Why Aren’t Some Men Up for Going Down?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Why do guys seem to dislike giving oral sex more than woman seem to dislike giving it?

jon_rossGay Married Guy (Jon Ross): I’ve met a bunch of straight men and woman who dislike the pastime, which is a bit of a mystery to me — most gays just love the activity! One in my position can only speculate, but I wonder if it’s a fear of “the other” that has some people so squeamish. Sure, everyone loves sex, but some just want to keep to keep everything perfectly aligned, mouth to mouth, genitalia to genitalia. I bet the people who shy away from oral sex are just unfamiliar with how everything works down there or fear they’ll get a mouthful of a bodily fluid.

chris_diclericoStraight Single Guy (Chris): I hate to disappoint you, but we don’t all dislike giving oral. I’m not fishing for dates here, but I personally love giving as much as receiving. I promise I can have that verified for you. I think many guys are just too anxious to get to sex. I suppose I was too when I was younger. Now that I’m a little older, I’m much more interested in leaving a good impression. My recovery time isn’t the same as it once was either, so I guess I’m compensating somewhat, but I remember always being pretty into it. I don’t know if there’s a secret. Ladies, keep things nice and trim down there: consider going with a complete “no spin zone” or maybe even a vajazzling to try to drum up some interest. (He should do be willing to do the same for you.) And speaking of reciprocation, remember the golden rule: if you give good head then hopefully you’ll get good head in return. I guess the only other advice I can give if you’re still having trouble is that you can find me on Facebook pretty easily…

Straight Married Guy (Mike): Who said that men dislike giving oral sex? Nothing is more arousing than the smell of a woman. So, just for selfish reasons, oral is a great way to start. However, there are obviously men who are repelled by the idea and women who are self-conscious, but it’s nothing that a little personal hygiene won’t cure. As for women, there seems to be much more pressure and expectation to expertly perform orally — the blowjob is a fixture of porn and is practically de rigueur. I wonder how many women really enjoy being a service provider?  With either, a little communication would go a long way: as exciting as oral sex can be, there’s also nothing worse than when it is half-hearted.

Brush up on your oral sex etiquette:
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  1. I recently met a guy who told me before we had our first sexual encounter ‘you won’t be disappointed’ only to find that he doesn’t do cunnilingus under any circumstances – after he’d been happy to accept a bj. I was stunned. These days I consider giving and receiving oral to be as much a staple part of sex as kissing and fucking. Mind you, the same guy told me that ‘most men could happily have sex without kissing’. To which I thought…. maybe you are fucking the wrong sex my friend.

  2. Okay, so here’s the thing. I don’t like the taste, clean hygienic or not, I don’t like it. I don’t really care that much about receiving oral sex, and I’m getting sick of it being considered a failure on the male if he doesn’t, I sure as hell don’t see a woman not wanting to do a particular sexual act because either she doesn’t enjoy it or is not comfortable with as a failure on her, or a sign of me not being attractive.

    1. Omg I tasted myself it’s freaking bitter fishy sweet nastiness….no man should be forced to do it…..buy a nice shower head and let her go to town! Clean, enjoyable, Perfect! It’s America’s best kept secret….Men fricking hate it and who can blame them!? Nasty!

  3. I love to go down on a woman. But there is rule for me to do that. I want it clean. Now I understand if a girl is on her period and done that. Not what I mean. If it smells like tuna or cat food I ain’t eating. And I have to really drunk anf horny as hell to fuck it. But there will be a rubber used if it ain’t right. But other I love taste my woman. And make her feel really good.

    1. Straight males and their “women, be hygienic!” nonsense. Women, in general, are more hygienic than men (including their genitals) – it’s proven, btw. They shower better and clean their genitals more properly.
      There are kore men with vomit smelling penises than women with tuna smelling vulvas.

    2. You have to be drunk to fuck your own wife!?? Why?? Is Vag that God awful? Enjoy your ass Mr! Geese your poor partner wtf!?!

  4. Its personal taste but I love going down on my wife. I’d do it way more often than she could want. The thought and taste highly arouse me along with the idea that she is getting so much pleasure from it. I don’t think I’d do it just for my sake (if it didn’t get her off) but she never has to ask me for it. For each their own I guess.

  5. to be honest i don’t know whats wrong with me but i can’t do it without feeling nauseous and if i keep it up i just start dry reaching. my wife is really understanding thank god. we’ve talked about it and there was a couple of times where i persisted only to puke which killed it. i love my wife so much and i just want to please her. she goes down on me but now i don’t want her to do that because i can’t do the same. there’s nothing wrong with her and i feel so inadequate. I’ve considered seeing a shrink although i’ll probably talk to my doctor first.

  6. Sorry ladies, I cannot stand it. I think it’s utterly disgusting, I can’t explain why. To me it’s like a food, you either like it or you don’t. I love receiving a blow job and practically vomit at the thought of going down on a woman.

    1. Don’t worry, your peis must be disgusting as well. The difference is, the women who gets with you will still try to please you even though your penis is an ugly, small, stinky little stick.

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