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Confessions
Comment of the Week: “Ravishment Fantasy” NOT “Rape Fantasy”

  From Claire, in response to the post “Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies Too?” I just want to say that I am very very offended by the term “rape fantasy.” The word rape implies something being done to you (completely against your will) that you do not want. It should not be used […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: What’s a Good Toy for a Grandma?

the Zini Roae available at EdenFantasys Dear Em & Lo, I am a 68-year-old, single great-grandmother and I have been celibate for at least 20 years. Well, I’ve been getting urges and don’t quite know what to do about them. I currently don’t have any male companionship so I thought about toys. What would you […]

News
Naked News: Men Used to Have Prickly Peens

photo via Flickr In French tickler news: Our male ancestors had penile spines. Talk about cut backs: Could San Fran really ban circumcision? We just knew those V-necks were a mistake two weeks ago!: Iranian cleric blames quakes on promiscuous women. Read the rest of this post on SUNfiltered

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Most Men Consider Themselves Feminists?

Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do most guys you know consider themselves feminists? Why or why not?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Married Guy (David Jacobs): No, most of my friends are sexist, racist, classist pigs. What can I say? They’re just […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I’m Date-Raped By My Boyfriend

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I woke up at 3AM and had a little trouble falling back asleep. When I finally fell asleep, I woke up in my […]

Websites
I Love You But…

Girlfriend & boyfriend Alex Holder and Ross Neil are both artists and creatives in advertising. Last year, they launched their online picture book about relationships, LoveYouBut.com. It focuses on “the moment in a relationship when you realise you don’t love someone completely, because there is one little thing that keeps bothering you. When it bothers […]

Websites
Blog Snog: 20 Famous Foks You Can Have Sex with Tonight!

TheFrisky: 20 famous folks you can have sex with tonight! (via their branded condoms) TomFoolery: 8 things Charlie Sheen can teach us about breakups. EdenFantasys’ Sexis: How to turn someone down not-exactly gently. MyDaily: The pros and cons of separate beds. CollegeCandy: 10 more things college kids should know about sex. TresSugar: The crazy things […]

News
Supermoon This Saturday, Expect Amore

photo via Flickr When the moon hits your eye like a big pizza pie, that’s amore! So brace yourself for love this Saturday night (March 19th) when, according to Space.com, “the moon will swing around Earth more closely than it has in the past 18 years, lighting up the night sky from just 221,567 miles […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Is She Justified in Cheating on Her Boyfriend?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & Lo, The guy […]

Books
Why Sex Hurts — And We Don’t Mean Heartbreak

photo by Gabriel Delgado Last week we talked about when sex hurts, and why so many women still don’t admit to having this problem. It’s something that we, as sex writers, hear about constantly — it’s a sad but true fact that many women are more open with sex advice columnists than their own gynecologists […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I’m a White-Picket-Fence Feminist

Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: My armpits are hairy. I study gender and sexuality. The Birkenstocks in my closet are held together by duct tape. If it were the sixties, my bra would probably be burning in the town square (if women […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Kate: What’s Good Pre-Menopause Birth Control?

photo by Jenny Lee Silver Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions here every two weeks. To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, My mom’s hormones started changing when she was 38, and she actually got […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: My Boyfriend Is Too Big for Me

Dear Em & Lo, My current guy and I get along great, but we may not be sexually compatible. He has a really thick penis (think large cucumber), and I seem to be too small! We have not had successful intercourse because it hurts me way too much. Have you ever heard of this problem […]

TV
“Sex in America with Lisa Ling”

At least, that’s what Ling’s new show on OWN (Oprah’s new tv network) should be called, instead of “Our America with Lisa Ling.” After all, four of the first five episodes focus on matters of sexuality: There’s “Pray the Gay Away,” “Transgendered Lives,” “The State of Sex Offenders,” and tonight at 10pm “Online Brides” (all […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Have Rape Fantasies Too?

Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “You often hear how the rape fantasy is common in the minds of many women. Do men have this fantasy, too?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Single Guy (Tom Miller): I’m sure lots of men have rape […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretaion: My Real-Life, One-Time Girl Crush Eggs Me On

photo by marcogomes Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: Ok, in real life several years ago I fell for my friend who is the same sex. We almost acted […]