Confessions
Polls
Poll: How Do You Define Sex?

“We had sex.” Upon hearing a confession like that, most people would automatically assume the word “sex” in that sentence means intercourse. If you heard that confession, what would it mean to you? Did you buy Bill Clinton’s claim that he “did not have sex with that woman,” based on your definition of the word […]

Confessions
The Most Disturbing Comment This Site Has Ever Received!

After over fifteen years in this business, we’ve seen and heard a lot. There was the couple asking about how they could get their golden retriever to consensually have sex with the wife while the husband watched. There was the morgue worker wondering if he could get STDs from the corpses. There was the “gentleman” Em […]

Personal Essays
Sick-Skinny: When Weight Loss from Illness Is Considered Hot & Beautiful

By Jacqueline Raposo for Bust Magazine When illness causes weight loss, reactions from friends, family, and even strangers can be “positive” in the worst possible way. When I was 27 years old, I weighed 105 pounds and was extremely sick. Over a span of 15 years, I’d been extensively treated twice for Lyme disease, with […]

Comment of the Week
Should You Ask Out a Coworker? 6 Questions to Ask Yourself First

The following is a very thoughtful, thorough response to our post “Should He Hit on a Coworker?” from reader Barbara Arthur, a self-proclaimed “middle-aged female who used to work in career-oriented management positions but now chooses to work ‘just a regular job’ because she thinks management jobs suck (so thinks she can offer various perspectives).” […]

Comment of the Week
How Do I Deal with a Bisexual Girlfriend?

Our contributor Dr. AlanK had some sage advice for a young male reader whose girlfriend recently discovered that she is bisexual: You’re an early 20-something man and your girlfriend announces she’s bisexual. She has discovered that an important piece of her erotic makeup involves women. She will eventually connect with one. Hell, she probably should connect […]

Comment of the Week
3 Rules to Follow When Buying a Sex Toy for Your Girlfriend/Wife

MILC had some good advice for straight men looking to surprise their girlfriends with a sex toy gift for the first time: Avoid those huge toy makers that put porn stars on the boxes. You want something that’s easy on the eyes, comes in nice, inoffensive packaging, and is high quality. So anything by Fun […]

Polls
Poll: What’s Your Favorite Fantasy?

There are popular themes that come up again and again in people’s fantasies. We’re curious if they figure in your dirty thoughts. We created two polls, one for ladies and, below that, one for men. If your favorite fantasy isn’t listed here, let us know what it is in the comments below! Check back later […]

Polls
Quiz: How Good Is the Sex in Your Long-Term Relationship

Whether you’re married, living together, or committed for a couple of years, it’s perfectly normal for the sex and passion to wane. The mystery, romance and butterflies of new lust & love cannot be maintained indefinitely. But it shouldn’t disappear all together, either. A good, healthy, satisfying sex life in a long-term, committed relationship takes […]

Confessions
My Kung Fu Is Strong Against Your Pro-Polyamory Arguments

We have two companion posts, one called “Top 10 Reasons for Being – and Staying – Monogamous,” the other called “Top 10 Reasons for Being — and Staying — NON-Monogamous.” We intended each as encouragement for those people who prefer to be in their particular kind of relationship, not as indictments of one another. But home-team loyalty runs […]

Confessions
If You’re Unsatisfied, Speak Up!

Reader Joanne had this to say in response to the post “My Husband Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm”: I have been married for over 20 years and I now have the man of my dreams. It wasn’t always like that though. We had a great relationship and good sex, but he could […]