Anal Play
Confessions
Strap-Ons Are the Great Gender Equalizer

Discussions on pegging usually go in one of two directions: 1) Straight into the ugly past where men who enjoy anal play automatically means they’re either girly or gay [sic], OR 2) towards thoughtful discussions about the nuances of sex and the politics of gender. We obviously prefer to highlight the latter, so today we give you Jon’s recent […]

Confessions
The Great Strap-On Debate: Can a Woman Pressure Her Boyfriend to Get Pegged?

Every few months, a new debate pops up in the comments section of one of our most popular, evergreen posts — “Confession: I Want to Do My Boyfriend with a Strap-On” — written by an anonymous female contributor a few years ago. The standard fare is usually something tired about how “it’s gay and feminizing […]

How To
12 Bedroom DON’Ts Men & Women Are STILL Committing

We’re not big fans of exiling men and women to their own separate planets — Mars and Venus, respectively — with nary a shuttle between them. There’s a lot more that we have in common than we don’t. That said, when you grow up in a culture committed to putting everyone into two neat gender boxes […]

News
Casual Kink: Sooner, Faster, Weirder

Ever wondered what it takes to make two seasoned sex writers stammer and blush? Try mentioning casual rimming. We’ve devoted hundreds of words over the years to the fine art of analingus: the intimacy it both requires and engenders, the thrill of busting a taboo together, the importance of showering first… but we always, always […]

Confessions
The Best Butt Sex Philosophy: Your Booty, Your Business

Chuck is our kind of guy. In fact, he’s the kind of guy we’re hoping to create more of with this here site and all its post on anal play. He recently commented on one — “Do Most Straight Men Secretly Love Bum Play?” — and made us proud: I’m married, straight, and really like it! If […]

Toys
2016’s Forecast: Sunny with a High Chance of Bum Fun

Our friends at LELO, makers of some of the world’s best sex toys, are confident that anal sex, prostate massaging and pegging are set to become big trends in 2016 as society breaks away from the mindset that some pleasures are only for one type of gender or sexual orientation. It’s All About the Booty As 2015 continued […]

Confessions
If You Want to Make Sex Equal, Stop Viewing Penetration as Submissive

Reader Lily had a lot to say this week in response to our (oldie but goodie) post “Confession: I Want to Do My Boyfriend with a Strap-On.” We’ve gathered her various comments into one post here for your edification. Preach it, Lily! And we would just add that misperception doesn’t make something so; if we […]

Pop Culture
Feast: A Short Story About Love, Sex & Thanksgiving

When we worked at Nerve.com eons ago, when it was an honest to goodness literary magazine about sex, we had the pleasure of working with amazing authors, both titans and up-and-comers. One of our favorites was O. Henry Prize-winner Keith Banner. His latest collection of short stories, Next to Nothing, recounts “the troubled lives of ne’er do […]

Research
20 Fun Facts About the World’s Relationship with Butt Toys

Not just butt toys, but prostate massagers for men, to be exact (though some may be enjoyed by the female of the species as well). Our friends over at LELO reviewed the sales stats for all their top-of-the-line P-spot products over the past few months and found some interesting trends: the US may beat Australia in […]

Toys
How to Introduce Your Guy to His Prostate

Given how much pleasure can be found in the prostate, it’s amazing how many straight men still can’t bring themselves to try anal play. Some men worry that enjoying a little prostate massage will turn them gay, or at least girly. Others think it’s too dirty, both literally and figuratively. Still others are afraid it’ll hurt. And then there […]