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Top 10 Sex Tips for College Students (Especially First-Years)

  For many young women and men, the end of August marks the start of a new chapter of life — one of higher learning, critical thinking, problem solving, horizon broadening, and lots and lots of casual bonking. It’s a whole new world of unchaperoned independence and freedom combined with 18-year-old hormones — which can […]

Pop Culture
Noteworthy Book: The End of Sex

The End of Sex by Donna Frietas is getting a lot of action lately, with reviews calling it “important, wise, and brave” (The Atlantic), “illuminating” (WSJ), “straight-forward, well-researched, and eye-opening” (Publishers Weekly), and with Frietas herself penning an editorial for the Washington Post and nabbing a coveted spot on The Today Show. Subtitled “How Hookup […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: I’m a College Freshman Who’s Never Been Kissed

  Hi Em & Lo, So I’m a freshman in college and I have never dated before or even been kissed. Sometimes I really feel like I’m missing out. I’m pretty friendly, but is it bad that I still haven’t had a relationship yet? What should I do? Help! Sincerely, Never Been Kissed Dear N.B.K., […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Top 10 Things I Learned from an Anti-Condom Boyfriend

A college-student contributor friend of ours, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: I came into college and out of my first relationship ready to be single and to enjoy my new-found singledom with as many new people as possible. Generally, things went pretty well for me. I really enjoyed the free […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Top 10 Worst Things About Studying Sexuality in College

Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminist/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, confesses the downside of her chosen field: Picture this: it’s a Sunday night. You’re lonely. However, instead of watching romantic comedies and listening to Joni Mitchell, you have to read about the beauty of the female orgasm. Reading about great sex is […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Withdrawal Is Not an Option

A college-student contributor friend of ours, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: “I thought you said you were going to pull out.” In the dark, I could still see his expression, startled yet a little defiant, as if the fact that he had just come inside me without the safety barrier […]

Your Call
Your Call: Is 19 Too Young to Relocate for Love?

Dear Em & Lo, I’m 19 years old, and have been dating my boyfriend for eight months. However, we live 3 hours away from each other.  This hasn’t caused any problems yet, we get to see each other most weekends and the relationship is going great.  We fit together perfectly in all aspects of our […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: I Got My Period on a Booty Call

  Dear Em & Lo, For the past two weeks I have been sleeping with a guy I met here at college. The boundaries of our relationship have been well-established: late night phone calls for no-strings-attached sex. Nevertheless, I want to keep this thing going. However the last time we were together I had one […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I Dragged My College BF to Couples Therapy

Our contributor, who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make. (Read the first part of this story, which led her to the therapist’s couch, here.) I always thought couples therapy was for older married couples who couldn’t get their shit together.  Then my boyfriend of two years cheated on me and I couldn’t […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Student/R.A. Love, the Love That Dare Not Speak Its Name

  Our contributor Antonio Reis, a first year at Wesleyan, has a confession to make on behalf of his friend: At 5:00 am, I wake up to the sound of fists pounding my dorm-room door. Groggily I get up and open it and am swiftly pushed back onto my bed by Sara as she bursts […]