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“I Effed Up” — 7 Steps to Right a Relationship Wrong

You didn’t mean to do it, but effed up! David McFadden walks you through the 7 steps to making it right. As you know, relationships take a lot of work. And at times, they’re downright HARD. According to a UCLA study on commitment in marriage (which followed 174 married partners for their first eleven years of marriage), couples who actually lasted […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, Can I Get Trichomoniasis From Masturbation?

Dear Em & Lo, If I masturbate 3 times a day 7 days a week and haven’t had a real sex partner in over a year, can I get trichomoniasis? — Red Handed Dear RH, Trichomoniasis is a sexually transmitted infection caused by a protozoan parasite called Trichomonas vaginalis, most commonly passed from genitals to genitals. […]

TV
The 10 Most NORMAL Sex Scenes from “American Horror Story”

American Horror Story (the seventh season of which is currently in  full swing on FX) trades in sex and blood, blood and sex — often at the same time. Whether it’s a vampire orgy with throat slitting or a BDSM porno with un-consensual dismemberment, AHS likes to mix “little deaths” with big death. And don’t even get us started […]

Dream Interpretation
What Does My Weird Cheating Dream Mean?

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex & relationships. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri about weird cheating dream: Ever since my husband and I have gotten married […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Why Do Men Get in Touch with Past Flames?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Why do guys get back in touch with old flames? Booty call? Rekindle the romance? To prove they’re over the woman? Just to say hi? Just got dumped and need an ego boost?” Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): At the risk of […]

Personal Essays
Here’s What Happened When I Confronted Men Who Catcall

Danielle Page decided to try to confront men who catcall. She asked them why they do it. Their answers will surprise you. I don’t remember the first time I was catcalled. Maybe it’s because I’m jaded from living and working in NYC, the catcalling capital of the world. Perhaps it’s due to the fact that catcalling becomes […]

How To
How to Introduce Sex Toys Into a Relationship

While some people may not be entirely familiar with the idea of using toys during partnered sex, anyone who already uses a sex toy for solo masturbation can probably imagine the pleasurable twist they can add. Sex toys are the perfect way for fun-loving couples to increase intimacy while further exploring their relationship. The introduction […]

News
8 Things You Should Know About Consent on College Campuses

by Sarah Marcantonio, a student at Emerson University in Boston Consent (noun): Permission, approval or agreement.  Here’s my definition of sexual consent: two (or more) people actively, explicitly and consciously agreeing to have sexual interactions throughout those interactions, with no party having any reservations at any point. I was taught, both in high school in […]

Pop Culture
Is Fashion Fair Game? A Debate on Melania’s Hurricane Harvey Heels

Many people went batshit last week when Melania Trump wore stilettos on not one, but two separate visits to Hurricane Harvey devastation last week (though, to be clear, she changed into sneaks on the plane rides there). I (Lo) was intrigued by Rhonda Garelick’s think piece “Melania Trump and the Chilling Artifice of Fashion” in […]

How To
10 Easy Ways to “Work” on Love

This Labor Day, let us be reminded that love takes work. Here are 10 simple things you can — and should — do regularly to keep a long-term relationship or marriage happy and satisfying: 1. Do something new together. Sign up for a continuing education class. Try a new sport. Go see a concert or […]

How To
Top 10 Tips for Taking Naughty Pics

Thinking of playing a little very candid camera with your other half? So long as you know your partner well enough to trust that the saucy pics won’t end up on some godawful site like GuessHerMuff, then you have our blessing. Here are a few things to bear (heh) in mind when taking naughty pics: […]

News
Princess Diana Was “The Other Woman,” Not Camilla

On the 20th anniversary of Diana’s death, it’s time to forgive Camilla. Because as Arianna Jeret argues, Princess Diana was the other woman. Thursday, August 31, 2017, is the 20th anniversary of the death of Princess Diana, undoubtedly one of the most beloved women in the history of the world. The tragic and mysterious nature of her […]

How To
How to Cultivate a Sexual Fantasy

If you don’t have a favorite sexual fantasy, then you haven’t spent enough time dirty–day dreaming. Inspiration surrounds you — you just have to seek it out. Browse a sex toy shop, in person or online, for some new gadgets, accessories, videos, or books. Kinky erotica like Anne Rice’s The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty or […]

Toys
Men’s Sex Toys Leave a Lot to Be Desired

A word of warning: Some links are definitely NSFW. Women’s sex toys can be things of beauty. Just look at Em & Lo’s BFF, LELO: They offer pleasure objects that make me wish I had lady bits just so I could try them…that make me want to play with people who do have lady bits […]