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Dear Em & Lo,
My ex-boyfriend’s new girl will not stop harassing me! It took me a while, but after 6 years (age 16 – 22) of verbal and physical abuse I finally broke up with my high school “sweetheart.” I moved out of the county (small town), stopped communication with mutual friends, and have not contacted him since. I now live over 1000 miles away. My ex and his new girlfriend (now fiance) continue these trash campaigns against me on Facebook and by prank phone calls — they get their entire family involved (did I mention I used to date rednecks?).
I have never met his new girl nor tried to contact her. The old me would have retaliated against them but I know it will only make things worse. But I can’t pretend that their hateful words towards me AND my family doesn’t affect me.
After one of their episodes, I contemplate for days on how to get revenge. I think of threatening them by releasing photos, videos, and letters because I know it will hurt her. I’ve considered posting responses on my Facebook that would showcase their insecurities and ignorance. But I know any reaction that I show will only create more drama and give them the satisfaction of thinking I still care. But I do care. I obsess for days on how to make them stop for good. I never go through with anything and eventually I forget about it. Then a month goes by and it starts again.
I’ve kept quiet for nearly four years. I’m completely fed up and they don’t seem to be moving on. What could (or should) I do without compromising my integrity? Please help!
Thank you,
Head Held High
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