Friendship
How To
8 Ways Great Sex Starts WITHOUT Your Partner

If you want to start eating healthy, you know that changing your relationship to food is more effective than a crash diet. The same is true with your sex life. Concerning yourself with just the act of sex is like only counting calories. There are numerous aspects of your daily life that affect sex in […]

How To
Why You Should Be Polyamorous…With Your Best Friends

I have multiple besties and they all make up the one big best friend of my dreams. Generally, I’m a fairly easy-going person. My life has taught me it’s best to expect less of the people I love than to set my ideals so high that they cannot be met. I know that kind of […]

How To
10 Ways to Be Less Competitive with Other Women

Why are women competitive with each other? Evolutionary psychology says that it’s to protect their wombs from physical harm, while feminist psychology claims it’s because they’ve internalized the patriarchy. A writer in the Times this past weekend posited a different explanation: “We aren’t competing with other women, ultimately, but with ourselves — with how we […]

How To
6 Questions to Ask Yourself BEFORE Confessing Your Love to Your BFF

We all know how it goes. Sometimes, we want the things we can’t have. It’s hard when you think you’re fine being just friends with someone, but once they change their Facebook status to “In a relationship”, you realize you’re not as happy for them as you should be. Falling in love is sometimes messy—amazingly messy. It’s […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Can I Downgrade a Booty Call to Friend (No Benefits)?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I have been reading […]

How To
What Are the Rules for Dating Your Friend’s Exes?

As a general rule, we think it’s bad manners — not to mention bad taste — to date or sleep with a friend’s ex, a.k.a. “dating the floor model.” Why ruin a perfectly good friendship for a hook-up that, let’s face it, probably won’t last the season? The ONLY way we think it’s acceptable to […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Missing My Wife Is Not “Immature”

photo via flickr Reader Stephen wrote the following in response to our post, “Your Call – Why Is My Husband Jealous of My Female Friendships?” I struggle with this as well. I too am over the age of 50, and don’t consider it “acting like a 3 year old”. After 20 years of marriage and […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Is This a FWB Situation or Something More?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I Liked My Bi Dream, Does That Mean I’m Bi?

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I had a dream last night where my best friend (a girl, like me) […]

Personal Essays
Comment of the Week: I’m Jealous of My Wife’s Friends

Reader Jeff posted the following in response to our post, “Your Call: Why Is My Husband Jealous of My Female Friendships?” We thought it would be a great jumping off point for a debate about how to compromise in a relationship when one person wants a lot more solo time with their friends than another. How […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: My Recurring Lesbian Friend Dream

Strength and Patience by Hendrick Goltzius (1500s) Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I keep having a reoccurring dream were I […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: How Do I Go from “Friends” to More?

Get Personal Advice Publicly on EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, I’ve known this girl “Ashley” since high school band eight years ago. We instantly hit it off as friends the day we met because of our mutual liking of illegal substances. I know it’s cliche, but I’ve had a crush […]

Pop Culture
What We’re Reading: “Her” by Christa Parravani

Even if Christa Parravani wasn’t a friend of ours, we would be insisting that you check out her brand new memoir Her. It’s the heartbreaking, beautiful, compelling, and ultimately uplifting story of what happens when someone loses their identical twin. After Christa’s sister Cara was brutally raped at age 24 and a few years later […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I Kiss My Friend on the Lips – Does This Mean I’m Bi?

photo via Flickr Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I had this dream about one of my girl friends, and […]

How To
The 25 Rules of the Booty Call

Most people don’t talk about booty calls. That’s part of their appeal: “We don’t have to endlessly com-mu-ni-cate because we’re not in a serious relationship.” People rely on a tacit understanding when it comes to casual sex with their friends and neighbors, and especially their exes. But it’s silly to assume that everyone “understands” the […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Know Whether Their Male Friends Are Circumcised?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do guys ever discuss circumcision with each other? Do you tend to know whether your guy friends are circumcised or not?” To ask the guys your own question, click here.   Gay Single Guy (Justin Huang): Gross. I don’t know whether any of my […]