We know that this week’s question is kind of a gimme — like, duh, of course she should dump his cheating ass. But (a) we thought that the reader in question would be more likely to do the actual dumping if she heard that advice from a bunch of you, and (b) we’d love you guys to weigh in on the idea of stopping an illicit sexual encounter halfway because you feel bad. Is it possible that this has ever happened, even once, in the history of dating? That’s a serious question, by the way.
Soooo… make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.
Dear Em & Lo,
I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year. Before me — and also, I suspect, whenever we break up — he is a bit of a player. Every time we break up he goes and parties and texts other girls. But this time, something may have actually happened.
Okay, so we have just found out we are pregnant. We were excited but then everything changed. We broke up and he went out partying. Well TWO DAYS after we broke up, someone told me he was seen at a hotel with a female. I went to go check it out and actually saw it for myself.
Well, we got back together two days after that. And I confronted him about it. He did not lie about being there, because he knew I saw him I asked what happened with the girl and he said nothing. That he couldn’t go through with it because it wasn’t me. She didn’t have my eyes or lips or any of my bodily features. It’s someone he’s dated before, I even saw hickeys on his chest and neck. My question is this:
Do guys initiate meaningless sex or sex in general or let girls initiate it, and then when it’s about to happen (even getting as far as getting hickeys), they back out because they feel that it’s nasty and they are starting to miss their ex??
I have a gut feeling that he did it. But I can’t determine if the feeling is my gut or my fear. Should I forgive him and let go or break up with him for good?
— Blinded by Love
