopped but that is definitely not the case.
Hi there. I am a 54 year old woman, sex toy reviewer and sex blogger (among the dozens of other hats I wear) and am very happily married to my 54 year old husband for almost 29 years now. Yep..29 years. Our sex life together? Incredible. It started out in our 20’s like many do…hot, fast and intense. The years rolled by, the kids came and went, and things simmered down some naturally. But that is not to say that things were not good because they still were and still are…just different now but also immensely better now. The sex is not quite as often now as when we were in our mid-twenties, but still several times a week at least. The sex is not as intense in it’s selfishness as is the case with many younger participants but is now a lot more about making sure the other gets what they need and want as well as getting what I also need and want. And that need is not just to reach orgasm. As we get older, we have both come to realize that there are MANY layers to sexual satisfaction, going WAY beyond and over orgasm alone. Sex for us is about communicating to each other in new ways, experimenting more, stretching our mutual boundaries and limitations, exploring our fantasies in ways we never could when we still had kids living at home. And as strange as it sounds, sex now, as opposed to when we first got started together 29 years ago, is on a new and exciting level, reaching beyond the mere physical and allowing us to connect to each other in a different way. Perhaps that is because we have been together for so long and can read each other almost instantly…or perhaps it is because we have practiced this over and over in an attempt to not become one of those couples who at a certain age realize they don’t have a sex life anymore…and worse, don’t care. With no kids at home, no worries about birth control and the beauty of reaching a certain age where you feel liberated and free to say what the heck you want, life in general, and sex specifically, has gotten better, for both of us. My husband and I are living proof, to our grown children, our friends and anyone else, that getting older CAN be a good and beautiful thing, that you CAN have an active and fulfilling sex life…like anything else, you just have to want it bad enough to work for and towards that goal. Thanks for letting me speak my mind since I do get a little “pissy” when people say getting older is bad, a death sentence or that it means the end of an active and happy sex life…’cause it doesn’t. Thanks again.
I’m a 34-year old former-Single Mother By Choice, professional in a small county government-run mental health agency; my fiancé is an IT specialist for a political research group. I elected to conceive at the age of 23, because I felt the swimming pool of eligible partners was a virtual bird bath. Five years after my son was born, a friend challenged me to sign up for a dating site. Cynically, with the intent to prove to my friend there was no one ‘out there’ for me,I was *completely* honest about myself (weight, bad habits, annoying personality issues, baggage…). After just 3 weeks on the site, I met my future husband. I live in California, he lives in Washington D.C. We’ve been in a relationship for 2 years, but only “together” for about a month. We talk every day via Skype and instant message. He loves my son as his own. We liken our non-traditional relationship to one of military couples.
We had been corresponding for 3 months when he flew out to meet me, and the sex was incredible (of course, we’d both been celibate for the previous 5 years). I am a very open-minded woman with intense non-traditional interests; he’s open to new ideas, but nervous about some of the things I request, mostly related to BD/SM. Since most of our relationship happens online and by phone, we do a lot of dirty talk, exploratory fantasy and role play to stimulate each other. When we finally do get together after, the sex is amazing. The fantasies and the desire inspire sensual and passionate lovemaking on one hand, as well as frivolous, rough, nasty sex on the other.
Our sex life is one of honest, open exploration because we took the time to get to know one another through intellectual and emotional intercourse before we even met, and take that exploration even further when we can’t meet.
Hi, I’m 19 I’ve just started my sex life with my fiance. He is my first and my only. I’ve had many realationships but I decided to lose my virginty to man that is worth while and make an impact in my life. I know alot off people have had horror stories about their first time but I had an amazing time. It took me awhile to adjust to haveing sex but we both learned what worked for my body and I thank him for being so patient and loveing. I think the reason why I did have an amazing time is because I have an amazing loving partner. The funny thing is the first time I ended up having sex was on my birthday and both orgasmed at the same time it something out of a movie. He did not pressure me at all. I came to him and decided to give up my virginity to him. We have amazing sex because we connect and have an open lines of communication. He lets me know what he likes and I let him know what I like. Alought sex can enjoyable it should not be taken lightly. I live on campus and I hear horror stories being safe is extremly important and more people should be educated. My fiancee and I are in a monogomus realtionship and trusting realtionship and it makes the sex more intamite. I jump on him anytime I can get. Its great were both open to trying out new things sometimes they don’s quite workout other time its amazing. I guess its joys of being young and in love.
I was in a repressed, almost sexless marriage for 23 years. I am now with a man who will talk with me about ANYTHING concerning sex and when we are not actually having the best sex I have ever had. Nothing is off limits as long as we are both up for it. I get as much sex as often as I want now. Best of all, I LOVE him.
This is so perfect for my wife and I. We are Midwesterners, married over 11 years, 3 kiddos. Great sex, if only once a week, sometimes twice. I own an marketing firm, she is a SAHM who works for me two days a week part time.
As I type this, I am preparing to tell my staff to leave early for the weekend. At that point my wife will likely lock the main door to our building, come into my office and we will “role play the naughty secretary/boss scenario. At least this is what we planned on the car ride into the office this morning! ; )
I’m a 52 yr old woman married 5 yrs to a 54 yr old man. I’ve had a few relationships before my husband, but never felt I could be entirely myself and explore my desires. It’s different with my husband, who actually encourages me to “fly my freak flag”. I think the fact that my husband travels extensively and we’re apart several nights a month goes a long way to keeping our marriage and our sex life fresh and exciting. Now and then I join my husband on his travels and enjoy red hot hotel sex, which I have to tell ya, is even more uninhibited than our at-home sex.
It’s like having a license to go wild!
There’s something so wonderfully liberating about being in my 50’s, with no fears of unwanted pregnancy, secure in who I am, loved by and loving someone who actually encourages me to relax
and enjoy lovemaking, including saying exactly what I want and need. Life and lovemaking are GOOD!
Hi CI! We’d love to talk to you more (and also to enter you into our toy contest!) but you left no contact info. Could you email us at [email protected] so we can follow up? Mwah!
Hi Em and Lo!
Well I am a 25 year old woman who has been dating a 40 year old man for about 7 months. I have never dated anyone more than 5 years older than me, or have had a sexual experience with. The first time we had sex blew my mind! I had sensations I’ve never felt before, made noises I’ve never made before (LOL!) and actually orgasmed. What I like about my guy is that we are on the same level sexually. I didn’t know how it would be sexually with an older guy because I have a high libido. But he is my perfect match because he knows how to please me so that I am really satisfied. He has taught me things about my body as well as I’ve learned more of what he likes too. We go to sleep most nights with sex and start our days off with it too. Dating an older guy has been an interesting and freeing experience, and I look forward to more of it with him.
Sadly, that would be the quickest free toy ever! Done.