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Top 5 Love Lessons Learned from the Bachelorette (S 9, Ep 8)

photo via ABC.com Dating don’ts: Showing up shirtless. Showing up in an animal mascot suit. Showing up in earnest. Don’t ever, EVER, let your Dad touch your date more than you’ve touched your date. Similarly: If you ever want to have sex again, do NOT, under any circumstances, get a nasal adjustment on national television. […]

Horoscopes
Your Weekly Horoscopes: 07-15-2013

photo by Simply Schmoopie Each week, we at EMandLO.com predict the course of your love life for the week with our own version of irreverent horoscopes — ignore our advice at your own peril! (Hyperbole intended for dramatic effect.) This week, we present your horos in short poem form: aries (Mar. 21st-Apr. 20th) New love is like a bunny. […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: How You Know He’s “The One”

Reader MarcieT said the following in response to our post “Your Call: How Do I Know If He’s ‘The One’?” What would you add to this list? (Um, sexual compatibility, anyone?) What would you not include? (Maybe you like watching TV on your own…) You know he’s “The One” when: You miss having him beside you […]

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Blog Snog: I Don’t Masturbate (But It Doesn’t Make Me a Bad Feminist)

photo via Wiki Images The Frisky: I don’t masturbate (but that doesn’t make me a bad feminist). YourTango: Top 10 most epic wedding toasts of all time. Nerve: Deconstructing my sexual attraction to Steve Carrell. PopSugar: 5 things single women never want to hear. HuffPo Women: What couples really want when they argue. How About We: […]

Dream Interpretation
I’m Straight But My Dreams Are of Lesbian Heartbreak

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri: Lately I’ve been having dreams about being in love with a woman. So in […]

Pop Culture
Top 5 Works of Dirty Literature You Can Read in Public

We’d never be caught dead reading Fifty Shades of Grey — let alone well-written erotica — in public. There’s just something unseemly about it, like PDA with too much tongue. But there are plenty of books that can satisfy your craving for smut while making you appear erudite to your neighbors on the beach or the subway. Tropic of […]

News
People Really Do Win on EMandLO.com!

We recently got a nice thank you note from the winner of our  GÄSM contest: Today I got the gift in the post (at last), it actually was delayed in customs here but it arrived, cannot believe it, so so happy and cannot wait to try out. Amazing guys, thank you very much, never won anything […]

How To
Tantric Oral Sex OR How to Become a Human Vibrator

While we were thrilled our latest book 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink won the silver medal in the sex & relationships category at the Independent Publishers Book Awards this year, we’ll admit we were a little disappointed it wasn’t the gold. That honor went to Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson for […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Do I Mentally Unblock My Orgasm?

photo via flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]

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Top 5 Love Lessons Learned from The Bachelorette (S 9, Ep 7)

photo via ABC.com If someone asks you (Catherine) about the love of your life (Sean) and you respond “We’re best friends”…? Hello, red flag?! When you (Michael) are trying to make someone (Des) fall in love with you, don’t talk about all the negatives in your life: exes, health problems, daddy issues, freakin’ tombstones, etc. […]

Pop Culture
Kinky Poem of the Week: The World’s Guide to Beginning

You may recall that a month or so back, we were in New York City to receive an IPPY Award for our latest book, 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink. While there, we met  Marty McConnell, silver medalist in the poetry category for her collection Wine for a Shotgun. When the poetry winners were each […]

Horoscopes
Your Weekly Horoscopes: 07-08-2013

photo by Simply Schmoopie Each week, we at EMandLO.com predict the course of your love life for the week with our own version of irreverent horoscopes — ignore our advice at your own peril! (Hyperbole intended for dramatic effect.) This week, we present your horos in short poem form: aries (Mar. 21st-Apr. 20th) Someone’s going to attempt to pull […]

News
Happy Independence Weekend!

We’re off for the long holiday weekend (and hope you are too!). We’ll be back with our regularly scheduled regimen of sex, love and everything in between on Monday, July 8th. Until then, go make some fireworks (our Wise Guys have some ideas if you’re short on inspiration). Happy Fourth!

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: How to Make Fireworks in the Bedroom

Advice from three of EM & LO‘s guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Seeing as it’s Independence Day this week, what’s your number 1 tip for making fireworks in the bedroom?” Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): Pop champagne! Sex is all about letting go of inhibitions and nothing helps you tap into those deep, […]

TV
Top 5 Love Lessons Learned from The Bachelorette (S 9, Ep 6)

photo via ABC.com There are no imperfect places to fall in love in the entire resort world. None. Yes, yes, do take your date by the hand in the middle of some boring event, run out into a nearby secluded corridor, press them up against the wall and kiss them passionately, please, yes, do that. […]