I Dreamt My Child’s Father Had Another Baby with Someone Else

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri:

I really need some understanding about this dream I had. I couldn’t go back to sleep because I wanted to know what it meant so bad.

My boyfriend and I recently had a baby girl in November of 2015. We fight all the time for various reasons, but now it’s been getting physical. Yesterday we had a big fight because someone called my phone late at night and he didn’t like it; it got outta control and I kicked him.

Later that night I had a dream that he was on the phone with some girl who said he had gotten her pregnant in November (she was also having a girl). She said he has an extra key to her apartment and that he showed up there. We fought. I took all the money out his pockets and left crying, hurt, and then I just woke up!

Please tell me, what does this mean? I’m feeling like I don’t care after the fight, but it did bother me.

LauriPlease do not kick your boyfriend and father of your child. No matter how rotten and selfish you think he is being, resorting to violence only makes a bad situation exponentially worse. Remember, you are also showing your daughter that hitting and kicking is an acceptable way to communicate. The same goes for your boyfriend.

Okay, now that I am off my soapbox, let’s figure out this dream. Other than the dream, do you have a reason to suspect he may be cheating? Even if you do, I think the dream goes even deeper than that. The dream starts out where he is on the phone. That tells us right away that this dream is commenting on the communication between the two of you. He is talking to a girl that he got pregnant in November… when YOUR baby was born. That tells us that this girl represents your relationship and the pregnancy symbolizes how the relationship has grown and developed since the birth of your real child. The extra key means he has an additional way to open up and connect with you now that you have a child BUT you guys fight in the dream because you fight in real life. You also take all his money which indicates an imbalance in the emotional and psychological value you have in the relationship. There is no sharing… only taking.

I want you to reflect on this very deeply: Do you feel you have to force him to place value on your relationship and child, or are you the one not seeing his value? Dreams give us the opportunity to look at our current issues from a different and fresher and HONEST perspective. Perhaps you two can discuss this together, like adults, WITHOUT VIOLENCE, and come to a point where you can better understand the other’s point of view… again without violence please.

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4 Comments

  1. I keep having dreams that my husband has got another women pregnant. I had this dream Several times now. This particular time she lived in the same building and he was outside with me and she pulled up with a new tv to take up and he called her babe and I said why are you calling her babe her replied because that’s my girlfriend. So I dragged her outta the car and started to beat her ass. Then a few hours past and she knocked on my door to tell me that she was on her way to the doctor because she thought she was pregnant. I broke down in my dream I couldn’t even speak or yell . I was completely numb.

  2. I keep having reoccurring dreams about my now ex-husband… whom I divorced signed divorce papers on on Feb 14 2018 & the divorce was final March 30 2018… (I also found out I was pregnant on Feb 14 the day I signed the papers) however I keep dreaming of him having a baby with someone else who is never shown in the dream… however I am currently 5 months pregnant…the first time I dreamed it the girl was pregnant this time she had the baby… and he texted me and was like I f’ed up… I was like ok wuts wrong?? Then he sent me pics of a new born baby and he was holding he was smiling on the pics and telling me he was so sorry all I could do was cry then I woke up. Please help this is so confusing to me… thanks.

  3. I had a dream that my boyfriend was having twins with another woman. In my dream it seemed pretty normal and I wasn’t upset by it….which is weird because when I woke up I was. After we found out he was having twins he told me he was going to be gone for a whole week when the twins are born. What does this mean?

  4. I had a dream my sons dad cheated on me with another woman and got another woman pregnant and kept it a secret from me . I found on through social media a person I don’t associate with me sent me a picture of him at the hospital with her while they were about to have the baby . When I confronted him all he said was there was nothing he could do now. He has cheated almost our entire relationship with a certain female but we have been happy for the past 3 weeks which is a lot for us. I haven’t seen anything on his phone or social of him cheating and the mistress hasn’t called me (she does from time to brag about him cheating) she once said she was pregnant then recently told me she got an abortion , he bought her a ring and everything . We have been together going on 5 years , I just hope this isn’t a sign that he’s cheating again because I can’t take anymore of that

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