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Naked News: This Week, Sex Is Effed Up

January 18, 2013


A new book called Hard to Get says young independent successful women need more guidance about sex than their elders did, thanks to so many conflicting messages. One Jezebel article kinda proves that point by questioning why so many women willingly engage in orgasm-free casual sex.

Jumping on the “sex is ruined” bandwagon is this Atlantic article about online dating being the end of monogamy, since it offers an endless supply of dates and sex. Hogwash, says this response in the same mag: “online dating is, in fact, irresistible.”

What’s really the problem? Porn. (Bet you guessed that was coming, as it were.) One unscientific survey by Cosmo of sex therapists and experts revealed that porn-problems abound: performance anxiety, low self-esteem, body image insecurities, addiction, the list depressingly goes on and on. One study on porn had to be trashed because they couldn’t find any male subjects who’d never seen porn!

On the brighter side, there was this argument this week for how porn can be a catalyst for spiritual growth. Aw. And you can also now pre-order the book, Making Peace with Porn (i.e. if you can’t beat ‘em, join ‘em). And finally, the founder of Kink.com defended his company on HuffPo (and promoted the James Franco documentary about his biz called “Kink,” premiering at this year’s Sundance Film Festival – see trailer below).

For more on all things kink, buy our new book 150 Shades of Play, our how-to companion piece to the popular Fifty Shades trilogy! 


Happy New Year!

December 31, 2012


We’re still on holiday, and hope you are too! We’ll be back in full swing on Wednesday, January 2nd. In the meantime, don’t forget to make your New Year’s Resolutions with the help of our kinky guide. A great way to help you fulfill those resolutions is to buy our new book 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink. Start 2013 off with a bang!

CONTEST: Tweet Our Book and Win LELO’s Massage Oil & Candle

December 21, 2012


LELO Flickering Touch Massage Candles


We just know that you, dear and loyal reader, have already bought your copy of our new book, 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink. (Right? Right! If not, you can order it right now to make yourself feel better about reading this amazing site for FREE!) So now it’s time to convince all your friends, colleagues, and random Twitter followers and Facebook friends to follow suit. And guess what? We’re going to reward you for doing this!

Between now and the end of December, if you do¬†any¬†of the things in the list below, you will be entered into a contest to win¬†a bottle of LELO’s Flickering Touch Massage Oil (with 24K gold flakes!) and a matching Flickering Touch Massage Candle¬†(the scented wax melts into a sensuous massage oil) — worth a total of almost $70!¬†Here’s what you’ve got to do — just doing any¬†one¬†of these things will enter you into the contest! And the more you do, the more times you’ll be entered, and the better your chances!


150 SHADES OF PLAY by @EMandLO is a great gift for #FiftyShades fans & white elephant parties: http://say.ly/pEj4J7E (RT to enter contest!)


Feel free to rewrite the following, as long as you include the book title and the link and are kind: 150 SHADES OF PLAY by @EMandLO is a great gift for #FiftyShades fans & white elephant parties: http://say.ly/pEj4J7E (RT to enter contest!)


Click here to “like” 150 Shades of Play on Facebook!¬†(Don’t forget to click the “Like” button when you get there.)


Click the Facebook¬†”Like” button at the bottom of this post.

After you’ve completed one — or more! — of the items above, YOU MUST LET US KNOW by emailing contest@emandlo.com¬†by the end of December to tell us what you’ve done EACH TIME YOU’VE DONE IT:

  • If you Tweeted, let us know your Twitter handle immediately.
  • If you updated your Facebook status or clicked the FB “Like” item on this post or “liked” our book’s Facebook page, you’ll need to¬†email us a screenshot of the Activity section of your FB page that shows this (on a Mac, Command+Shiftshift+4¬†lets you drag and capture an area of the screen; click here for instructions on taking screenshots on either a PC or a Mac).

Thank you from the bottom of our hearts for helping to spread the word!

Last Chance for Great Last-Minute Gift: 150 SHADES OF PLAY!

December 21, 2012


This is your last chance to give the MOST
entertaining/romantic/kinky/informative, funny/sexy/outrageous
holiday gift of the year! Our how-to companion piece to Fifty Shades of Grey titled¬†150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink¬†is available now on¬†Amazon. Here are the remaining deadlines you have to beat to¬†get your copies by Xmas:

For more information about our new baby, 150 SHADES OF PLAY, visit its beautiful new website: 150ShadesOfPlay.com.

Last Week for 2-Day Shipping (FREE with Prime) of 150 SHADES!

December 17, 2012


Tantra Feather Teaser by LELO

Don’t miss out on the chance to give the MOST entertaining, romantic, kinky, informative, funny, sexy, outrageous holiday gift of the year! Our NEW book¬†150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink¬†is available on¬†Amazon. Here are the deadlines you have to beat this week to¬†get your copies by Xmas:

For more information about our new baby, 150 SHADES OF PLAY, visit its beautiful new website: 150ShadesOfPlay.com.

Last Week for FREE Shipping of 150 SHADES OF PLAY!

December 14, 2012


Kimono Robe by LELO

Your holiday shopping days are dwindling, so don’t miss out on the chance to give your lover a naughty stocking stuffer, your best friend a companion piece to her dog-eared copy of Fifty Shades, or your coworkers something to blush over during the Secret Santa exchange at your holiday office party! Our NEW book 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink is available on Amazon. Here are the deadlines you have to beat this month to get your copies by Xmas:

For more information about our kickass (literally) new book, 150 SHADES OF PLAY, visit its new dedicated website: 150ShadesOfPlay.com.

2012: The Year Vanilla Turned Grey

December 4, 2012


Our friends at LELO recently surveyed more than 10,000 women from 8 countries and discovered that a “Fifty Shades effect” is occurring in their bedrooms: they’re enjoying more kinky accoutrements, more roleplaying, more power and more adventure. Good thing they just came out with their new Pleasure Sets — Dare Me and Indulge Me — which make living out your fantasies with style so easy.

LELO Infographic: What Women Want Now!

Happy Thanksgiving!

November 21, 2012


photo via flickr

This Thanksgiving, we are giving thanks for four more years of Obama, and in particular we are thankful for the preservation of safe and legal abortion; for the trend toward marriage equality; for contraceptive coverage by health insurance companies; for the continued existence of Planned Parenthood (ditto Big Bird); and for a moratorium on old, white, anti-science, Republican dudes who think pregnancy from rape is a gift from God. We’ll be taking a break from this site for the rest of the week to appreciate all that we (still) have to be thankful for in this country. In the meantime, but sure to check out our Thanksgiving Issue: Love in the Time of Turkey for everything you¬†need to survive this holiday — except the recipes! We’ll be back to our regular schedule on Monday.

The Things We Won by Re-Electing Obama

November 7, 2012


It’s a great day to be a progressive American! So happy to know we’re moving forward in the 21st century, not backward to the 1950s. Last night, the two of us gathered with friends, ate chili, drank beer, watched the results come in, and at 11:15pm poured the champagne and played “We Are the Champions” on the stereo! Here are just a few of the things we all won:


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Top 6 Reasons Your Heart & Genitals Want You to Vote for Obama

October 24, 2012

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We know we may be preaching to the choir here, but just in case you need some more encouragement to register to vote (state-by-state deadlines start dropping in October!), to volunteer your time to the Obama campaign, and to actually vote on November 6th, 2012, here you go:

Romney represents the Republican Party, and the Republican Party Platform wants to control your body. It calls for a ban on abortion, without any exceptions, not even for rape, incest, or the life of the woman (not just the health of the woman, but the life!). It supports parents needing to consent to treatment for their children¬†”involving pregnancy, contraceptives and abortion” — because telling your father who knocked you up is going to go down real well. It supports mandatory waiting periods when it comes to abortions, which put an undue burden on women who have to travel far to receive medical help but can’t afford to take off time from work. It supports abstinence-only education (the effectiveness of which has been so debunked) and¬†opposes “school-based clinics that provide referrals, counseling, and¬†related services for abortion and contraception” — what happened to knowledge being power? ¬†And they don’t support embryonic stem cell research (sorry, Parkinsons and¬†cancer, looks like you’re going to be with us a little while longer).
Romney has taken a lot of positions on abortions — the most recent, as far as we can tell, is that he is anti-abortion except in cases of rape, incest, the life and health of the mother. But then a¬†spokesman for the campaign came out and said he actually doesn’t believe in¬†health¬†exceptions.¬†And we’re not sure if by rape he means “all rape” or just “legitimate rape,” which doesn’t include all that touchy-feely rape like date rape or married rape.¬†Who knows what he believes? We’re not sure he¬†actually has a real opinion on these matters. Better just pray you don’t get raped, or if you do get raped, that your magic vagina powers prevent a pregnancy from taking place.
Romney has said he believes life begins at conception and would be for a¬†Personhood Amendment, which would not only ban abortions, but could¬†ban IUDs, emergency contraception, other¬†hormonal forms of birth control,¬†and in vitro fertilization. Think¬†about that for a second: a married couple of three who do not want to have any more children, don’t want to use hormonal forms of birth control for health reasons, and don’t want to use condoms for obvious reasons, would not be allowed to use a safe, non-hormonal IUD, one the most effective, least expensive, longest lasting forms of birth control out there — one that’s been around for decades!
Romney wants to overturn Obamacare, which means your birth control would no longer be covered by insurance, unfairly putting the majority of the financial burden around family planning back on women. Oh, and here are just a few of the other preventative services that would be taken away from women: testing for HPV, screenings for HIV, counseling for STIs, breastfeeding support and supplies, and help for domestic abuse.
Romney has said he will “get rid of” Planned Parenthood, meaning he¬†would defund it.¬†That would mean a huge percentage of the whopping¬†five million people who rely on Planned Parenthood every year for¬†vital,¬†affordable¬†health care — like mammograms and cervical cancer¬†screenings, birth control, other preventive care, and, yes, safe legal¬†abortions — would be kicked to the curb, many of them left to forgo any¬†kind of health care since they can’t afford it.¬†Even if you’ve never been to Planned Parenthood, there’s a good chance you might someday, since 1 in 5 women eventually use their services. That is, if they’re still around…
Romney signed the National Organization for Marriage pledge (you know,¬†the one those two bright lightbulbs, Michelle Bachman and Rick Santorum,¬†signed), affirming that he will support a constitutional amendment to ban¬†same-sex marriage, defend the Defense of Marriage Act in court, and¬†nominate judges who are not sympathetic to LGBT issues. He’s even gone¬†so far as to say he opposes not only gay marriage but civil unions too: “Well, I¬†would rather have neither, to tell you the truth.“¬†Even if you’re not gay, you know someone who is — and they’re probably cooler than you; they deserve to have the same American rights as you.
The next president will have a good chance of appointing new Supreme¬†Court Justices — should any of the current ones either retire or kick the¬†bucket (four of them are in their 70s). Romney has said that he would call¬†on the court to overturn Roe v. Wade (read: make abortion illegal) and¬†appoint justices like John Roberts, Samuel Alito, Clarence “Pubic Hair on¬†My Coke” Thomas, Antonin Scalia — all of whom are extremely¬†conservative. Some interesting factoids: The ethically-challenged Thomas¬†has not asked a single questions from the bench in the past 6 years! And¬†Scalia recently said that the Roe decision was wrong and that the court’s¬†subsequent decisions on abortion based on people’s fundamental rights¬†like privacy are “utterly idiotic.”
Run, don’t walk, to register to vote!: