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Happy MLK Day!

“Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” –Martin Luther King, Jr. Did you know that only about a third of employers in the U.S. observe Martin Luther King Day as a holiday? So we’re doing our bit by honoring this federal holiday. (Okay, so that’s not exactly a “bit.” Get inspired to […]

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Dr. Kate, Did Masturbation Cause My Labia to Look Like This?

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your medical questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Dr. Kate, My inner labia protrudes out a bit and is a bit large but […]

How To
The Art of “Everything But” for Straight People

Many, many, many, many women don’t climax from intercourse, so why rush to get there when you can spend time on more rewarding acts? Here, the how-to tips for everything from soul-stirring kissing to mind-blowing oral sex, guaranteed to improve both partners’ non-intercourse sex life. 1. Talking Whispering dirty nothings to each other is one of the […]

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Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelor” (Corinne IS Trump)

Last night’s episode of The Bachelor saw the first of the dreaded group dates — harem outings in which contestants are forced to humiliate themselves publicly while often scantily clad or even naked. Think city-street tractor-racing in bikinis, or mud wrestling. People with stage fright, body self-consciousness or healthy self-respect usually have a difficult time […]

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You As a Pin-Up

  Our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg is living a double life: not only does she interpret your dreams here and all over the world, she now also creates custom pin-up portraits for people at her site, YouAsAPinUp.com. We recently asked her about how these two career paths emerged (and if they overlap), what the process is […]

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How to (TRY TO) Female Ejaculate

Okay, before we tell you how to ejaculate, we have to set a couple things straight: First, yes, women can ejaculate. Next: no, not all women ejaculate. So if it doesn’t happen for you, please don’t stress about it or feel like your parts aren’t working properly. The last thing we mean to do is […]

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10 Absolute MUSTS for Being a Great Lover

by Judith Orloff for YourTango Want to learn how to manifest your full sexual power, even if you are out of touch with it now? First, you must learn to completely inhabit your body and the moment. If not now, when? Holding back, fixating on performance, or letting your mind chatter and drift is the […]

Personal Essays
Why You Can Be a Feminist and Still Like It Rough

Miranda Levy is a major in Women, Gender & Sexuality Studies at Elon University where she pens a sex column for its student-run lifestyle magazine, The Edge.  “Just because you like to be tied up, spanked, and called ‘bitch,’ doesn’t mean you’re a bad feminist.” — Em & Lo, “The Big Bang” The first time […]

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Top 10 Love Lessons from “The Bachelor” (Nick’s Season Premiere!)

It’s been a long, hard slog getting through the shit storm that was 2016. The only light at the end of this turd tunnel has been the promise of a new season of The Bachelor. As one friend who has been bracing for the Trumpocalypse put it last week: “The prospect of Batch is literally keeping […]

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2016: The Year in Bad Sex

This year sucked — and not in a good, consensual, non-transactional, mutually satisfying way. Here are the top 10 worst sex- and gender-related events, trends, crimes and tragedies of 2016. Good riddance! 1. Trump Admits to Sexual Assault on Tape, Still Gets Elected:   2. The New Jared: Glee Star Indicted on Child Porn Charges:   […]

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Our 16 Best Advice Columns of 2016

In case you missed them, here are some of our favorite love & sex tips from the past year on EMandLO.com.

Special Issues
Our 16 Best Think Pieces of 2016

In case you missed them, here are some of our favorite essays and videos from the past year on EMandLO.com!

Personal Essays
My Top 5 Romantic Goals for the New Year

Miranda Levy is a major in Women, Gender & Sexuality Studies at Elon University where she pens a sex column for its student-run lifestyle magazine, The Edge. As someone who is recently single, I’ve decided this new year is going to be full of love-life firsts. What better time to assess past relationship mistakes, question […]

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Merry Everything!

We hope you have a great holiday! Here’s hoping there’s something saucy and battery-operated in your stocking…or at least a nice new pair of undies. Thank you for reading our humble little sex advice site. The best present you could give us is signing up for our weekly newsletter, The Em & Lo Down, if […]

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Looking for a True Feminist Christmas Movie? Try “Die Hard” (For Real)

by Tom Burns for Your Tango Yippee ki-yay, modern feminists. If you’ve ever been on Twitter any time during December, you’ve seen the annual debate about whether or not the 1988 action classic Die Hard can be considered a “Christmas movie.” Let’s be honest — the debate is getting boring. In fact, people from all […]