Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: How Do I Go from “Friends” to More?

Get Personal Advice Publicly on EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, I’ve known this girl “Ashley” since high school band eight years ago. We instantly hit it off as friends the day we met because of our mutual liking of illegal substances. I know it’s cliche, but I’ve had a crush […]

Pop Culture
What We’re Reading: “Her” by Christa Parravani

Even if Christa Parravani wasn’t a friend of ours, we would be insisting that you check out her brand new memoir Her. It’s the heartbreaking, beautiful, compelling, and ultimately uplifting story of what happens when someone loses their identical twin. After Christa’s sister Cara was brutally raped at age 24 and a few years later […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I Kiss My Friend on the Lips – Does This Mean I’m Bi?

photo via Flickr Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I had this dream about one of my girl friends, and […]

How To
The 25 Rules of the Booty Call

Most people don’t talk about booty calls. That’s part of their appeal: “We don’t have to endlessly com-mu-ni-cate because we’re not in a serious relationship.” People rely on a tacit understanding when it comes to casual sex with their friends and neighbors, and especially their exes. But it’s silly to assume that everyone “understands” the […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Know Whether Their Male Friends Are Circumcised?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do guys ever discuss circumcision with each other? Do you tend to know whether your guy friends are circumcised or not?” To ask the guys your own question, click here.   Gay Single Guy (Justin Huang): Gross. I don’t know whether any of my […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Can Straight Men and Women Be Friends?

Advice from three of EM & LO‘s guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “What’s your take on the When Harry Met Sally truism that men and women who are single and who find each other attractive can’t simply be friends?” Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): I could go on and on about the many […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Should a Woman Be Worried About Her Boyf’s Close Female Friends?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Should a woman be worried if her boyfriend has tons of very close female friends?“ To ask the guys your own question, click here. Married Straight Guy (Jake): On the contrary, I think a man with many close female friends shows that he […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: Why Do Guy Friends Keep Falling for Me?

Dear Em & Lo, How does one gracefully say “Thanks, but no thanks”? It seems to happen a lot to me: I treat the guy like a friend — meaning I don’t make innuendo (no puns please!) nor banter, etc., I just converse fercrissake! — and a few weeks (or months, or hours) later he’s […]

Dear Em & Lo
What’s the Etiquette for Joining Someone Else’s Sex Session?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below. We’re not convinced this particular inquiry […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Man Crushes Really Exist?

photo by permanently_scatterbrained Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do straight guys ever have innocent “crushes” on other guys, like girls sometimes do with other girls?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of Swish): I don’t understand straight men […]