Confessions
Confessions
Why Men Ask You About Their Size (& How You Should Answer)

Pete had some interesting (and some potentially controversial) thoughts in response to our post “If He Asks About Size, Can I Tell Him the Truth?“: When a guy asks this question, there could be a lot of reasons for asking: 1. He might want to compete against other guys (“Am I better than other guys?”) […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I Was Allergic to Sex

I started having intercourse at 15. Besides the perpetual awkwardness of budding teenage sexuality and the occasional urinary tract infection (UTI), my first few casual sex experiences in high school were fun, comfortable and safe — what I would call “healthy.”  Sophomore year, I entered a long distance relationship, and soon noticed that after my […]

Personal Essays
Learning to Love Your Body Is a Life-Long Endeavor

Learning to love your body? It’s a marathon, not a sprint. I took off my shirt and my confidence plummeted. I was at home, staring at my naked stomach in the mirror, but I felt like I’d just been punched in the gut.  On either side of my belly, 3 inches (give or take) of […]

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Comment of the Week: Lazy Lovers Should Be Left, Period

Truthserum had some tough love for all the women with lazy lovers like the letter writer of “My Husband, a Selfish Lover, Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm.” (We edited down her response for clarity): Lazy Lovers Should Be Left I’m sorry, but a lot of you women on here sound really pathetic. […]

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Can You Guess Which of These Cats Is Female?

A choose your own gender-venture! Our family recently adopted two kittens. We had our pick of the litter, so we figured we’d get a girl and a boy, just like our two kids. They decided to name the girl Rey and the boy Po. (Star Wars fans relax: for whatever reason — let’s call it artistic license — […]

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Comment of the Week: When Tab A Doesn’t Fit into Slot B

Lily had this to say in response to the post “What Position Should Little Ol’ Me Use with My Big Boyfriend?“: Sex can be extremely complicated, especially if you are a heady, nervous and insecure type (like me). I have yet to sleep with someone I am 100% comfortable around and assume it must have some […]

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Comment of the Week: Not ALL Men Like Getting BJs

Nordica recently responded to the post “Dear Em & Lo, I HATE Receiving Blowjobs,” with a comment that might be music to some givers’ ears: Anyone who thinks ALL men like BJs is believing a false-narrative. I’m a dude, and I hate, I mean, HATE getting BJs. Not due to religious reasons, teeth, trust, insecurities, history […]

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Comment of the Week: 3 Questions to Ask Before Opening Up Your Relationship

Contributor & MVP commenter Dr. AlanK had this to say in response to a man hoping for an open relationship with his wife: 1. Are you trying to justify an affair you’re already having? Don’t do that! Admit to the affair, try to understand why you had/are having the affair, get your marriage fixed, and […]

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Confession: How the Kardashians Make Me a Better Father

by Tom Burns for YourTango This is not sponsored by Pepsi. I think Kim Kardashian has made me a better father. Now that’s an old writer’s gimmick where you say something deliberately provocative at the beginning of an article to draw people in and then you immediately walk it back with “Now let me explain…”, […]

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The Skittish Person’s Quickie Guide to Exploring Kink

Anna had some good ideas about wading into kinky waters, especially if you’re not sure how to swim, in her response to the post “He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla: Is Their Relationship Doomed?” Learn more about BDSM. Read some BDSM erotic books. See if there is anything that turns you on and try those things. You […]

Personal Essays
Confession: A Man 20 Years Younger Offered Me $300 to Sleep with Him

by Marcelle Karp for Barb Magazine *** “I already want to marry you.” The banter is going well, as well as dating-app badinage goes. It’s 11am, I’m sitting in Irving Farm, ostensibly here as I am on most days, working on my vampire detective novel, and I’m Tinder-texting with a 34-year-old mail carrier who is somewhere in […]

Personal Essays
Confession: How My Asexuality Affects Love and, Yes, Sex

by Erika Price   It’s SO different when you don’t feel any sexual desire. In high school, I openly identified as asexual, and I don’t think it ever stopped being true really. My friend Erik introduced me to the term. We were in tenth grade and his friend Jared was driving us both home from […]

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The Incredible Shrinking Millennial Marriage

Miranda Levy is a major in Women, Gender & Sexuality Studies at Elon University where she pens a sex column for its student-run lifestyle magazine, The Edge.  I may be a member of a new endangered species: The millennial who wants to get married young — or even just the millennial who wants to get […]

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I Participated in the Women’s Strike for All the Women Who Couldn’t

by Rebecca Jane Stokes for YourTango: I didn’t just do it for myself. On Wednesday, March 8, 2017, I went on strike. Like many other women in this country and elsewhere, I participated in the global action called “A Day Without A Woman.” I didn’t go to work. I didn’t do household chores. And I didn’t shop anywhere that wasn’t a […]

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Confession: Saying “Yes”and Finally Meaning It

KERRY NEVILLE — author of the award-winning short story collection, Necessary Lies, and the forthcoming collection, Remember To Forget Me — writes of the long road toward true consent.   Natalie and I played boyfriend and girlfriend: She was “Michael” and I was “Rebecca.”  We would walk around the block holding hands and when we reached […]