photo via Rachel_Kramer_Bussel “Spank Tuesday” continues with this question from a reader: Dear Em & Lo, How do I ask my husband to spank me? It is many years since I was spanked. Do I just ask him or buy a paddle as a Valentine’s gift or what? — Red-Cheeked Wannabe What should Red-Cheeked Wannabe […]
Who said that a new year’s resolution had to involve giving up something you enjoy? Rehab is for quitters! Here’s a novel idea: take on some booty-related resolutions instead. We’ve compiled two lists of resolutions, depending on whether you’re single or loved-up. Learn them, live them, love them… If you’re in a LTR (or monogamish)… No […]
Dear Em & Lo, Is it ever okay to give your partner a sex toy as a holiday present? Making my list, checking it twice, –Toys R Us Dear TRU, Yes! But. It can’t be just any sex toy, it can’t be just any packaging, and it can’t be just any partner. That said, a […]
photo by kabils Dear Em and Lo, As a guy, I’ve always felt a little distrustful about my sense of commitment. I know that I can sometimes get freaked out a little too easily over long-term plans, even if just talking about it. Throughout the few romantic entanglements I’ve been in, I’ve never had a […]
photo by jeroen_bennink Dear Em & Lo, Some may call us v-card clingers, but my boyfriend and I have been together for three years now. Giving our virginity to each other was not our first first–we were incredibly inexperienced before meeting. Although the relationship began out of lust it has blossomed into much more. He’s […]
photo by jeroen_bennink Dear Em & Lo, This may sound pathetic, but the guy I am dating is perfect for me, I love him and want him as my husband, but I don’t really enjoy our sex life. It’s two and a half years in and I don’t think it’s going to get much better. […]
photo by Dale Gillard Dear Em & Lo, I have this really awesome, sensitive, caring, sweet, good-in-bed, blah blah blah boyfriend — I wouldn’t leave him for the world. I also have wild fantasies about being tied up, demeaned, beaten . . . you get the idea. Is this a problem? Maybe fantasies are not […]
photo by Daquella_manera Dear Em & Lo, I’m 38 and have been with my boyfriend a little over two years. He recently told me he is not and will not be ready for a family and marriage for at least two more years because he is having financial issues. I am ready now, or at […]
photo by slushpup Dear Em & Lo, When living with a man, is it a healthy sexual relationship if you masturbate (alone) more than you have sex together? He seems not interested during the week so I take care of my own needs. What can I do? — Diddley
Dear Em & Lo, I am torn. I don’t want to be a male poacher, however, “Bob,” who is my coworker, and I have undeniable chemistry. We have never physically done anything — nothing! He does say to me quite often that he wishes he and I were together. He has cooked for me, he […]
Dear Em & Lo, After a particularly hot session with my husband the other night, he had what seemed to me like a really intense orgasm. But when I went to the bathroom afterward to clean up, it appeared as if he didn’t actually ejaculate. Basically, there was nothing to clean up, even when I […]
photo by Ciaran_McGuiggan Dear Em & Lo, I’m a 24-year-old woman who hasn’t had sex in 4 years, 10 months, 15 days, 5 hours, 51 minutes…well, you get the idea. I had my first boyfriend when I was twenty and it lasted for four months. He was my first sexual partner, and as of today, […]
This past Wednesday we published a thank you letter from a reader who [patting ourselves firmly on the back] benefited from our advice concerning his open relationship. Well, we know that we’re not solely responsible for the success story, so we asked Zac to elaborate on how he was able to banish the green-eyed monster. […]
We usually don’t dignify the crazies with a response, but we just can’t let this one go: A string of reader responses got us so infuriated that we decided to dedicate an entire column to setting him straight (no pun intended). We’ve edited his comments for space and readability while maintaining their warped content and […]
Dear Em & Lo, I’m a guy and I hate getting blowjobs. Maybe it’s because I had a few too many bad teeth-to-johnson experiences or I’m just a little too sensitive down there, but when a girl starts kissing me all the way down, I grit my teeth and prepare for the worst. It’s finally […]
photo by demi-brooke Last week, Dr. Kate kindly answered a woman’s question about whether or not she had to tell her partner she had HPV. This week, we’re taking it upon ourselves to answer the same question — and we’re taking no prisoners: In a word, YES! Everyone has the right to know what they’re […]
