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Why You Have to Tell Your Partner If You Have HPV

 photo via flickr Many experts, including doctors, will tell women that they don’t need to inform their male partners if they have HPV. The reason given is that 80% of sexually-active adults have or will acquire HPV — in other words, basically everyone — and also, the virus is much less likely to harm a […]

In Defense of Sex Toys, Feminism and Trolls

For the most part, we tend to ignore the trolls. But every once in a while, outlandish claims need to be addressed to ensure that reality-based facts win over fear, insecurity and hate. In response to a post about a woman whose inability to orgasm without a sex toy was hurting her boyfriend’s feelings, one […]

Your Call: I Was Bi, But Now I’m Not Attracted to Men. What Happened?

photo via Wikimedia Commons We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Leave your suggestions in the comments section below.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! […]

What to Do When You Say “I Love You” Too Soon

Hi Em & Lo, I just started dating this guy and recently we were making out, it was going well, he started to go down on me. I wanted to tell him “I love it when you go down on me” but it came out as ” I love you..when you do that.” He paused […]

Your Call: How Do You Know If It’s Settling or Being Smart

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Leave your suggestions in the comments section below.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, […]

How Do I Ease Into Kink with a New Partner?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, My bf and I […]

Your Call: How Do I Give Women a Heads Up About My Penis?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Hi Em & Lo! Women’s advice on my […]

Dear Em & Lo: How Will “Fifty Shades” Affect Young Women?

Dear Em & Lo,  Have you thought about the effect that this film may have on young girls — how this film will set their expectations as to what sex is like? — Fifty Shades of Fay   Dear FSoF, Honestly, we haven’t. We’ve been too distracted by our upcoming ladies night screening of it! […]