Dear Em & Lo, I would like to find literature that I can give to my wife, on encouraging her to pursue non-monogamous relationships, as this could be good for our relationship. We are a mature couple and I think she and we could benefit from this. Thanks kindly, Open-Minded Dear O.M., First, are you […]
We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why we regularly turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letters below by leaving your advice in the comments section. I got married six months ago after dating for 1.5 […]
Miranda Levy is a major in Women, Gender & Sexuality Studies at Elon University where she pens a sex column for its student-run lifestyle magazine, The Edge. I may be a member of a new endangered species: The millennial who wants to get married young – or even just the millennial who wants to get […]
by Liza Walter for YourTango So you thought when you got married you’d be having more sex? HA! That’s what I say! HA! OK, maybe in the beginning when it’s all fresh and new and exciting to be calling your partner your husband or wife, but after a while? Meh. Same old, same old. Apparently, […]
Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri: My husband and I broke up 7 months ago and we have an 8 year […]
Enjoyment of and fascination with one’s own butthole can get a bad rap. Freud deemed it one of his psychosexual “stages,” thereby guaranteeing negative societal judgment of it for about a full century now. And if you’re a straight dude? Forget it: all the narrow-minded sexist homophobes will call you gay and girly (as if […]
Reader Charles recently posted his theory as to why monogamy rules in the comments section of our post “Top 10 Reasons to Be — and Stay — Non-Monogamous.” Jump into the debate in the comments below: To be blunt, the most effective method of doing something dominates. As a central economic tenant states “A firm that […]
by Dr. Margaret Paul for YourTango Don’t give up. Research indicates that over 55 percent of married women are not interested in having sex with their husbands. I’ve worked with many men who also are not interested in sex with their wives. The problem is generally not a lack of sexual desire in the marriage […]
It’s been a long, hard slog getting through the shit storm that was 2016. The only light at the end of this turd tunnel has been the promise of a new season of The Bachelor. As one friend who has been bracing for the Trumpocalypse put it last week: “The prospect of Batch is literally keeping […]
By the Gottman Institute’s Kyle Benson for YourTango Your future together can be bright even if your disagreements tend to be very negative. Conflict is inevitable in every relationship. Psychologist Dan Wile says it best in his book After the Honeymoon: “When choosing a long-term partner, you will inevitably be choosing a particular set of […]
This comment by MEK in response to the post “My Husband Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm” is truly depressing. It’s a layered onion of bummer that makes us want to cry. This 21-year marriage has it all: Physical pain? Check. Miscommunication (or total lack of communication)? Check. Selfishness? Check. Resentment? Check. Bitterness? Check! […]
Dear Em & Lo, I recently found out my husband of 12 years has been cheating with a lot of different women. I’ve always known this in my heart, but never could believe it because he knows how to manipulate me. He knows how to cover himself very well. When he is with other women he […]
By Rebecca Jane Stokes for YourTango When you first meet someone, start dating, and fall in love, sex is a normal part of the dating equation. The first few months I was with my boyfriend I think I had a hard time finishing sentences because I had to stop everything I was doing and so we could […]
by Susan Heitler If you think your marriage is unsalvageable, think again. A lot of couples realize that after a certain amount of time, they just aren’t as compatible as they first thought. They hire a Family Law Attorney, file for divorce, and go their separate ways. Of course, not every divorce is that civil […]
by Jennifer Munn My husband just suggested to me that we have sex every day for thirty days. Seriously. SERIOUSLY? When it comes to sex, while I definitely like it (and have even been known to love it on occasion), I don’t frequently seek it out. In fact, sometimes I pointedly dodge it. Why do I avoid thee? Let me […]
Ten years ago today, Joey and I were married — untraditionally, feministically, fantastically. By the spring of 2006, we knew we were going to be together, but we weren’t sure we were going to exchange vows. As a little girl, I had never dreamed of my big day with a big white dress and a […]
