Advice
How To
4 New Routes to Your Orgasm

photo via Flickr Most people have that one, fail-safe way that gets them from point A to point O quickly and directly, scenic lookout points be damned! And when you’re busy or tired (read: every minute of every day), it’s easy (and understandable) to resort to that surefire route on the rare occasion you do […]

How To
How to Choose Your Very First Vibrator

LELO’s Nea vibrator So you’re ready to purchase your very own My First Vibrator? Good for you! And you came to the right place, because yours truly, Em & Lo, happen to be your very personal shoppers. Exploring on your own is the best way to start learning the pattern of your sexual response — […]

TV
Top 10 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (Andi’s Fantasy Suites)

We always look forward to the Fantasy Suite episodes — contestants get naked, both literally and figuratively, and shit gets real. The Bachelor or Bachelorette may or may not sleep with three hopefuls in three days — and it’s all made possible by the host-slash-pimp, Chris. Unless, of course, it’s Andi’s season, in which case […]

How To
How to Define “Classic Rape”

Last week, a UK judge proved just how real “rape culture” is: In response to a jury quickly finding a man guilty of raping a woman who was passed out on his couch, the judge offered these condolences to the criminal (i.e. not the victim): “It’s sad to see a man of generally good character […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: What Do Men Think About When They Masturbate?

photo via flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. A while back, one woman wanted to know “Why do men masturbate in relationships, even when the sex is good and regular?” In his response, Max (one of our Single Straight Guys) said, “Trust me: You don’t want to do the things that we’re thinking […]

Pop Culture
Top 5 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (Andi on Hometown Dates)

. When wooing someone — especially someone with an intellectual career — avoid these decidedly unsexy words and phrases: “it’s hard work,” “don’t be afraid to get your hands dirty,” “gumption,” “there’s no limits for a woman on a farm,” and “homemaker” (even if the person wouldn’t mind being a stay-at-home parent, there’s something so […]

How To
How to Give a Great Couples Massage

When Denis Merkas, founder of “Melt: Massage for Couples,” asked us to review his online video series, we admit we were a bit trepidatious: images of sensitive ponytail men came to mind, the sound of cheesy tantric sitars filled our imaginations, and we thought we could suddenly smell a hint of patchouli in the air. […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Ever Turn Down Casual Sex?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Do guys ever turn down casual sex? To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Married Guy (Jamie): My own experience with casual sex is a bit limited.  I was always a “girlfriend guy” and it was only between relationships […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Is It Really Such a Big Deal If I Hate Giving Blowjobs?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “I really hate going down on guys. I’ve tried it, I don’t like it. In fact, I loathe it. I feel bad about it, but if I don’t expect oral in return (I don’t), then why should I feel compelled to do […]

Pop Culture
Top 5 Love Lessons from The Bachelorette (Andi in Italy)

screenshot from ABC’s “The Bachelorette” For the love of all that’s clean and right and good, wash your hands after you go to the bathroom! And not just when you’re on a date — every time. When on a date, don’t talk about how bad you are in bed, even if you’re just joking, for […]

How To
A Fantastic Guide to Couples Massage (with No Sensitive Ponytail Men!)

When Denis Merkas, founder of “Melt: Massage for Couples,” asked us to review his online video series, we admit we were a bit trepidatious: images of sensitive ponytail men came to mind, the sound of cheesy tantric sitars filled our imaginations, and we thought we could suddenly smell a hint of patchouli in the air. […]

Dear Em & Lo
8 Ways to Overcome Anxiety About a Gynecologist Visit

photo via flickr Nervous about going to the gynecologist? That’s a bummer. Okay, that’s all the sympathy you’re going to get from us, because you’ve got to get over it. Your health is at stake, especially once you’re sexually active — and there’s nothing more important. We all have to do things we don’t like: […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: Can a Dream Reveal the Father of My Baby?

photo via flickr Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it (18 and older only, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: I had sex with more than […]

Comment of the Week
Comment of the Week: Porn Is No Biggie

photo via Flickr Reader Jessica wrote the following in response to our post, “Wise Guys: He Looks at Other Women But Gets Jealous If I Ogle Men“: I used to be one of those women, when I was younger, who would fly off the handle if I saw my boyfriend looking at another woman. After going through […]

Wise Guys
Why Do Men Masturbate When They’re Having Regular Sex?

photo via flickr Wise Guys is a regular column offering advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why do men masturbate in relationships, even when the sex is good and regular?” Straight Married Guy (Ben): Every guy has a regular masturbation frequency (RMF) that is more or less unchangeable […]

Pop Culture
Top 5 Love Lessons from The Bachelorette (Andi, Week 5)

screenshot from ABC’s “The Bachelorette” When trying to express your most romantic feelings, do not say “You are awesome,” as if you’re at some sporting event marveling at an epic play, bro. Don’t be a poor sport on a date. Join in, lighten up and have a laugh. (That said, if your date makes you […]