Dating
Research
No, He's Not Trying to Turn You Gay

graphic via OKTrends We are completely hooked on the dating research blog OKTrends because of how often it reminds us that the world is, in fact, a sane place — no matter how many of our politicians think that gay people shouldn’t be allowed to teach in schools or die for their country or get […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: What’s the Best Way to Tell a Guy I’m a Virgin?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & Lo, I’m a […]

How To
Don't Be a Beauty Fascist When It Comes to Dating

Let’s imagine that you’re in a relationship with someone you really dig: they’re witty, wise beyond their years, and well versed in the ways of amore. Plus, their table manners are impeccable. And yet, you find yourself in the midst of what might be termed a moral conundrum. Your dilemma? This special someone is severely […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, Did I Put Out Prematurely?

photo by Frank H Dear Em and Lo, OK, here’s a complicated question, but I’m not fond of roadside psychics, so you guys are my best bet. I’ve been carrying on a flirtation with a local bartender for about a month now. The other night, the flirtation led to drinks at a neighboring bar, and […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys – What's the Best Way to Turn Down a 2nd Date?

photo by Brujita Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: ” What’s the best way to turn down a guy who you’ve been on a date or two with, but don’t want to go on any others?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Gay Engaged Guy […]

How To
10 Simple Steps to Hosting a Sexy Sleepover

photo by SFBNess If you’re planning on having a new guest over to “look at your etchings” for the first time, follow these 10 rules to ensure there’s a next time: Only invite a guest over when you won’t have to rush out the door the next morning. Warn any roommates that you will be […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys – Do You Really Want to Know How Many Partners She's Had?

photo by Raissa Bandou Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “When it comes to the number of sexual partners a woman has had, do guys want to know? Even if they say they do, are they lying?” Straight Single Guy (Mark Luczak): It’s the Information Age, and people […]

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Dear Em & Lo – How Can I Dump Him If He Won't See Me?

photo by faster_panda_kill_kill Dear Em & Lo, So I have this guy friend who I met my freshmen year at college. We used to hang out a lot together and, well, I ended up liking him. The only problem was that he sometimes did not seem to feel the same way towards me. He would flirt back and […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: What's the Biggest First Date Turn-Off?

photo by Philippe Guillaume Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What’s the number one turn-off on a first date for a guy?” Straight Married Guy (Matt): Bad breath. That would be it for me with the first whiff — any chance of relationship: done. Most other things (obviously […]

Pop Culture
Books: Every Rose Has Its Thorn

We really should have some kind of back-stabbing, cat-fighting (or at least pillow-fighting) relationship with Erin Bradley — author of the new book Every Rose Has Its Thorn: The Rock ‘n’ Roll Field Guide to Guys — seeing as she picked up where we left off at Nerve.com. She’s been their advice lady now for […]

How To
The How To's of Designated Dialing

photo by sidewalk_flying Drunk dialing — we’ve all been there. For the record, not all booty calls conducted under the influence are considered drunk dialing. It’s only drunk dialing if you’re making a call that you will actually regret in the morning, whether or not that call results in booty. Typically when you drunk dial, […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call – Is Living with Your Mom a Dealbreaker for Guys?

photo by klynslis Share your advice for this reader in the comments section below… Dear Em & Lo and Wise Guys, I’m a 38 year old woman and after a horrendous year (divorce, job loss, money loss), I finally have a job that I’m trying to earn more money at.  The problem is, my mom […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo – When Undefined Relationships Go Wrong…

photo by Katie Tegtmeyer [Note to readers: This advice letter is loooong but it was impossible to edit down without affecting the story. And also, we felt it was only right that you got to read the whole long messy debacle that we responded to!] Dear Em & Lo, I am a 26-year-old woman and […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Is There Such a Thing as Too Much Sex?

photo by fhwrdh Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Is there such a thing as too much sex for a guy? Or will men generally be up for it whenever it’s offered/available?” Gay Single Guy (Daniel): THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS TOO MUCH SEX for a guy. […]

News
Help These Non-Profits with a Simple Online Vote!

Instead of pumping 20 million into Super Bowl advertising, Pepsi spent just one million and are putting the other 19 toward community grants through loan intermediaries in their Pepsi Refresh Challenge Grant. Here are two that are near and dear to our hearts that we think are worth your votes. You can vote every day […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Girlfriends Need Friends' Approval?

seal from say-it.com’s seal maker Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “How important is it to guys that his friends like/approve of the woman he’s dating?“ Straight Married Guy (Ben): It really depends on how serious the relationship is and how good your friends are. If it’s a […]