Dating
Say Amything
Dating Women Is More Fun Than Dating Men

The following is the 2nd installment of a hilarious ongoing series by author and squirrel hunter (seriously) Amy Bronwen Zemser called “How to Thaw Your Unborn Child,” about sperm donation and artificial insemination when you’ve got an acute case of lesbianism. Catch up on Part 1 here, then continue below: When I lived in San Francisco in the nineties, my friend Michelle […]

How To
The 5 Necessary Steps for Getting a Pickup Artist to Commit

The following is part of a series on pickup artistry by longtime reader and contributor Johnny: If you really like someone you suspect is a pickup artist – and that’s a decision you may re-evaluate now that I’ve lifted the veil for you – here’s what it takes for a woman to lock down a PUA: […]

Research
Why You Shouldn’t Depend on First Impressions to Find Love

By Julie Ferman for YourTango.com Why “slow love” is so much sexier than “swiping right.” Have you ever wondered if you’ve possibly missed opportunities to date someone REALLY great simply because they didn’t dramatically strike your fancy at first glance? I’m here to tell you … you’ve probably missed out on some wonderful potential partners. And likely, plenty of great […]

TV
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (The Men Tell All Episode)

1. Male Feminists Are Sexy Within minutes of the show’s opening, host Chris Harrison said “sexist double standard” and we swooned. Later on in the episode, he even referred to “gender roles” when discussing, euphemistically of course, the fact that Kaitlyn slept with Nick before the Fantasy Suites. Every season has its theme, and we […]

Advice
The 3-Stages of PUA Development

The following is part of a series on pick-up artists by reader and MVP commenter Johnny: “Naturals” are guys whose talent for getting laid occurred organically. Maybe they’re really good-looking, maybe they figured out how to push female buttons early on – but the natural is who the Pick-Up Artist (PUA) seeks to emulate. So there […]

TV
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (Fantasy Suites!)

In the world of “The Bachelorette,” euphemisms for sex are a dime a dozen — contestants talk about “really being together” and “being alone” and being able to “focus on each other,” when what they really mean is, having sex like bunnies once the cameras are turned off. In that spirit, we will refer to […]

Pop Culture
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (Killarney)

1. Get your hands out of your face. When you’re talking about your romantic feelings to the object of your affection, don’t constantly touch your face and cover your mouth and slur — it makes it seem like you’re hiding something…like you’re a liar and this is your tell (Nick).   2. Have some dignity when […]

Your Call
Why Is It Still Considered “Desperate” for a Woman to Call First?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, OK, I have to […]

TV
Top 10 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (Ireland)

1. Cheating on your wife won’t just mess up your marriage — it could seriously impact your future relationships, too. Because at some point, your new girlfriend is going to ask, “So, er, hey, what happened with your marriage?” Then you’re going to have to admit that you cheated on the mother of your child. And the chances […]

Advice
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (Dublin)

  If you constantly have to talk about how smart/cool/deep you are to your date, then you are none of those things. As your 9th grade English teacher at Deerfield should have taught you: show, don’t tell.   PDA should have some limits. Yes, you’re out and about on an amazing date in a cool […]

TV
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (San Antonio)

Don’t suffer through an outdoor date if the weather is bad. We don’t care if you’ve rented out CitiField for the evening: if it’s colder than a witch’s tit outside, jog once around the bases and then get yourselves inside to a deluxe box and stay there! Adapt to the situation — it’s what helped […]

Advice
8 Ways That Dating and Therapy Are Basically the Same Thing

By Alex Alexander I’m not romancing my shrink, but it does feel a little like it. There I was for the very first time, meeting my brand new therapist. Thoughts run through my head: Will I like him/her? What will this be like? Does he or she already know my deepest, darkest thoughts? What if […]

Pop Culture
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (Kaitlyn’s First Dates)

The Bachelor/ette franchise may have finally been completely ruined for us last nigth after Amy Schumer’s guest appearance during one of Kaitlyn’s group dates. That’s how brilliant she was, turning the show into what it really should be, what it was meant to be. Schumer was her usual, inappropriately hilarious self, but it’s a testement […]

How To
5 Signs You’re Dating a Pickup Artist

You’re a straight woman, and you like this guy. You have fun, you have chemistry, and then you have sex. At which point, he seems to disappear. But not totally. Sound familiar? Chances are he’s read the Pick Up Artist lit and is following it to a T. Below, read up on the 5 tell-tale […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Why Won’t He Get to Know Me?

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. This woman asked her question in the comments section of the post How Often Do F-Buddies Become Girlfriends? Tell it […]

Wise Guys
Do Guys Really Hate Talking on the Phone?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following:  Why do guys seem to hate talking on the phone? Gay Single Guy (Daniel): My suspicion is that it has to do with how most straight guys talk, or rather, don’t talk. Straight men seem to not indulge in gossip and tangential […]