Your Call
Your Call: I Can’t Handle My Boyfriend’s Bisexuality

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em and Lo, I am […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: Do My Lesbian Dreams Mean I’m Bi?

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: So I’ve been having a lot of wet dreams lately. That fact I find normal. But it’s who I’m having them with that […]

Penguins Continue to Wage War on Family Values

photo by Paul_Mannix Guess which book, according to the American Library Association, is the title most often requested to be removed from schools and libraries in the U.S.? Give up? For the third year in a row, it’s And Tango Makes Three, which is a guide to building your own bomb while smoking crack and attending orgies […]

Poll for Gals: Ever Kissed Outside Your Sexual Orientation?

Gals, have you ever tongue kissed someone outside of your identified sexual orientation? (I.e. if you’re a straight woman, have you ever kissed a woman?)(polling) Can’t see the poll? Click here to take it.

Dear Em & Lo
How One Couple Conquered Jealousy In Their Open Relationship

About 18 months ago we answered a reader’s plea for advice about her open relationship. And then just this week we heard from the reader’s boyfriend, Zac, who told us that the advice totally worked! We’re suckers for a success story, especially when it’s one of our own, so we thought we’d reprint the various […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Alcohol Saved My Sex Life…But Hurt It Too

photo via freeparking Our contributor Abby Spector, who is double-majoring in English and Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: All my sex life, I’ve had a love-hate relationship with alcohol. Not because it provokes the desire but takes away the performance, as Shakespeare once said. No, my problem is that it […]