Wise Guys: When Is a Boob Job Warranted?

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Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “I think my boobs are too small — slightly pudgy guys have bigger boobs than me! Should I get a boob job?”

Gay Committed Guy (Mark): Gut response: No. Even though god knows how many Americans have some kind of body-image hangup, I don’t think “society” is shaming those pudgy guys into getting liposuction on their manboobs in order to look more attractive to women. That said, if you think the pain and possible health risks associated with surgery and/or implants are worth it — if you really think it would improve your self-esteem, and you’ve exhausted all other options toward that end — it’s your decision. Anyone who tells you that you “should” get a boob job is either a creep or a plastic surgeon or an editor at Us Weekly magazine (the latter of which will be the first to mock your new rack for looking fake). I have friends who have had minor work done — breasts (adding and subtracting), eyes, nose, thighs, tummy — and they’ve all been pleased with the results. Obviously, if you do decide to go through with it, find a reputable doctor to do it for you. At the end of the day, it doesn’t matter what other people think. If you feel self-conscious with any part of your body, there’s nothing stopping you from getting some plastic surgery. There are multiple surgeons out there, like Dr. Jeffrey Swail for example, that could make you feel so much more confident in your own body. Don’t let other people sway your decision. If you want plastic surgery, you should go ahead with it. Confidence is so important for women, so be sure to make yourself feel confident however you want to.

Straight Single Guy (Max): It kills me not to automatically say “Don’t do it!”, but I think it actually depends on a couple of things. Confidence, as you know, matters more than most factors when it comes to attraction. If you can’t talk to a guy because you’re too self-conscious about the size of your boobs, then you need to do something. Personally, I think fake boobs are gross. I believe that some guys agree, no matter how much porn would have you believe otherwise. But again, you gotta do what makes you feel sexy. (Oh, and please don’t compare yourself to pudgy guys. That’s the first step in gaining a little self confidence.)

Straight Married Guy (Ben): My wife’s boobs have changed sooo much over the course of our relationship — from tiny to a handful to size F after our baby was born (we didn’t even know they made size F!) and then back to C. Each step of the way I’ve been right there enjoying them. It’s actually been one of the most amazing things about her body. That’s not to say your boobs are one day going to blossom or grow, but what’s made my wife’s body so immensely pleasurable for me and for her is her own comfort and confidence with it. Sexy does not equal boob size. Sexy equals feeling good and being confident in yourself and your sexuality. I say, learn to rock those nubs! You can always get the surgery later. Or have a baby.

Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Straight Married Guy is Ben, a writer and artist living in Los Angeles who runs AdultParlorGames.com. Our Committed Gay Guy, Mark, is a writer and teacher in NYC and our Single Straight Guy, Max, is a recent college grad in New England — both asked us to file them under “shy.” To ask the guys your own question, click here.


  1. I just want to say that I’m 5’1″, 105 lbs, and I naturally had DD’s. It was horrible, and really crippled my self-esteem throughout high school. Even though they were all natural, they looked really out of place on my frame, so I had to deal with people calling them fake, and I never wanted to talk to guys because my boobs were all they concentrated on [it seemed].

    But then I got them reduced to C’s, and got a lift thrown in, and my life completely turned around. It was amazing how much better things were when I loved my body and the way I looked. Everything guys are saying about confidence making the woman is true – I’ve never wanted for male or female attention now, and really the attention started pouring on the second I started loving myself.

    Even with C’s though, I sometimes wish I was smaller, just because the fashion industry now focuses on clothing for smaller breasted girls! So if you have A’s or B’s, then you can probably wear just about anything you want, and I’m mildly jealous! I would never change anything else about my body though, not with surgery. If it’s not a crippling issue for you, then learn to love it, I think.

    Also, on the actual surgery aspect, it’s almost two years later and I still get nervous about if the scars are too noticeable. No one has seemed to care, but I do know that implants require a lot more work than a reduction and your scars will be worse. Think about it, before you do that to your body.

  2. i will chime in and say boob size is very unimportant to me as i find confidence way more sexy than big boobs. besides its all about the nipple anyways!

  3. Implanters beware…I have gotten a boob job after my final child was born due to the fact I breast fed all my children,Ive become limp but not flat therefore I got the tear drop inorder to fill my boobs in well I started off with a C-cup, 20yrs later I am now doubleDDs what progress they still do grow. So ladiess beware even though you have increase them nature may not be finish in developing you yet. Food 4 thought!

  4. I’m a 19-year-old girl with A cups, and I would never, ever get implants. Aside from the fact that I find plastic surgery in general gross, I like my breasts the way they are. In fact, I think I’d be unhappy with anything larger than a B. My breasts don’t get in the way, and painful bouncing has never been an issue. Also, I think proportion is more important than size – I am 5’0 and 105 lbs, and large breasts would look ridiculous on my body.

  5. Size seems to matter only to women, i guess it’s the greed built into them, men are more concerned with reality. Come as you are seems to be the motto of most men.

  6. Well, I’m proportioned 39-28-40, and my boobs are at a D, but they make me self-concious alot of the time. I miss having a C, because now that they’ve decided to grow I’ve gotten ridiculous amounts of male attention. I’m not shy, just scared sometimes lol. What I mean to say is, large perky breasts can be great. But everything has its risks.

  7. Katie . . . if you’re looking for a real corset, you can definitely find them for larger boobs (I’m a C to D involved in the fetish scene and have some awesome corsets.) It’s true that the sort of flimsy wedding-y garments on sale at Victoria’s Secret may not fit, but if you shop at a corset shop (Dark Garden and Stormy Leather are awesome, check them out online) you can find the right look for any figure. And yes, a well-made corset with steel boning is expensive (my gorgeous red silk one cost $350, but I have some that were only about $100), but it will look amazing and last forever.

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