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Your New Favorite Book: “The Power” by Naomi Alderman

The Power by Naomi Alderman, which won the Baileys Women’s Prize for Fiction earlier this year in England, has already been hailed as “our era’s ‘Handmaid’s Tale,’” it’s that good.  The novel imagines women suddenly having the ability, thanks to environmental pollutants, to emit from their hands electrical charges of varying degrees — from prickly […]

How To
How to Cultivate a Sexual Fantasy

If you don’t have a favorite sexual fantasy, then you haven’t spent enough time dirty–day dreaming. Inspiration surrounds you — you just have to seek it out. Browse a sex toy shop, in person or online, for some new gadgets, accessories, videos, or books. Kinky erotica like Anne Rice’s The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty or […]

How To
Relax, Then Do It! How to Decompress for Better Sex

Good sex is no endeavor for the weary — especially, it must be said, for the women among us. Alas, the world — a frenetic, kinetic, frantic, and frenzied place — often makes you so. Your senses are bombarded daily by unpleasantries (can you say rush hour commute?), so you’ve got to take care to heal […]

How To
The 5 Worst Places to Learn About Sex…and the 5 Best!

by Sarah Marcantonio THE WORST 1. The Movies Most sex scenes in mainstream movies ain’t exactly cinéma vérité:  the male lead sweeps the girl off her feet and whisks her away to bed, clothes fall away, abs are sculpted, sweat glistens, birth control is abandoned, discussions about sexual health histories are never had, and simultaneous orgasms apparently grow […]

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Dear Em & Lo, What Books Are a Good Intro to Open Relationships?

Dear Em & Lo, I would like to find literature that I can give to my wife,  on encouraging her to pursue non-monogamous relationships, as this could be good for our relationship. We are a mature couple and I think she and we could benefit from this. Thanks kindly, Open-Minded Dear O.M., First, are you […]

Pop Culture
The Sex(ism) in Orwell’s “1984”

April 4th is the day Winston starts his diary in 1984. Like a million other book clubs across the country, mine just (re)read George Orwell’s 1949 dystopian novel, 1984. Its current publisher said sales increased by 10,000 percent after Trump’s inauguration, and it skyrocketed to #1 on Amazon’s bestseller list shortly after his counselor Kellyanne […]

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The 21 Best Transgender Books for Kids

Bad news: The so-called president of the United States just rescinded the Obama administration’s federal guidelines for schools to allow kids to use the public bathrooms that match their gender identity, arguing unconvincingly that this is a states’ rights — not a civil rights — issue. Both Obama’s roll-out and Trump’s rescinding were largely symbolic, but the former set […]

How To
10 Reasons to Become a Submissive (If Only for a Night)

  1. You want a little freedom from all your daily responsibilities. 2. You’ve been with your partner for a while and things are getting a little routine. 3. You kinda like being held down and tickled. 4. You’ve thought about downloading our incredibly affordable book, “150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink.” 5. […]

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The 12 Days of Kinkmas

You know what makes a great, fun, affordable stocking stuffer? Our book, 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink! To whet your appetite, may we present our own special sexy sacrilegious spin on a Xmas classic. Enjoy: On the 12th Day of Kinkmas my true sub gave to me…12 Crops a Cracking Disciplinary devices for horses […]

How To
A 60-Second Master Class in the Subtle Art of Non-Cheesy Dirty Talk

We recently featured some great sex tips from some of the winners of our Wildfire Contest, which asked readers to give us their best tip for lighting up their love life. The following winning entry was so good, it deserved its own dedicated post: Best tip? Easy. Read. Read to her. Read to her in bed and […]

Celebrities
“Cult” Not “Author” Is the JT LeRoy Documentary You Should Watch

Laura Albert is pretending to be someone she’s not. Again. Or maybe she’s telling the truth this time. That’s the problem when someone lies so much to so many people: when should we start believing their stories about wolves? You probably know Albert better as JT LeRoy, the abused, abandoned, HIV-positive, gender-bending, teenaged, trick-turning, literary […]

Celebrities
“1000s and 1000s of Shades of Grey” — Erotica by Donald Trump (Watch the Trailer!)

Donald Trump has his tiny little hands in a lot of different ventures, not just real estate: there’s Trump Steaks, Trump Wine, Trump University, and now, fortunately for us, Trump Erotica. Perhaps an odd choice for a presidential candidate, but when has Trump ever done the done thing? In the hopes of winning over the vast “mommy porn” […]

How To
Top 10 Tips for Erotic Spanking

Hand-to-bum contact, if you can pull it off without cracking up (heh, we said crack), is a great way to add some kinky flavor to your next sesh. It’s intimate, it’s saucy, and — when compared to, say, a whip or a flogger — it’s safe for newbies to try out. Also, one study found […]

Pop Culture
The Best Last Minute Valentine’s Day Present This Year!

Here are the top 10 reasons why our book 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink — now also available in a discreet Kindle edition! — makes the best Valentine’s Day present this year: It gives you the great excuse to try something new in the bedroom — perfect for longterm couples on Valentine’s Day. […]

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The Best, Sexiest, Most Affordable, Last-Minute Gift: 150 SHADES OF PLAY!

This is your last chance to give the MOST entertaining / romantic / kinky / informative / funny / sexy / outrageous holiday gift of the year! Our how-to companion piece to Fifty Shades of Grey titled 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink is ON SALE NOW! Here are the remaining deadlines you have to beat […]

Toys
Em & Lo’s Sexy Holiday Gift Guide: $100 Edition

This is the fourth installment of our five-part series on sexy gift giving this holiday season. We started with the affordable gifts around 10 bucks, moved onto $20 fare, followed by gifts priced around $50, give or take a ten or two. Now we’re at the $100 mark. (Stay tuned for the $150+ edition.) They’re not all sex toys, so […]