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Tag Archive | "Open Relationships"

Why Marriage Vows Should Include Sex

Wednesday, April 15, 2015


photo via flickr Traditional marriage vows cover better… and worse; sickness… and health; riches…. and poverty; forsaking all others… but not its opposite. What is the opposite of forsaking all others, anyway? Well, if forsaking all others is about the absence of sex (with other people), then its opposite, in our opinion, is the presence [...]

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An Open Marriage Can’t Fix Something That’s Already Broken

Thursday, March 26, 2015


A new memoir called The Wild Oats Project: One Woman’s Midlife Quest for Passion At Any Cost is giving a lot of committed monogamists the chance to say “I told you so!” about open marriage. Here’s the book in a nutshell: San Francisco-based magazine editor Robin Rinaldi felt like her marriage was in a rut, [...]

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Can You Talk a Guy Into Having an Open Relationship?

Wednesday, March 4, 2015

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photo of open marriage fan Anais Nin via Wikimedia Commons Advice from three of EMandLO.com‚Äôs¬†guy friends. This week they answer the following:¬†‚ÄúI want to have an open relationship, but my boyfriend doesn’t want to open up the relationship. I don’t want to break up, what should I do?‚Ä̬†To ask the guys your own question,¬†click here. [...]

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How to Become a Cuckold (If That’s Your Thing)

Thursday, October 23, 2014


Every now and then (okay, so it’s not exactly rare!) a reader gives better advice than we ever could. Especially when it’s a very specific situation that we have zero experience in… and the reader has experience in spades. This week is just such a case: Reader Ken shares very smart advice on how to [...]

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Why No Blowjobs Can Be a Dealbreaker for Men

Wednesday, October 22, 2014


photo via flickr Last week we published reader Sara’s impassioned comment about blowjobs, and how they are not an inalienable right. This week, we are publishing two responses to her by two of our equally thoughtful, passionate, intelligent male readers, Derek and Steve. Can we just say how much we love that a debate like [...]

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The Bachelorette: What Happens in the Fantasy Suite Stays in the Fantasy Suite?

Tuesday, July 29, 2014


screen shot of ABC’s “After the Final Rose” Last night’s “After the Final Rose” was the most dramatic ever! Not because the Bachelorette (Andi Dorfman) got engaged to a guy (Josh “I Can’t Put My Arms Down” Murray) after only knowing him for two and a half months and only going on, like, three dates [...]

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Extra-Marital Sex: Ask for Permission, Not Forgiveness

Wednesday, July 16, 2014


Reader Vixen told the following cautionary tale in response to our post, “Your Call ‚Äď He‚Äôs Kinky, She‚Äôs Vanilla, Is the Relationship Doomed?” Remember, dear readers: Most people find it easier to get over infidelity than dishonesty in their spouse. The sooner you say something — preferably before you actually cheat — the better. My [...]

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How Open Relationships Cure Jealousy

Wednesday, May 7, 2014


Reader Kristinopolis¬†(who has written in other posts¬†on our site about her experience with open relationships) said the following in response to our post, “Can Open Relationships Cure Jealousy?” I know why it works. When you are committed to one person, everyone else becomes ‚Äėunattainable‚Äô or maybe ‚Äėunloveable‚Äô in a way. Then there’s the typical wanting [...]

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When Do I Tell a New Partner I Want an Open Relationship?

Tuesday, March 18, 2014


We get a lot of¬†advice questions¬†coming in at¬†EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can‚Äôt answer them all. Which is why,¬†once a week, we turn to you to¬†decide how best to advise a reader. You can leave your advice in the comments section below.¬† Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service!   Dear [...]

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Is Cuckolding a Real Trend, Or Just Another Internet Meme?

Monday, August 5, 2013


photo via flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your thoughts in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to [...]

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