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Tag Archive | "Rape"

How to Define “Classic Rape”

Friday, July 11, 2014


Last week, a UK judge proved just how real “rape culture” is: In response to a jury quickly finding a man guilty of raping a woman who was passed out on his couch, the judge offered these condolences to the criminal (i.e. not the victim): “It’s sad to see a man of generally good character [...]

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Why Lo Won’t Watch “Game of Thrones” Anymore

Monday, June 9, 2014


Lo wanted to pen a smart, thoughtful piece on all the serious, misogynistic, pro-rapey problems with “Game of Thrones” that have made it unwatchable for her, but after reading Bethany Jones’ piece¬†‘Game of Thrones,’ Sex and HBO: Where Did It Go Wrong For TV’s Sexual Pioneers? over at Indewire’s “/bent” blog last week, there was [...]

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Comment of the Week: A Different Kind of Ravishment Fantasy

Wednesday, July 24, 2013


Awesome gender-swapped version of Robin Thicke’s “Blurred Lines” by Mod Carousel Reader Simple Girl said the following in response to our post, “Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies, Too?” I have fantasies about raping my boyfriend.. Just rip him apart while he‚Äôs tied to a bed or something. I just wanna see how he [...]

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My Meds Are Making My Dreams Sexually Terrifying

Thursday, April 18, 2013

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Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, another reader continues the running Sapphic theme and asks Lauri: I have recently been diagnosed with depression and [...]

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Dear Em & Lo, Are Rape Fantasies Normal…If I’m a Rape Survivor?

Wednesday, October 10, 2012


Close up of the 17th century painting “The Rape of the Sabine Women” by Cortona¬† Dear Em & Lo, I’m not sure if I’m going to word this correctly, but here it goes. I’m 20 years old and am engaged to a wonderful man who has blessed me with a son. Before I met him [...]

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Top 5 Kinds of Illegitimate Rape

Monday, August 20, 2012


photo by DonkeyHotey on Flickr A big thank you to Missouri Republican Senate candidate and House Committee Member on “Science, Space and Technology,”¬†Todd Akin (pictured above), for finally saying what no one else has had courage to say publicly: that there’s¬†legitimate¬†rape (you know the type: big, scary, minority stranger breaks into your house in the [...]

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Why Women Have Ravishment and Rape Fantasies

Wednesday, August 15, 2012


photo via Parlez-Moi We wrote a post wrote here a few weeks back about research into men’s and women’s fantasy lives — and in particular, how often this sort of research is willfully misinterpreted. That got us wondering what other new fantasy research might be out there… and we came across a fascinating study about [...]

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Comment of the Week: “Ravishment Fantasy” NOT “Rape Fantasy”

Wednesday, March 23, 2011


From Claire, in response to the post “Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies Too?” I just want to say that I am very very offended by the term “rape fantasy.” The word rape implies something being done to you (completely against your will) that you do not want. It should not be used in [...]

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Dream Interpretation: I’m Date-Raped By My Boyfriend

Monday, March 21, 2011


photo by mlvn.snmgl Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I woke up at 3AM and had a little trouble falling back asleep. When I finally fell asleep, I woke [...]

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Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies Too?

Tuesday, March 15, 2011


Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “You often hear how the rape fantasy is common in the minds of many women. Do men have this fantasy, too?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Single Guy (Tom Miller): I’m sure lots of men have rape [...]

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