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The Harsh Reality of Religion-Driven Sex Ed in America

Pantsuit Nation, the private Facebook group of around 4 million members, was originally created as online camaraderie for Hillary Clinton supporters in the 2016 election but has since morphed into a sort of support group for progressives facing trying times under the Trump administration. The following is a recent post to the group from a midwestern parent who gave us […]

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What the Dutch Can Teach Us About Sex

photo via flickr And no, we’re not talking about the relative appeal of sex in clogs. We have long sung the praises of Holland’s approach to sex — and, in particular, its approach to sex & pregnancy education. Because Holland has results that we can all agree are worth aspiring to (even bat-shit-crazy Michele Bachmann): […]

Sexual Health
Get a FREE Hex “Super Condom” to Help Fight “Super Gonorrhea” & Other STIs!

April is STD Awareness Month (thanks to the Center for Disease Control and Prevention, aka the CDC) and it could not be more relevant in 2016. We started this year with the knowledge that chlamydia, gonorrhea and syphilis infections are on the rise in the USA; then came the discoveries surrounding the spread and implications of Zika […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: How Do I Tell a Guy How Inexperienced I Am?

photo by Balakov Hey Em & Lo, I’m currently 26 and, yep, a virgin. I haven’t been “saving myself” and have no reason for this phenomenon other than I’ve never had the opportunity! (I had low self-esteem in high school, I was involved with theatre in college and all my crushes were gay in college, […]

Sexual Health
Teen Sex? Planned Parenthood Has an App for That

Actually, make that nine apps. Planned Parenthood knows better than anyone that most teenagers in this country don’t get the sex ed they need. Some schools continue to preach abstinence-only education, despite the fact that research has shown this leads to less safe sex, when the sex finally occurs (and in most cases it doesn’t […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week (OR EMandLO.com Has the Smartest Readers!)

We feel honored, lucky and humble that some very smart readers and writers choose EMandLO.com as their place to intelligently discuss and debate issues of sexuality and culture. Exhibit A: The comments section of last week’s Comment of the Week, which was a response to the post “Your Call – How Long Can a Virgin Make […]

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What If Your Sex Ed Teacher Wanted You to Enjoy Sex?

photo via NYTimes.com We were big fans of Laurie Abraham’s even before she stopped by our book club recently and drank red wine with us while we interrogated her about her book, The Husbands and Wives Club: A Year in the Life of a Couples’ Therapy Group. She’s a smart and thoughtful (and funny) writer […]

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Rick Perry on Abstinence-Only Education

The more we hear about Rick “Hair Helmet” Perry, the more frightened we get. Check out this YouTube clip where he struggles to answer a legitimate question: why does Texas continue to teach abstinence-only programs when they don’t work, since Texas has one of the highest rates of teen pregnancy in the nation? You’ll get serious […]

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Sex Ed Video Game Is Almost a Really Good Idea

Okay, we admit it: When we first read about an abstinence video game in development down in Florida, we were ready to jump all over what a ridiculous idea it was. As if abstinence-only education needed to be removed even further from reality! As if abstinence-only education really deserved another $434,000 federal dollars! Etc. But when […]

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Naked News: Abstinence, Sex Rehab, STD Lawsuits

photo by Orthoboric Turns out Utah Senator Orrin Hatch managed to sneak an amendment into the healthcare bill (one of the only Republican amendments to survive the last-minute wrangling) which provides $50 million annually for five years to states that offer abstinence programs in public schools. An attorney is suing his former son-in-law for more […]

Personal Essays
The Virgin Diaries: The Sexiness of Abstinence

Our contributor Katherine Chen, a sophomore English major at Princeton University (check out her personal site here), is penning a series of confessions for EMandLO.com collectively called “The Virgin Diaries.” Here’s her third installment: These days, every girl between 10 and 50 seems to be obsessed with the Twilight Saga. You’d think it was because […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I Need More Hot Sweaty . . . Cuddling

photo by Leeni Speaking of casual cuddling: Our contributor Abby Spector, who is double-majoring in English and Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: It has been exactly a year since I last had sex. I didn’t intend on taking a vow of celibacy. Like belly button lint and shocking celebrity deaths […]

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Candie’s “Sexes Up” Abstinence Campaign

The Candie’s Foundation’s pro-abstinence tee We guess it was only a matter of time before the true-love-waits crew decided to use sex to sell abstinence. After all, if sex can sell anything — even, ew, toilet paper — why shouldn’t it be used to promote the very absence of sex? That’s so po-mo our heads […]

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Stop Funding for Abstinence-Only Programs Now!

feminist majority T Tomorrow, July 8th, the House Appropriations Committee’s subcommittee on Labor, Health and Human Services and Education (Labor HHS) will be considering funding for the fiscal year 2010. Email the Labor HHS Subcommittee and Call Chairman David Obey, (D-WI-7), at 202-225-3365 and tell them that failed abstinence-only sex education programs must not be […]