Communication
Dear Em & Lo
My Husband, a Selfish Lover, Won’t Even Try to Give Me an Orgasm

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. This time, a woman finds herself married to a selfish lover. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below.  […]

News
The Most Chilling Pro-Suicide Texts Angela Carter Sent Her Boyfriend

by Arianna Jeret for YourTango In a landmark ruling, Bristol County (Massachusetts) Juvenile Court Judge Lawrence Moniz has found 20-year-old Michelle Carter guilty of involuntary manslaughter in the death by suicide of her then-boyfriend, Conrad Roy III. Roy took his life at the young age of 18 years old via carbon monoxide poisoning while sitting in his […]

Advice
10 Fun Sexts to Send!

By Emily Ratay for YourTango Sex is supposed to be fun. The more at ease you can be with your partner (or partners) about sex, the better it is. Rather than worrying about embarrassing yourself, you can just laugh off any unsmooth moves together. Crack jokes, be lighthearted — that helps make sex a less taboo topic. Aside from actually doing the […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, What Books Are a Good Intro to Open Relationships?

Dear Em & Lo, I would like to find literature that I can give to my wife,  on encouraging her to pursue non-monogamous relationships, as this could be good for our relationship. We are a mature couple and I think she and we could benefit from this. Thanks kindly, Open-Minded Dear O.M., First, are you […]

Confessions
Confession: How the Kardashians Make Me a Better Father

by Tom Burns for YourTango This is not sponsored by Pepsi. I think Kim Kardashian has made me a better father. Now that’s an old writer’s gimmick where you say something deliberately provocative at the beginning of an article to draw people in and then you immediately walk it back with “Now let me explain…”, […]

Your Call
Your Call: What Should She Do About Her Partner’s Porn Habit?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why we regularly turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letters below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  I got married six months ago after dating for 1.5 […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, Is “Cunt” an Appropriate Word for Dirty Talk?

Dear Em & Lo, Hello there. This morning for the first time, my new boyfriend and I fucked. It was going okay until he came out with the word “cunt.”  I froze. Maybe it’s just me, but, I always blush at this word. Now, he wants me to use it when, or rather if, we […]

TV
Why the New Frank Sex Talk on “The Bachelor” Is More Helpful Than Harmful

There was a time in Bachelor history when fantasy suite sex was never mentioned outright, it was only hinted at. Those hints grew more blunt over the years: cameras were let into the bedrooms of the suites for a bit, mics were left on longer. But in honor of at least the illusion of class, […]

Confessions
How to “Open Up” to Your Wife

Enjoyment of and fascination with one’s own butthole can get a bad rap. Freud deemed it one of his psychosexual “stages,” thereby guaranteeing negative societal judgment of it for about a full century now. And if you’re a straight dude? Forget it: all the narrow-minded sexist homophobes will call you gay and girly (as if those were […]

Confessions
Top 10 Ways to Make Oral Sex More Fun for Both Partners

Our contributor Jewely Hoxie studied Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz. She has some words of wisdom to share about oral sex… Going down on someone is no easy task. And letting someone go down on you can be quite nerve-racking. Despite these potential oral sex setbacks, the experience can be, well, […]

How To
10 Absolute MUSTS for Being a Great Lover

by Judith Orloff for YourTango Want to learn how to manifest your full sexual power, even if you are out of touch with it now? First, you must learn to completely inhabit your body and the moment. If not now, when? Holding back, fixating on performance, or letting your mind chatter and drift is the […]

Personal Essays
Why You Can Be a Feminist and Still Like It Rough

Miranda Levy is a major in Women, Gender & Sexuality Studies at Elon University where she pens a sex column for its student-run lifestyle magazine, The Edge.  “Just because you like to be tied up, spanked, and called ‘bitch,’ doesn’t mean you’re a bad feminist.” — Em & Lo, “The Big Bang” The first time […]

Personal Essays
My Top 5 Romantic Goals for the New Year

Miranda Levy is a major in Women, Gender & Sexuality Studies at Elon University where she pens a sex column for its student-run lifestyle magazine, The Edge. As someone who is recently single, I’ve decided this new year is going to be full of love-life firsts. What better time to assess past relationship mistakes, question […]

How To
The 5 Keys to Heartbreak-Free Couple Fighting

By the Gottman Institute’s Kyle Benson for YourTango Your future together can be bright even if your disagreements tend to be very negative. Conflict is inevitable in every relationship. Psychologist Dan Wile says it best in his book After the Honeymoon: “When choosing a long-term partner, you will inevitably be choosing a particular set of […]

How To
The 3 (Non-Sexual) Keys to a Great (Sexual) Relationship

We recently featured some great sex tips from some of the winners of our Wildfire Contest, which asked readers to give us their best tip for lighting up their love life. The following winning entry was so good, it deserved its own dedicated post: My best advice for lighting the fire: communication, understanding, and acceptance. The man […]

Your Call
Your Call: Should You Tell Your Roommates You Can Hear Them Screwing?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  I’m staying at my friend  and her boyfriend’s […]