Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How to Make Role-Playing Less Renn Fair?

photo by h.koppdelaney We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: How Can I Get Him to Dress Up for Halloween?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What’s the best way to get your boyfriend/husband to dress up for Halloween with you, especially if he’s reluctant?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Married Guy (Matt): I’ve read about women in NYC who trade blowjobs for […]

Poll: Who’s Most Fun to Role-Play on TV?

Which TV show has the best role-playing potential? (Feel free to explain your answer or suggest another option in the feedback section.)Market Research   Can’t see the poll? Click here to take it.

Your Call
Your Call on Spank Tuesday: How Do I Get My Guy to Spank Me?

photo via Rachel_Kramer_Bussel “Spank Tuesday” continues with this question from a reader: Dear Em & Lo, How do I ask my husband to spank me? It is many years since I was spanked. Do I just ask him or buy a paddle as a Valentine’s gift or what? — Red-Cheeked Wannabe What should Red-Cheeked Wannabe […]

Truth or Dare for Grownups — Really Lazy Grownups

Truth or Dare has sadly bitten the dust, but you can find lots of other fun adult games at There’s a reason why Truth or Dare is mostly played by high school kids — because they’re the only ones who are willing to spend hours coming up with creative truths or dares to get […]

Slutty Pirate Panties a New Low for Our Nation

If you hadn’t guessed yet, slutty Halloween costumes are a bit of a pet issue of ours, especially — okay, mostly — Em’s. Em thinks Halloween turns the country into a nation of Hooters waitresses; Lo thinks that if a fully grown woman wants to use the spooky holiday to embrace her inner exhibitionist, she […]

How To
Halloween Is for Role-Playing: 6 Easy Ways to Make It Happen!

If you hate karaoke and public speaking is one of your greatest fears, then the whole idea of acting out your fantasies probably sounds about as appealing as, well, karaoke and public speaking. If that’s you, then you can use Halloween to gently test the sexual benefits of role-playing. It’s the perfect excuse to become […]

Do It Tonight
Do It Tonight: Blindfold Your Partner

photo by nyki_m The blindfolds that come free with a transatlantic Virgin flight (oh, really, you shouldn’t have, Richard Branson) are sometimes printed with the phrase “forty winks” — and we think we know what kind of winks they’re talking about. Who hasn’t stuffed a complimentary blindfold into their carry-on and thought, “Ooh, I should […]

Dear Em & Lo
Can a Marriage Survive a Consensual Third Party?

We know that a helpful answer to this question goes deeper than a multiple-choice poll, so we encourage you to cast your vote and then leave your advice/war stories/encouragement for Maybe Baby in the comments section below. Dear Em & Lo, I hope you can help me and my wife with our problem.We have been […]

Do It Tonight
Do It Tonight! Make Your One-Night Stand a Little Naughtier

photo by Aoife city womanchile Next time you take a beautiful stranger back to your place for a one-night stand, use the opportunity to experiment with acts that you consider out of character. (And no, we don’t mean letting them tie you up — remember, kids: don’t stare at the sun, don’t run with scissors, […]