1/21/11
Your Call: I Said the Wrong Name in Bed!

photo by demi-brooke

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below:

Dear Em and Lo,

Need advice please on a recent verbal faux pas I made while in bed with my boyfriend of 7 months right after an intimate moment together. I called him someone else’s name in the throes of passion — my ex-husband’s, to be specific. It just came out of nowhere and I was more shocked than he was to hear it. I honestly was not thinking about my ex and cannot understand why that even happened, considering I have been divorced for 3 years now. I know in my heart it meant nothing, but to a man’s ego I am certain it was hurtful, and I’m thinking that my boyfriend may have second thoughts or doubts about what’s going on in my head. Any thought or suggestion as to how to correct this, or am I feeling guilty for nothing?

— Foot in Mouth

What should F.I.M. do? (See how we advised readers on this topic in our book Sex Etiquette here.)