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Questioning the Kink in the “Fifty Shades” Movie, in Honor of Its Digital/DVD Release

When Fifty Shades of Grey first hit screens this past February, our friend and colleague Gwynne Watkins — who writes for Yahoo, often awesomely about movies — interviewed us about how realistic the kink was. In honor of the movie’s digital & DVD release this week, we’re publishing the initial, unedited and unabridged email questions we exchanged […]

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5 Reasons Why You Should Read “I Take You” by Eliza Kennedy

Have you met Lily Wilder? You should. She’s the seriously funny, seriously sex-driven, and seriously flawed protagonist of the novel I Take You by Eliza Kennedy, which is on sale starting today. Here are five reasons why you should pick up a copy right now… 1. I Take You is a straightforward look at female […]

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R.I.P. Günter Grass: A (Sexy) Excerpt from “The Tin Drum”

photo via Wikimedia Commons The German novelist and Nobel Prize winner Günter Grass died yesterday at the age of 87. According to the New York Times, “He was a pre-eminent public intellectual who had pushed Germans to confront the ugly aspects of their history. … Many called [him] his country’s moral conscience but [he] stunned Europe when he revealed […]

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New Book: “Come As You Are”

Emily Nagoski, Ph.D., speaks our kind of language. We read the first few pages of her new book, “Come As You Are: The Surprising New Science That Will Transform Your Sex Life,” and we were sold. It tackles the tricky task of explaining women’s complex sexuality (which, hello, is different from men’s) so people can […]

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An Open Marriage Can’t Fix Something That’s Already Broken

A new memoir called The Wild Oats Project: One Woman’s Midlife Quest for Passion At Any Cost is giving a lot of committed monogamists the chance to say “I told you so!” about open marriage. Here’s the book in a nutshell: San Francisco-based magazine editor Robin Rinaldi felt like her marriage was in a rut, […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: You Just Cracked Us Up!

We recently received a Facebook message that warmed the cockles of our hearts, and since we’re totally shameless when it comes to self-promotion, we thought we’d share it with you. Gerry, you made our month! Dear Em & Lo, I’m writing to tell you that I just finished laughing so hard, I’m pretty sure it […]

Movies
How the “Fifty Shades” Movie Is Better Than the Book

Yes, the movie was better than the book. Of course, if you’ve read the book, then you know that’s not saying much. The bar was pretty low to begin with. And one would hope that with a 40 mil production budget and a feminist director, that bar would inevitably be raised pretty high. Of course, […]

How To
How to Spank Like Christian Grey

The following is an excerpt from the “S” section of our A-Z book, 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink. Every bolded word below indicates an entry in our encyclopedia of sorts. The book is on sale now! Spanking is hand-to-tush contact, which many consider more intimate and less scary than any other type of flagellation. […]

Movies
Top 10 Things We Hope the “Fifty Shades” Movie Does Better Than the Book

OMG IT’S TONIGHT OMG IT’S TONIGHT OMG IT’S TONIGHT! The film adaptation of Fifty Shades of Grey, the first book in the mega-selling erotic trilogy by E.L. James, finally opens tonight! Well, officially it opens tomorrow, but a bunch of theaters are holding screenings tonight. Ladies, we hope your limos are booked (ours is… seriously). […]

How To
How to Hardware (Un)Like Christian Grey

The following is an excerpt from the “H” section of our A-Z book, 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink. Every bolded word below indicates an entry in our encyclopedia of sorts. The book is on sale now in both paperback and Kindle form! A hardware store is a one-stop shopping center for all your BDSM needs. […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: How Will “Fifty Shades” Affect Young Women?

Dear Em & Lo,  Have you thought about the effect that this film may have on young girls — how this film will set their expectations as to what sex is like? — Fifty Shades of Fay   Dear FSoF, Honestly, we haven’t. We’ve been too distracted by our upcoming ladies night screening of it! […]

How To
10 Simple Steps to “Fiftyize” Your Love Life

Here’s a nifty little 10-step program for introducing BDSM into the bedroom, inspired by our book, 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink: 1. Talk Dirty to Him Bringing up BDSM with your partner can be shocking and awkward. A great way to test a fantasy is to incorporate it into dirty talk. Whisper in your […]

Movies
Watch the Entire “Fifty Shades” Movie Online Right Now!

Okay, it’s not exactly the entire movie. But from these five sneak-peak clips that ran on the Today Show this past week, you basically get a complete picture (lots of awkward pauses, dubious chemistry, lame Christian Grey hair). Are we still gonna see it? Hells yes! But now, you don’t have to. Here they are, […]

Movies
The 17 Most Annoying Aspects of the “Fifty Shades” Story

By Lindsey Kupfer for YourTango.com Here’s a refresher course on how messed up Fifty Shades really is. The Fifty Shades Of Grey movie hype is growing as the movie’s release date (February 13) gets closer, which means a barrage of media attention is once more on the mommy porn flick. And that means I get to hear endless apologies and explanations […]

Pop Culture
How “Fifty Shades” Has Changed Sex Over the Past Several Years

sponsored post As if the palpable global anticipation for the first movie adaptation of E.L. James’ erotic novel “Fifty Shades of Grey” wasn’t evidence enough, our friends over at LELO have actually quantified just how influential the story of Ana, Christian and his woven tie have been on the world’s sexual habits. They surveyed over 10,000 […]

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The Original “Fifty Shades of Grey”

Earlier covers of The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty trilogy In my senior year of high school, I (Lo) read The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty, the first in a three-book series by vampire-genre goddess Anne Rice (who was a fave of mine at the time) writing under the pen name “A. N. Roquelaure.” Except instead of vampires, […]