Dating
How To
5 Fixes for Saying the Wrong Name in Bed

Dear Em & Lo,  I like this man so much. But I called him my ex’s name when he was going down on me and I wasn’t even thinking of my ex or anything! I was with my ex for 2 years and this guy 3 months. I’m done with my ex but the new […]

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How to Avoid “Boyfriend Pedestal Syndrome” (and Save Your Relationship)

by Tristan Coopersmith for YourTango Date him, don’t praise him like a god. I know the case of the pedestal boyfriend all too well. Looking in my own rear-view mirror, I’ve put a lot of guys up on this platform — this very grand, very tall, very lavish untouchable platform, worshipping them for all that […]

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5 Signs He Doesn’t Like You as Much as You Like Him

By Kelly P. Crossing for YourTango You’re dating this cute guy. He’s a real charmer. You like him — a lot. But then you have a disturbing thought when you’re apart: what if you like him more than he likes you?  You want to find out (no, you need to find out), because the answer to your predicament can mean the difference […]

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How Much Should You Google a New Partner?

Sure, sure, we know — everyone does it, it’s not just you. But would it be better for your relationships if you didn’t? And at what point in a relationship is it no longer weird to admit to someone that you Googled them? Also, how deep should you Google? For example, is it too psycho […]

Your Call
Should She Lose Her Virginity to a Married Man?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  I am a 26-year old black female who […]

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7 Must-Have Handbag Items for Spontaneous Casual Sex

Straight ladies, if there’s any chance your evening will end up in a sleepover, transform your purse into a make-shift washbag. Even if there isn’t a snowball’s chance in hell you’ll be getting nooky tonight, carry these items with you anyway — because the best hook-ups happen when you least expect them. Compact ballet flats. […]

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5 Great Date Ideas That Don’t Require Drinking

By Jarone Ashkenazi for YourTango With fun dates likes these, who needs liquid courage? Where should you go on your first date with someone new? That’s the dreaded decisions daters across the world face. Daters want to pick a place that sets the right mood, plays to your’s or your date’s interests, and creates fun […]

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6 Easy Ways to Tell If Your Guy Has Commitment Issues

by Bob Alaburda for YourTango You’ve fallen, but he’s still overlooking the drop. At the core of so many failed relationships is one simple thing: balance. Or rather, the lack thereof. How many relationships have ended because one partner wanted more or less sex than the other? Or because one person didn’t seem to care as much […]

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How These 8 Preschool Skills Can Improve Your Love Life

A recent article in the Times explained why the social and sharing skills that you learn in preschool help you succeed in the workplace — and probably more so than any of the test-taking skills you learn later on in your school life. Reading that piece, we realized that the exact same thing could be […]

Confessions
Why You Shouldn’t Judge Spelling Mistakes in an Online Dating Profile

Reader Derek said the following in response to the post, “Red Flags for Women Who Use Personals (& How to Avoid Them)”. Though we didn’t write this piece, we did choose to publish it, and we never considered the implications of judging someone’s grammar and spelling mistakes on an online dating site. Which is kind of […]

Your Call
How Do We Find Non-Creepy People for Our Open Marriage?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  My wife and I have been seriously talking […]

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3 Red Flags for Women Who Use Personals (& How to Avoid Them)

By Gia Ravazzotti for YourTango Let’s skip to the good ones, ladies! Online dating has taking over the world! Seriously, it has become one of the preferred methods for meeting a potential mate and grows ever more popular every year. It makes sense really, considering that it’s accessible, convenient and relatively quick to meet someone online. People use online […]

Dear Em & Lo
My Libido Makes Me Sleep with Mr. Wrong

Dear Em & Lo, I feel like I’m stuck right now. I meet plenty of young men that are very interesting, and eventually, after spending some time with them, I get attached. Something that sounds very normal but turns out to be very painful in the end. So here’s my problem: no matter how hard […]

How To
How NOT to Spice Up Your Relationship

We’ve been in the magazine business for more than fifteen years, and we are still suckers for those stupid headlines like “537 Ways to Improve Your Sex Life TONIGHT!” We just can’t help flipping to that article while we’re stuck in the check-out line. What if just one of those “guaranteed” 537 tips is neither ridiculous […]

Say Amything
Why You Love Who You Love

The following is the 6th installment of a hilarious ongoing series by author and squirrel hunter Amy Bronwen Zemser called “How to Thaw Your Unborn Child.” Start at the beginning here or just jump right in below: All you need to know is that she was married to a man, realized she was gay, got divorced, fell for a woman named Moira (who dumped her after Moira had […]

Say Amything
How (Not) to Use Online Personals If You’re a Lesbian

The following is the 5th installment of a hilarious ongoing series by author and squirrel hunter (seriously) Amy Bronwen Zemser called “How to Thaw Your Unborn Child.” Start at the beginning here or just jump right in below: All you need to know is that she was married to a man, realized she was gay, got divorced, fell in love with a woman named Moira, who broke up […]