Our post “My Boyfriend Has a Small Penis….At Least, It’s Small to Me” has the most comments of anything on EMandLO.com — almost 1000! And they just keep coming. Not all of them are helpful . . . or sane. So it’s nice when we get a tempered voice of reason. This week it was from John:
Going to share something to make a point: My wife has a condition call endometriosis. Basically her “red army” is bigger than most and more painful. As such, she cannot bear children. Trying to adopt through the foster system, which is not as easy as you’d think.
I share that to bring up the point that it is her body and she cannot control that. I have no intention of leaving her. For one, we love each other. Also, it would be wrong to leave someone over something that person cannot control.
The only reason to be with or not be with someone is character. Does he treat you with respect? Is he a hard worker? Does he have a good job or otherwise can he hold a job? Is he honest? Faithful? Would he be a good provider? Would he be a good husband and father? Those are the questions and every man has the right to prove he can be all those things.
The size of his penis is something he has no control over. To be blunt, it is wrong to either be with or not be with a man based on the size of his penis. No ifs, ands or buts. You know you are wrong if you consider leaving a guy for that. You should have empathy for him if it’s really that small.
You should not dump the guy, laugh at him and tell all your girlfriends about him. How would you feel if there was something about you that you had no control over? You’d want your man to love you regardless.
— John
