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Feast: A Short Story About Love, Sex & Thanksgiving

When we worked at eons ago, when it was an honest to goodness literary magazine about sex, we had the pleasure of working with amazing authors, both titans and up-and-comers. One of our favorites was O. Henry Prize-winner Keith Banner. His latest collection of short stories, Next to Nothing, recounts “the troubled lives of ne’er do […]

20 Fun Facts About the World’s Relationship with Butt Toys

Not just butt toys, but prostate massagers for men, to be exact (though some may be enjoyed by the female of the species as well). Our friends over at LELO reviewed the sales stats for all their top-of-the-line P-spot products over the past few months and found some interesting trends: the US may beat Australia in […]

How to Introduce Your Guy to His Prostate

Given how much pleasure can be found in the prostate, it’s amazing how many straight men still can’t bring themselves to try anal play. Some men worry that enjoying a little prostate massage will turn them gay, or at least girly. Others think it’s too dirty, both literally and figuratively. Still others are afraid it’ll hurt. And then there […]

How To
A Beginner’s Guide to Anal Sex

Freud really screwed things up. Add ass play to the long list of fun sex acts he turned into big social no-no’s. Sure, he said fascination with your own bum was an important and necessary part of a child’s development, but then he diagnosed that same pleasure in adults as immature and dysfunctional. Why should […]

How To
8 Steps to Convincing Your Straight Boyfriend to Let You Peg Him

Approaching anal sex for the first time — whether you’re the giver or the receiver, whether you’re straight or gay — is not something to wing or take lightly. Not only is it a psychologically loaded act, but it’s one of the few sexual acts that can be done “wrong.” The anus is not self-lubricating […]

Dear Em & Lo
Strap-on Sex Won’t Turn You Gay (If You Aren’t Already)

We usually don’t dignify the crazies with a response, but we just can’t let this one go: A string of reader responses got us so infuriated that we decided to dedicate an entire column to setting him straight (no pun intended). We’ve edited his comments for space and readability while maintaining their warped content and spirit: […]

Wise Guys
What Straight Guys Really Think About Backdoor Play

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Do most straight guys secretly want to have their bums explored by their girlfriends/wives? Like, even if they don’t admit it, and they’d never ask…deep down, are they curious? Straight Single Guy (L.A. Chris): When they’re together, straight guys tend to avoid […]

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Top 5 Rules of Engagement for Backdoor Toys

We’re always thrilled to hear about people opening themselves up — as it were — to new sensual experiences in the backdoor area. Unfortunately this particular region seems to encourage experimentation with D.I.Y. sex toys — and it’s the last place you should be going D.I.Y.! Our E.R. nurse friend confirms that those stories about […]

Dear Em & Lo
Does Enjoying Anal Play Mean You’re Gay?

Something we here an awful lot around these here parts is the concern many straight men have with receiving — and, heaven forbid, enjoying — a little backdoor attention. Just this week we got another comment on the topic: My boyfriend has recently discovered he likes me lubing him up and fingering his anus, rimming […]

Pop Culture
Losing It: How We Popped Our Cherry Over the Last 80 Years

Author Kate Monro has managed to make us jealous of her job: searching the world for first-time tales that don’t often get told. In her new book, “Losing It: How We Popped Our Cherry Over the Past 80 Years,” she picks up where Nancy Friday left off, letting a wide range of people — from a 90-year-old […]